: Newbie - FAQ Discussion : Re: Make sure you meet an independent lady

djay1986 30 Reviews 1431 reads

posted 8 years ago

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What are the signs a provider might have a "boyfriend"

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When I give a provider a gift I want to make sure it's hers.

GaGambler 296 reads

posted 8 years ago

2 / 13

Ask her what kind of wine she likes

If she answers "Let me check with my BF" you have a pretty good idea. lol

Truth be told, there really is no way to know. Sometimes providers will "invent" a BF where there is not one to keep her clingier clients at arms length. Other times a provider will pretend her BF doesn't exist to keep the GFE fantasy alive.

In short, there really is no way to know for sure, I suppose the best answer to your question is to buy gifts that only she would get any use out of.

Lastly, don't buy cheap wine, I hate it when my GF ends up with a dozen bottles of undrinkable wine stacked up that neither of us will drink. lol

NaughtyMaddy See my TER Reviews 177 reads

posted 8 years ago

3 / 13

How about you

just ask her? I can't really think of any gifts you may give that he would want even if she did have a boyfriend. Ask for a wishlist.

keystonekid 114 Reviews 256 reads

posted 8 years ago

4 / 13

None of our business whether she has a BF, SO, or neither. This isn't match.com. eom

END OF MESSAGE

djay1986 30 Reviews 282 reads

posted 8 years ago

5 / 13

I don't think you got my question. ..

By boyfriend I mean pimp. By gift I mean the donation.

SketchySituation 262 reads

posted 8 years ago

6 / 13

Wierded out

I actually agree with GaGa. I ran into a BF problem once. I went to see this lady once. Arrived. Texted. Waited 30 minutes. Got the green light. Went up. Long story short, her BF and her just had an argument. He wanted her to stop doing this. After the session, she told me that he was in the parking lot in his car. Talk about weird. I didn't see anyone for months afterwards because I was freaked out.

NoGreenBorderedEnvelope 227 reads

posted 8 years ago

7 / 13

When she introduces you to him...

... and you shake hands and make small talk. Maybe avoid talking about how she just blew your mind... and other things.

I've met my ATF's SO several times. Cool guy. I haven't met the boyfriends/girlfriends/SOs for any other providers but some have mentioned to me they're in a relationship. It's none of my business. I never ask providers about it, but some volunteer it.

Funny you mentioned that you want to make sure the gift you give a provider is hers. I used to give my ATF gift certificates for our fav massage therapist, until I found out from said therapist that my ATF hadn't been in for a long time... but her SO comes in a lot. I asked my ATF about it and she said she doesn't have time for massages and besides gets them from some of her clients (like me), so she gave the certificates to her SO. So no more massage certificates for her!

TurbayVeronica See my TER Reviews 199 reads

posted 8 years ago

8 / 13

Make sure you meet an independent lady

you can tell by their twitter feed, their instagram, their ads, how she advertise, etc.

Many times their "boyfriend" don't have the time nor care about updating social media stuff. Just saying...

Posted By: djay1986

By boyfriend I mean pimp. By gift I mean the donation.

SketchySituation 249 reads

posted 8 years ago

9 / 13

Seemed possessive

I had zero desire to meet the guy. She did openly discuss their relationship, something that was a bit of a turn off. She was an independent and was not working for an agency. Her boyfriend served in the Marines. I am also retired military, but I didn't do the full 20 years. She receives government benefits while she flies under the radar. She is actually in the TER 100 for DC. I am not going to provide any more details.

djay1986 30 Reviews 288 reads

posted 8 years ago

10 / 13

Re: Make sure you meet an independent lady

Thanks. What if I accidentally meet a girl in that situation? Is there something I can tell by her personality, looks, performance?

perfectstorm 19 Reviews 183 reads

posted 8 years ago

11 / 13

There is never a guaranteed way of knowing

No you can not tell if a girl is pimped by her looks, performance or personality. Veronica's advice is good. Also if you stay away from streetwalkers and the really lower end gals on BP and sites like that, you increase your odds of seeing a true independent non pimped girls. However, nothing is foolproof. There are streetwalkers and low end BP gals who are totally independent, and there are high end 1000/hr escorts who are pimped.

mrfisher 112 Reviews 177 reads

posted 8 years ago

12 / 13

That's quite a different situation...

I was going to say that if you find a knife or bullets in your chest, that could indicate a boyfriend nearby.

But in this case, while it's not 100% the case, if you see an independent, especially someone that hangs around TER a lot, that should pretty much preclude any pimp type situations.

SketchySituation 206 reads

posted 8 years ago

13 / 13

Re: Seemed possessive

The girl that I met wasn't pimped out. It was the opposite. Her boyfriend found out that she was doing this behind his back and was pissed off. He wasn't her pimp. Weird situation.