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Did I Have a Good Time On My First Date?
BillyDuck 4 Reviews 2263 reads
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I had a date with my first provider yesterday! Did I have a good time?  I need you guys to help me figure it out, because I'm not sure.  I studied her ad and reviews, called her, and we agreed on a time to meet at her incall for a one hour appointment. Her fee was at the lower end of the scale for around here, and I arrived at the appointed time.

When I called her to get the room number, she told me that she had just gotten there, and she needs a few minutes to get ready. She tells me to call back in fifteen, so, I go for a walk...

After the delay, she tells me the location, and I enter, place the donation on the table, take off for the bathroom. She tells me to leave my clothes and join her on the bed. All the while we are chit chatting, and clicking together OK.

Some ten or fifteen minutes later, the girl is still talking non-stop. I am wondering how to shut her up without offending her so we can get down to business. She is massaging me all the while. I start to kiss her neck and play with her, she takes off her gown, and we begin .I wasn't going to partake in DATY because of the possible dangers there.  I considered taking some Saran Wrap along, but did not-- next time I will.  In the heat of the moment, though, I found myself down there giving her just the tip of my tongue. She is obviously enjoying the action.  I play with her feet and toes. She starts to give me head after putting a condom on me, and it feels pretty good. Next thing I know she has swung her leg over my chest and is pushing onto my mouth while giving head voraciously.

Before the date, I imagined kissing her but that has not happened. I wanted FS too.  I don't know how to get her to stop the head, and start the FS. We are grinding away when she starts to come really hard. (I don't  think she's faking, judging from her body's reactions...)  I too am starting to come, so I tell her to “Slow Down!”. She does, but  it's too late!

No problem. I am sure I can still go once or twice more.. There is still more than fifteen minutes of  our hour remaining on the clock. I am trying to think of how to initiate this, when she says, “Sorry to be in a hurry, but I have something I have to do.” Since I don't want to make a scene, I start getting dressed while she talks on the phone. I finish dressing, a bit more chit chat, and she hugs me goodbye. We part on a friendly basis. As I am leaving, I notice that the time is exactly what it would have been. She has not extended our session for the fifteen minutes she stalled at the beginning.

I had a good time as far as it went, but I don't think I got my money's worth. I didn't get kissed or have FS, and the time was definitely shorted. A 'one and done' type date is not what I wanted, since I still had one or two more in me.

When I read these lady's reviews they seemed good, but I was going without VIP, so  maybe I missed something. I am going to get VIP now, but if the juicy details say other people got what I missed, I may feel worse! I am torn between wanting to run out and try again right away, and giving up on the whole escorts idea!  I need your help figuring out how things went wrong, and in knowing what exactly to do differently so I can have a better experience next time. Thanks.

And I can see why,  so a few thoughts.  Yes, you should get VIP because without it you can't see how people graded her and how the sessions went.  Not sure, but without VIP you probably can't read the part above the Juicy details  that reports whether she delivers full, unrushed sessions.  So buy VIP and check that.  For the money you spent on her you could have gotten VIP for a year, I'll bet.
Having said that, it's tough to control a session when a provider wants to chat too much or doesn't listen when you say "slow down."  But the good ones won't do that.  Perhaps you tried to spend too little.  You do get what you pay for in this hobby.  Better luck next time.  Get VIP and don't give up.

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but to confirm...  She did give service...   but not as you desired.  She shorted you time and then rushed you out.   This is not the best service...   Research hopefully get you the services you want & the time you bargain for.   You don't necessarily need VIP continously but certainly while you collect a bucket list.  
I think most newbies have a less than stellar experience somewhere in the first few.  This was not a total disaster.  You'll learn from it.
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It's called not having a "no-rush" session.  It's why I refuse to do business with Wisconsin girls, they used to all be like that.  You pop, they run (or kick you out.)  I "HEAR" they are different now, but I'd rather just pay someone from where I live to ride in the car with me if I have to go to Wisconsin.  I LOVE talking to the women.

Another thing, if you don't want to feel like some "John" then engaging her mind may not be a totally bad thing!  I generally book longer dates than an hour.  It allows us time to chat a bit, it sends the clear message that I expect my entire time (or I hope it sends that message) but more, if you get to know these girls as more than a side of beef on a meat rack, you can find out some really neat things!  Things to do in town, other girls you might like, what they enjoy (hardest to get out of them) etc.  It's not like they come with an instruction manual, and i doubt they have a push-button start engine, at least, I've yet to find it.  

Lastly, CONFIRM with them when you make the appointment what you are looking for!  Mutliple Cup/Pop session, Full no rush session, any of the acronyms found on Urban Dictionary or here, etc.  Or, just get VIP and look at her page here.

Hey, Relax,

Looks like you got a decent first encounter if not a great one. We all learn from mistakes. First mistake is not to have VIP. Also she might have taken some advantage of you because you were a newbie. My first exp as a newbie was miserable even though I had done tons of research, had VIP, and chosen a gal with great reviews. I boil it down to having been taken advantage of because I was a newbie, though your first exp was far greater than mine. Having said that, there are sometimes even gals with great reviews have a bad day and it is unfortunate that you walked in on their bad day( Have you ever given 100% at your work on all days?). So you might not get the best experience all the times ( YMMV: your mileage may vary), but you will discover that with careful research, most encounters will be pretty close to what you expect and a few that will far exceed your expectations because you and the provider happened to click.

One thing though, do write an honest review of your experience and happy hobbying for the future.

juicy details in her reviews.  I'm thinking she treats most of her clients this way.

Spend the $ to get VIP, well worth preventing 1 crappy date.  You might want to move up your selection criteria as well.  In a lot of cases, you get what you pay for and you admitted to chasing the bottom feeders.

Some escorts wait for you to ask them to stop talking and start kissing, stop sucking and start fucking, etc. The agreement should be that it's your choice how you spend the time together (within her boundaries, of course), so there's nothing wrong with speaking up. In fact some escorts find it annoying when a customer doesn't say what he wants. It sounds like this one wasn't dealing straight with you anyway, so it might not have helped matters.

...talked for the first 15 minutes, that time is not added on at the end.  It is up to you to move it along; some guys like to talk also so the provider obliges them.  OTOH, some providers like to do as little as possible, and if they can just talk rather than giving you 2 cups, they will try to get away with it.  Maybe she took advantage of you as a newbie or maybe she thought you wanted to talk. We don't know.

If you had been able to read her full reviews you might have gotten an indication as to how her appointments generally move along.  I wouldn't say you got ripped-off but you definitely got stalled and cheated out of full service.
You are going to have to be more assertive when it comes to moving things along during the appointment especially if you are looking for multiple pops. Again, you really want to be able to read full reviews.

It could've gone a lot worse. You need to take control of the date. If you're not that type than you neeed to find ladies who will. That can only be done by reading the juicy details. I once saw a provider who when we met said "it's all about you babe"  Holy Crap is all I could think. That's the type of provider you want to see.

You need to ask for what you want. Great providers understand this concept. If you're receiving a bbbj, and about to erupt and dont' want to, tell her to stop.  If you're ready to fuck, tell her "you're ready to fuck"  Want to change positions while fucking, tell her. These ladies are not mind readers. Just remember always to be a gentleman and respectful.  

After a few dates, you should get the swing of this. One final thing, you're date normally starts the minute the provider opens the door if you're on time.   You need to look for the phrase "not a clock watcher"  Most hobbyist will mention this and if they felt rushed or shorted on time they will mention this in the review, Now go find a great provider and have great time.  Good luck

Posted By: hiddenhills
It could've gone a lot worse. You need to take control of the date. If you're not that type than you neeed to find ladies who will. That can only be done by reading the juicy details. I once saw a provider who when we met said "it's all about you babe"  Holy Crap is all I could think. That's the type of provider you want to see.

You need to ask for what you want. Great providers understand this concept. If you're receiving a bbbj, and about to erupt and dont' want to, tell her to stop.  If you're ready to fuck, tell her "you're ready to fuck"  Want to change positions while fucking, tell her. These ladies are not mind readers. Just remember always to be a gentleman and respectful.  

After a few dates, you should get the swing of this. One final thing, you're date normally starts the minute the provider opens the door if you're on time.   You need to look for the phrase "not a clock watcher"  Most hobbyist will mention this and if they felt rushed or shorted on time they will mention this in the review, Now go find a great provider and have great time.  Good luck  

Well stated!! I love newbies, but some are just shy, or haven't read any reviews, & I've heard from sooo many how they've been taken advantage of... the not reviewed or lower reviewed girls WILL take advantage of a newbie, so do your research, & you should be OK next time. Someone else had stated to mention exactly what you're looking for in the e-mail after you've been screened.... DON'T... this may result in you never hearing back from her again. Even if a guy has been screened, & has an appointment set, questions about services is a no-no... that's why she has reviews, read them.... if she doesn't, stay away until she does.

that lady didn't give you all that you wanted doesn't mean others won't. It's like learning to swim: it takes a few tries to "get it right" and then as you get better, you're willing to put in a lot of practice to make it to the Olympics.

So don't give up yet.

No provider is going to do FS the entire 1hr. 15min is a little long to talk(but I doubt she was stalling)I don't think any provider is going to maul you the second you step in the room...I like to talk innocently at first then get a little more intimate in talks(what he likes etc.)but I don't think it ever tops over 10min. Likewise I never rush and always offer a second round. Even if there's 10min left, I really don't clock watch anyhow as I don't schedule any clients back-to-back.

Most providers on the lower scale will do the "one and done". However I think she was rude. I would never say "there's somewhere I have to be" to a new client NOR would I talk on the cell phone. You however were very curtious to her and I applaud you for not making a scene! :)

And FYI saran Wrap will kill the mood. If a guy whipped out a package or saran wrap I'd just skip DATY.
Unless she has open sores, or you have open sores in your mouth STDs are very very unlikely to be transmitted this way. If you are uncomfortable with DATY without your saran wrap then simply tell her "I'd rather not" and skip it. Lately I've seen a few guys who want to skip it and it is no big deal.

Take this experience as a lesson learned and move on. You had a decent experience compared to others I've heard/read about! I recommend(as always) seeing a well reviewed providers and staying away from the lowball ladies if you want MSOG.(also check her reviews to see if she offers MSOG)

The things you said helped me put things into perspective.
Thanks.

Billy

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