You can't play without showing the ladies your info. Simple as that. Get TER VIP and find a well reviewed lady. She will be very safe to give you info to or you can do something like Datecheck and get verified by a service like that. Either way you will have to give personal info. It's for the ladies safety and they will not compromise that and I for one don't blame them!

How much info you are willing to give will directly influence the caliber of ladies that you will be able to see. You are asking them to trust you. You, in turn, are gong to have to trust them.

Me too. Have not crossed that line and don't think i will. There are ladies that will "screen" you just by exchanging emails or checking out your TER profile. In my opinion i wouldn't do it. Personally  I find the threat of LE about as real as that of weapons of mass destruction.

I'm willing to provide my TER id, hobby email, hobby phone #, and real first name. That's it. I wouldn't give any more info than that to a civilian either until i really got to know her.

There is a post on another board about a provider who is blackmailing a hobbyist, showed up at his job and everything!!!

I think if you are going to be a hardcore hobbyist you will need to get verified. If you just want to dabble then you don't.

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