Does that mean I need to visit 2 other ladies first (who don't need refs) in order to list them as refs for "Lady A?"

You may find that if you explain to lady A that you are a newbie and haven't seen anyone else yet, she may decide to see you if you get her comfortable with enough personal information about you to take a chance on you.  This is where communicating well and effectively really comes into play.

You can also see about signing up with a verification service like Room Service 2000 (RS2K)

Also, not all providers are willing to share references, so, if you do contact a provider who will see you without a reference, ask if she is willing to give references herself.  If she says no, then that may shoot down your reason for seeing her.

Thanks for the feedback, mrfisher.
I e-mailed her my name, cell # and that I didn't have any refs since I'm new.  She replied back with her open days without asking for more info yet.  Maybe she did take into consideration that I'm new.  I'll see how it progresses from here.

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We settled on a day and time.  I guess she didn't need the 2 refs after all.  Or she got enough background info on me just from my name, cell and work number?

Hey, no switching aliases in mid-thread, it can really cause confusion!!!

You can have and use as many aliases as you like, but only one per topic!

Thanks for your cooperation,

jazz32

ps - good luck on your visit and have fun!

Sorry, jazz.
I had decided I didn't like the first alias, so I created one I liked better.  Won't happen again.

No problem!  I thought as much, just something to keep in mind.