Hey fellas. Quick background on me: This is my first time ever doing anything like this. I have only ever been with one woman, my current wife, so am about as nervous as one could possibly be about doing this. Not because of risks or anything, but because Ive only been with one woman before and this is a BIG deal for me. My question to you is, can anyone recommend someone to me (FS) that you know would treat a new guy with respect and care? Money really is no object for the first meet, I just want to be as comfortable as possible and let her take the lead. No rushing, no mechanical feel, just a girl showing a first timer the best time he will ever have in his life.

Serious topic. Please dont respond if you dont intend to post something helpful.

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1. We all where first timer's.
2. Read the newbes page
3.Resheach resheach
4.Find a lady you would like to see read her reviews
5.Contact her and see if she see's newbes
6.Let her know this is ur first time.
7.Enjoy ur self
8.Let the lady take the lead
9.Before seeing her take a bath brush ur teeth and use very little after shave
10.Did I say reseach reseach

Thanks cellman and KP. I have done a tremendous amount of research, trust me. And I am indeed a TER VIP right now.

I have someone chosen that I have been talking to over the last week. Told her my situation and she said that she would take me. Only problem is communication has taken a big dive lately. I dont know if I annoyed her with all my first-timer questions or what, but Im not feeling as comfortable as I was even a few days ago. Started off great; she was very open to answering my questions and I even sent her a small donation for putting up with me and my Q's until the meet. But lately I dont know what happened, seems she ignores me most of the time...  Meeting is tentatively scheduled for this Thursday but just thought I would turn here to see if anyone had any input on first-timer-friendly providers.

Regardless, thanks for taking the time to post those pointers.

I was in your exact shoes a few months ago. I got my p411 and found a newbie friendly gal where I was going on business. She had a ton of great reviews here as well. So between the combo of the two I asked her for an appointment via p411 with no problems. I have had great success using P411 to cut through all the screening process as it provides a good independent verification system that many ladies like. Then you are just trying to get your schedules to mesh.

I would still check them out. They have alternative ways to verify you.

an email buddy but someone with a nice envelope for their time. If I were you, I would confirm your day/time about 48 hours ahead of time unless she has given you different procedures to follow.

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Gina, the site owner, will work with you on getting you verified.  She, I'm sure, has done this many times with self-employed newbies before.  You have nothing to lose by making the call.  There is probably other information she can use to verify that you are legit.  P411 is a site that lets the providers indicate if they are newbie friendly on their profiles.

As someone previously said, read the FAQ for newbies, aka 'self help center', link under the life preserver at the top of this page.   There is a wealth of info in there for everyone, esp newbies.

Swim

Amen to this. Don't take it as a rejection if the speediness of her replies goes downhill - while you may not have driven her away (unless you tripped one of the many red flags, like asking about specific services) she's only got so much time and attention span to give to guys who may be "just browsing."

Hopefully, once you commit to a date and time, her disposition will get sunnier. Or, if you just don't feel it, move on - its your nickel.

How do they use my employer information?  I don't want my employer to know what I do.

You are using an alias so I can't pm you.  But if you are in my area or where I outcall to and are over the age of 40,  I would love to spend some time with you.

feel free to contact me if you are in the areas I service (or to ask me where I service)

Contact P-411 and they will explain how they are presently operating. They are extremely discrete. After they explain their system, if you have any concerns, they will work things out with you before proceeding.

I just joined p411 about a monthago. They didn't want to talk to my boss. They wanted a number and website they could verify and then called to speak with me. They even accommodated my working graveyard to call in off hours. They just want to know you are really there as an employee.

I'm seconding this one, too... I joined P411 about six weeks ago. I put it off for days because of the work thing, but when they called it was a total non-event. It'd be different if I worked in a tiny office where everyone knew each others business, maybe, but if you call them and explain your fears I'm pretty sure they'll work with you to come up with a 'cover story' for their call that's pretty airtight.

The problem is my office isn't designed that way.  We all have direct numbers.

"addicted" to the hobby and/or she retires, you will seek #2 lady.

I was being somewhat vague on purpose. It's never a good idea to reveal the exact screening methods used by anyone. The two examples you were just given were specific to their situations at that point in time. Each situation can be different.

I still suggest you contact P-411 directly and discuss your particular situation with them not us. I feel confident they should be able to produce a way to work with you. I think they now have an online chat system that is available during their normal workday hours, as well as phone or email.

where you need to give a cash advance.  Like travel expenses or where you reserve a large block of time like a overnight or weekend.  Other than this it is CASH, when you meet.  It's a terrible irdea to advance money or loan...  more often than not, it's the last you'll hear from them.  

You need to educate yourself by reading back on this board...  learn how this works.  Do not allow yourself to be scammed...  it spoils the fun totally!  
You need a separate hobby email from some free service.  Do not link to your real email.
You need a prepaid hobby phone.  Buy with cash, refill with cash & do not register to your real address or link to your real email.
NEVER use your credit card anywhere you should not be.
Clear your GPS.
Don't leave tracks...  sloppy gets guys caught.  I've read of sloppy guys who got caught before they even had their play date!  
Do carry a sealed 3 pack of condoms...  she should have them & will very likely insist on using hers BUT having them blocks the no condom scams.  (If you don't use them, you can throw them away before leaving.)  
Don't have a provider to your home...  too much risk.  
Don't leave a provider in a hotel room you rent.  Even if you pay cash, you'll have to guarentee with a CC...  anything which goes on in "your room" links back to you.  If necessary, have her get a room & reimburse with cash.  This is only if you are her only client that day.  If an incall (more than one client that day), she pays for the room.
Do wash & shower after to remove sex scent...  many women can smell sex from a distance.

Well we are going forward with the meet. Tomorrow night at 7pm. My God I am so scared, lol... Still cant believe I am doing this...

I just recently had my first encounter and while I was as nervous as I've ever been if the provider you've chosen after all of your careful research is of quality then I'm sure she'll sense that in you and spend the beginning portion of your session trying to put you at ease. Trust me when I say it doesn't take long. lol Enjoy and good luck!!

I'm sure that spelling your name backwards will give you that needed mojo.  You might also bring a rabbit's foot to the session, lol.  --z