Hello everyone. I'm somewhat new here, as I have joined TER a few months back, but this is my 1st post, so go easy on me?

Anyways, I did some research on hobbying, but I'm still in search for answers. Now perhaps the majority (Or all of them, correct me if I'm wrong) of providers said (From there websites) that services (Such as BBBJ, DATY, etc. You get the drift) will not be discuss, otherwise the session will be terminated & you won't get your refund back. If it is not entirely true, then there are some that will do such if you ask. You see, I'm not sure yet & still, I want to explore.

Thank you in advance.

(This may lead into my 2nd question in a different post.....)

Here is what you do. You get a VIP membership and read the reviews of a particular lady you are interested in. You will then learn what kind of session you can expect from her as far as the acronyms go. Then if you think her pricing is within your range you contact her the way she prefers. You can usually find that information from her website. No matter what form you contact her, just be sure to only keep with wanting to set up a date, don't mention anything about money or sex.

When you arrive for your date, don't discuss money or sex at all. Set your envelope on a nearby table or countertop and excuse yourself to wash your hands. Let things just happen naturally and go with the flow. A well reviewed provider will guide the session very well.

Good luck and have fun

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Take a deep breath.  You seem to be asking several questions at once and confusing yourself.  What are you trying to do that you are afraid will get you into trouble?  I think that you are conflating proscriptions against discussing services over the phone or e-mail before a session and mentioning money during the session.

Once you have discreetly placed the donation in plain sight, never mention it again.  By that point, you are in like Flynn.  Ladies expect clients to communicate their desires once you are alone together.

TER profiles and reviews will tell you what specific services a lady provides so there should be no need to ask but, as always, YMMV.

Not to be crass, but once you are in bed with the lady and things have progressed for a little while, it is more than acceptable to suggest for her to do something you want. If she wants an extra donation (such as for greek), then she will bring up $.

You should do your research to know what is, and is not, available. If you ask for BBBJ, and all she does is CBJ, then that will be a problem. If you have even more elaborate requests (kinky?), save those for the 2nd visit. Establish a comfort level first (1st visit), then you can freely discuss sex with her (she knows you are not LE).

good advice from all.

i would add that you would want to be naked before discussing anything specific.

payment alone doesnt clear you and most likely if you pay her and you start asking questions while still fully dressed, you're gonna get da boot.

Well, if you re4ad her reviews.. you will see what she is comfortable with.

Also, in the middle of the session... most providers will not worry about what is discussed and most will also ask you what you like...

Its before the appointment and before the fun begins that frank talk such as what you have mentioned is a "no, no."

...that balathazar had made about the VIP membership.

(But 1st of all, I'd like to once again thank everyone for their helpful/useful advice)

I have also been contemplating on joining the VIP community for quite some time. The problem is that I'm not sure how will TER bill me under as (As in "Payable to....", or something like that). I want to use a friend's credit card (He lives with a few roommates) for this because I would feel more safe without my parents finding out what I'm up to with my card (They often invade my privacy, & I can't take that risk).

It seems that you're fairly young, and if you've been reading for a while, you probably know that youth can be a roadblock in the hobby.  Additionally, you may have some difficulty with screening.

All this only makes having a VIP membership even more important.

Yea then you can write a nice little review about how diplomatic she was at pocketing your cash