For such a brusque request, 3 for 7 isn't a bad response rate.

Instead of writing "would you be available to attend to...", which sounds a bit like you're snapping your fingers to summon a servant, try "I would like to make an appointment for..."

If you're not including screening info, at least say that you have references, which you will gladly supply once her availability is confirmed. Be aware that she may need to screen both you and your partner.

If your location is not a hotel but a residence, that alone may explain it.

OK, this may be a fluke, or a run of circumstances, but I was wondering if there's any specific reason a provider wouldn't respond to the initial contact.

As for the reason why:  For the past month or so, I've been trying to set something up for an upcoming date.  Went through the database of reviews here at TER, found a number of providers which would fit perfectly, and proceeded to email and text them.  Of the seven I tried to contact, only three responded, and I've started to wonder if I'm doing something wrong.

The message I've been sending has really been nothing more than "would you be available to attend to a couple on [this date] for an outcall at [this location]?" with little specifics beyond that.  Is there some protocol I'm missing here?

Thank you for any response.

having sent out a few emails in my hobby lifetime, here's my advice. "would you be available" is vague. Busy highly rated providers may or may not reply. You're batting almost 50% which is actually isn't bad.

By the time I write an email, I've done my shopping.  I'm very specific in my emails.  I tell them a day I want to see them, how long I want to see them, how much time I want to spend with them, whether I want incall or outcall, and and the hours I'm available. Most importantly I give them screening info in the email.  Are you offering them your P411 or date check info? or other screening options?

If you come across as a tire kicker / time waster then you'll not get a reply. And even with all the info I give them, I still have instances where I don't get a reply. To me it's not a big deal, I just move on.
It's all part and parcel to the hobby.  Good luck!

but are you looking for a couples date? Unless she specifically says she is ok with couples that could be a problem. Even providers who regularly will show as doing doubles with their friends may not be couple friendly. Assuming you truly found ladies OK with couples then did you read the ladies website before hand and provide the information requested. If she went to the trouble of spelling out how she prefers being contacted and with what information not showing that you listened could cause problems. Lastly while not polite if she was not available at the specified date she may not answer. Your not showing in your example anything that should be objectionable you may not be saying enough to get the dialog started for some ladies. Especially if they advertise and get a lot of responses and have to try to weed out the good ones from the time wasters .

Re the couples part, you need to do your homework on TER and also go to girls' web sites to find out who's couples friendly.
Re not getting responses, it may just be the method you used isn't her preferred way.  Some gals prefer a call, others an e-mail, others a contact through P411 or Date-Check.  Some gals are just overwhelmed and/or not very businesslike.
So my advice is to be patient.  Many guys will not persist if a gal doesn't respond after a couple of tries.  I had one who never responded 3 times over a period of months.  But I loved her pix and reviews and didn't give up.  The 4th time I had a great session with her.
Good luck.

you make excellent points.

IME, escorts responses to appointments are woefully inadequate,notwithstanding the many valid reasons stated above.I don't believe a business would survive very long if it only answered the phone on, lets say, 3 of 10 calls. Size does matter here i.e., a larger business/established provider can "afford" to be picky. Anecdotally, the people I know who own businesses would not wait 2 days to call back.

It is very frustrating at times but I've determined it's the price of admission.I guess it comes down to your final point -persistence.If you want to see a certain provider knock your socks off and keep trying. I'm not willing to do that. I just move on to the next one.For me, here's too much potential for exhausting introspection/second guessing.

Thank you for all the responses.  Unfortunately, most suggestions as to why I'm not getting replies don't seem to apply.

to HiddenHills:  I didn't post my actual approach to them, but I did state date, time of day, the specific hotel, and even the fact that I'm looking to start with a massage, so I don't believe I'm coming across as vague.  And, yes, I checked that they all did massage as well...

curt:  Yeah, I thought the couples thing might be an issue.  Some providers specifically state that they will not see couples or women, and I was respectful of that.  However, many don't say one way or another and, in fact, two of the responses I got were providers happily stating that they specialize in couples, even though they don't have it listed in their ads (one regretted that she wasn't available that day).

rightonppl:  Your take I really don't understand, and here is where I might be missing something in the etiquette of the hobby.  You call my approach 'brusque', which is confusing, because in any other situation asking if someone is available is a softer approach than just stating "I want...."  This is the sort of nuance I may be missing, so I'll take note of it.  Thank you.

inicky46:  Unfortunately I had done my research, which is why some providers were emailed and some were texted.  And, as stated earlier, the ones who handle couples don't always say so in their ads/profiles.


Again, thank you all.  Guess this is more annoying since the experience is a gift for my SO and there is definitely a specific body type and attitude which is most desired and it seems that the providers closest to that match are the ones who aren't responding.   Oh well, from inicky and Hidden's responses, it sounds like what I'm experiencing is fairly usual...just that a 50% response rate makes getting into the hobby discouraging.

Considering the "hot climate" of the current location I home base in, when I get an e-mail vague in details it is "suspect". This has happened quite a bit lately. Especially e-mails checking to see "if I was in town" [right, your point is?!] or "if I could outcall on Thursday"  with no other details.   No location. (not even the city they are requesting the date in) I only set appointments through e-mails or P411, etc. They roll in 24/7. I NEVER take calls. I typically shoot a note back requesting "if you have not already done so, please review my website for all details and, at your convenience get back to me with the information requested for your appointment". If they don't get back to me no loss (and most likely a very good thing) and if it still comes back sketchy they probably aren't going to be responded to. However, some guys are just overlooking details and will come back with a prompt and thorough e-mail.

As the others have said, the more information you can provide in your e-mail the better.

Good Luck!

you aren't indiscreet about discussing sexual services. Providers can find it annoying when customers won't say what they want. What you intend as a friendlier, "softer approach" may come off as non-committal.

By "brusque", I was referring more to the lack of background about yourself and your partner, what led you to contact the particular provider, etc. Without getting long winded, you should introduce yourselves to give your request a personal touch and help put the provider a little at ease about you.

#1 share your name...give some reasons as to why you chose that lady. A really nice, introductory email for sure would get you more noticed

However, never discuss rates or services...That will for sure get you ignored.

I love it when a gentleman sends me a really nicely done email explaining more about them and what interested them in seeing me.  You can also state if you have references and that you would be glad to be screened..

All very helpful..

Maybe you should try calling them. Me being a provider i know sometimes we don't get a chance to check our messages or read or emails till the last minute calling is a more easier way to guarantee contact

You mention in your OP that you sent a text to a few of these ladies.  Anyone who sends me a text that doesn't already know me well will be ignored.  Not only do I find text messaging inadequate to transfer the amount of information needed upon a first contact to book, I clearly state on my site that I prefer to receive no text messages.  This may be the case with these ladies, and perhaps you missed the notation.  

Other times, there are very simple reasons that you may not get a response, and they may have nothing to do with your being ignored.  I've received so many emails in a day that some just got pushed down and I simply missed them, or perhaps it was sent to my spam folder which doesn't come through on my cell.  So it may not be anything personal at all - just an oversight.

It looks like your real close to the right approach. The couples thing does complicate it even with couples friendly providers. first they need to know you are aware they will screen both of you. Also most will want to talk to your SO at some point, since they want to make sure she is ok with this, they don't want a surprise drama. So I think without getting to specific you definitely need to share more info in your initial  contact. If I wasn't sure from your initial post that was what you were looking for until your second post and then the other details came out, think of how the provider you contacted could be concerned. You need to lead with the info in your second post. You are looking to engage the ladies services as a gift for your SO and you. That your SO is aware of this and is willing to also talk to the lady to provide what ever is needed to make her feel comfortable.
That being said your still getting a good response. As seen in the replies each lady is different in how best to contact and how swamped with requests they are. You should find what you want but it may take more persistence then a routine appointment.

Thank you again for all the suggestions.   For those who said don't text or don't email, I always only used the method the provider specifically requested (I would have never opened with a text otherwise).

It seems odd that I'm supposed to at once be forward about my intentions and what I'm trying to arrange without actually saying anything specific.  But I suppose that's the nature of the beast...still, it makes things awkward and I feel as if we're constantly circling around the issue at hand.

In the end, I've managed to establish a working dialogue with one provider...and, still, from the various responses above, I'm taking the response percentage as par for the course.