I don't plan on making this much of a hobby, I just want to give it a go.

At the same time, because I only want to do this once or twice, I want to do it with a beautiful, young woman who has gotten good reviews.  Of course, most of these girls require a reference of sorts, but I am not in this to build up a list of references so that I can fulfill my desire.

I am a good, clean, upstanding guy that would be more than respectful to any woman I came across.  I understand that THEY don't know this and why they would be careful like this, but I was just wondering if there were any other way to prove myself without having to go around trying women I have little interest in.

Thanks

I have. Been doing this for 5.years and don't have references. I have never found this a problem. I have not yet been turned down.

I didn't plan on making this a hobby either, thought I just wanted something different for a change.  This is a lot like smoking, if you only plan on doing it "once or twice", then you may want to reconsider doing it at all.  Just a warning.  There will always be someone coming along who is more beautiful than the last, and the list will start to grow.
Try joining date-check or p411.  They will verify you, once that is done you will find it easier.  Though some girls will still want a guy who has been with a provider before, not all do.  You probably already have someone in mind, it depends on how much you want to pursue it.

A word to the wise, and all that.

Well, your handle, the frowny face, and you posting all point to "your just not into this" in my opinion.  

Speaking for myself, if I'm sensing a hobbyist who is contacting me is scared, apprehensive, and or seems in the least bit unsure he wants to plunge into the hobby; I'm probably going to pass to avoid a potentially uncomfortable meeting, being cancelled and rescheduled due to cold fee, and/or being no showed.  

If I've got my choice of Mr Gung Ho or Mr Wishy Washy, who do you think I'm going to devote my time to?  

Cold feet is uncomfortable to the newbie and costly to the provider if they cancel.  With one exception, every provider I have been with has been very good at turning an uncomfortable situation into a great time.  I find a friendly smile, eye contact, small talk and touching really helps.

Scarlett, how do you recommend a new client act in a first meeting to make you feel comfortable?

Agencies don't verify as much as independants and easire to schedule with.

Well, nervousness is expected.  Even some of the experienced guys get nervous.  I guess my main point is don't come across as though your unsure and not really into the meeting.

I guess I would hope to see an attitude of "I'm nervous but really ready to have a good time."  Don't come across like somebody is forcing you to wash the dishes or something!  LOL  

Do it because you are totally interested in the lady and you want to spend some time with her.  Make the lady feel you are interested and into her.  

Be honest if your nervous.  That will set me at ease.  If I feel like your acting squirrly, my mind will start wandering into paranoia and then I may get scared that you are L E, or your planning to rip me off, or worse!  But if you come forth that your nervous cause it's your first time et cetera...that sets me at ease because that is expected.  I see a lot of first timers actually.

And to set the record straight from another thread, I welcome a thank you email afterwards.  I really feel flattered that someone takes the time to send me a "thank you I had a great time" email even if it just a two liner note.  

Happy hobbying!

By the time I am actually with the lady, the only thing I am unsure about is when the small talk ends and the fun begins.  It helps if she sits down next to me, so to send signals through touch.  It's awkward if she sits across the room.

I love your photos by the way... Unfortunately, I don't make it to ATL very often.

Oh yes, make it feel like a date.  
And this happens naturally if screening and/or verification is accomplished.  That way everyone is set at ease and feels more free once your behind closed doors!  Makes for a much more fun time.

Thanks Scarlett and Tally, this was really helpful for me to read.  I had my first go recently, and while I was definitely "into it" "for sure", I was reasonably nervous.  My visit was divine and I was lucky to have picked I think the right person to start with.

But, building on what you said Scarlett, I was a little mush-mouthed and I worry that perhaps I didn't express my gratitude at the end of the appointment as well as I could have.  I will definitely endeavor to change that my next time there.  Thank you!