1. buy VIP read reviews find well reviewed provider you like
2. use search function to read this newbie board to answer other questions
3. repeat step two often

The best way to find ladies who are legit is through websites like this.  Find one that's well reviewed and works with newbies.  Joining a verification service (like date-check or room service 2000) will be helpful.  Providers create experiences for their clients and approach their work differently than if they were dating personally.  It's not so much if she's attracted to you, but rather you to her.  Follow her instructions, show up on time and freshly showered, and pay in full.  That's how you endear yourself to a provider.

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1. get a VIP membership,so you can look at the juicy details of the ladies' reviews.

2.  look at your local board, wherever that may be and see who posts there (girls)

3.  look at their profiles and see if they offer what you are looking for

4.  avoid those with only 1-3 reviews, look for those with many more than that

5. look at the reviewers, see how many reviews they have, they are the more experienced hobbyists, they know the girls

6.  stay away from Craigslist

7.  if they have no reviews, stay away

8.  PM me if you need more info, refer to point number 1

Swim

Good luck.  I will be happy to offer more help in PM.

Read the Newbies Manual that's at the top this board.

I found it very helpful.

Providers usually have detailed web sites with instrcutions about what to do and what not to do when you are with them. These vary slightly from lady to lady but there are some conventions. Once you have decided on a woman, read her web site carefully and follow her directions and you will not go far wrong.

Don't discuss anything explicit, especially via email or on the phone before you meet the lady. Obviously, it's illegal to sell sex and a common newbie mistake is to send a "will you do x, y and z?" email, which reputable ladies will most likely delete immediately. Once the appointment gets underway, good providers are very adept at understanding their clients' needs and wants.

From a provider's perspective, I appreciate the fact that you are taking the time to learn the protocol. This in itself probably means that you are going to be a good client and most established ladies will appreciate that and want to reciprocate by ensuring that you enjoy yourself.

Other than that, just enjoy yourself and treat it like a normal date. A nice bottle of wine and some good conversation will most likely get the experience off to a great start.

The terminology you'll see over & over is "see only well reviewed providers".  This means a lady with multiple reviews but reviewers with multiple reviews themselves (so they're credible).  
There is so much good advise to learn here.  Look for:
2 call system
hobby phone
secure (separate) email from your main account
where to call from (second call)
what to say/not to say
how to transfer your donation $$

You need to become basically educated, so you'll understand what is being discussed & how to act.
skb

thanks to all of you for the sound advice i think i am readdy for this now