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Re: It may put off a few people, but that should not be the main factor in deciding...
ToniAbella 216 reads
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I completely agree about being upfront about my arm, I have absolutely no intention of hiding it as that would be unfair and misleading to the person I'm meeting.

ToniAbella3169 reads

Hi! So a little back story on me... I am missing part of my left arm, from the elbow down due to a birth defect but other than that I am completely normal. I have done some work previously camming, a few meetups but I've never really perused it seriously. I did well camming and the few people I've met with really enjoyed me and in my personal life I've never had any issues dating/hooking up. My concern though is that I won't be able to pull in clientele once they know about my arm... I've looked through several sites and most/all of the girls are flawless.

This is something I've always wanted to do but I'd like to know that I have a chance of succeeding before I start to fully invest.

Any thoughts are more than welcome :)

Oh, and I'm located in Texas.... not sure if that matters

GaGambler231 reads

If you are a girl that I would find attractive with two complete arms, I am pretty sure I will/would find you attractive with part of one of your arms missing.  

 
I am admittedly a shallow pig, and If you don't have a pretty face and a shapely body I won't find you attractive, but assuming you are an attractive girl, I woudn't let something like you missing part of your left arm stop me from seeing you, Now if it were your right arm that was missing, THAT would be a deal breaker. lol  

 
Please feel free to link your ad or website to your next post and give us a good look at you:)

Thank you so much for your input! That definitely helps me feel better about my situation!

sensuous body, then the rest doesn't matter. My advice is to  be upfront in your ads and on your website.  

As has been said elsewhere, each provider is not for every hobbyist. Some hobbyists don't like young (18-21 yo) providers, some don't like BBW providers, some don't like lots of tats, etc.

As long as you offer excellent service for a fair price, based on your market, then you will do fine.  

Good luck to you.  

whether or not you want to pursue this career.

As long as you are still reasonably attractive, perform admirably, and are priced competitively, you should do just fine.

 
We don't see too many gals with physical defects (mental defects is another story 8o), but I recall seeing a wonderful provider from the Florida area whose fingers were all fused together on one hand.  It made not a bit of difference in our time together.

One note:   You should make mention of this defect in your advertising lest you find clients turn around on you when you meet.   That will benefit no one.

I forget her name.  She uses a wheelchair most of the time but she handle short distances (chair to bed, etc.). If anyone remembers her name, you can look up her reviews to see how things tend to go.

Could it be the legendary one legged Provider from Brockton Ma? Apparently she was extraordinarily gifted orally.

I completely agree about being upfront about my arm, I have absolutely no intention of hiding it as that would be unfair and misleading to the person I'm meeting.

Kinda reminds me on that one scene in Titanic where Jack talks about seeing a one legged hooker.  

 
Alas I'm nowhere near Texas, but otherwise I'd have no issue with meeting you.

It wouldn't bother me.  And I'm guessing there are people out there that have a fetish.  The Berry in St. Petersburg advertises she is disabled.  Haven't met her so I don't know what her situation is.

There are a multitude of reasons why a client wouldn't choose a particular provider -- too young, too old, too tall, too short, too much ink, not enough ink...you see where I'm going with this, right?

You may have a niche market attraction that is underserved -- own it!

Post those photos, be upfront about your situation and be prepared to talk some nervous clients through the process and what you can/can't do (there may be some fetish crossover attraction, so be aware of that and whether you are cool with that aspect).

Then anyone who has an appointment with you will be informed, you can both relax and enjoy your time together.

We're all "flawed" some way or another.  

I know a wonderful provider who for some time had a cast on one arm.  She did just fine.  We simply didn't do things that would require both of her arms.  That only left about a million other possibilities.  :)

For me, and many others have said the same thing in these boards, appearance is only part of the equation when seeking a provider.  Personality, attitude, sense if humor etc are important too.

Yes, definately.  If you are attractive & give good service at a competitve price, I see no reason why not.  Not veryone is perfect.   I don't quite know how you bring up the topic...  if you show it, it might make it easy to ID you when this is a business of discretion.  

Is flawless. What makes a provider stand out from the rest is her attitude and demeanor.  There isn't one type of girl in this world so don't assume that people only want one mold. There are many different type of providers.  The best ones make what they have work. I say use it to your advantage,you have something unique about you...go from there.  

Good luck!

Maddy

First, I ageee100% with Maddy’s comments and observations. At the risk Of being redundant with other posts,  NO ONE is flawless! I would have absolutely no issue with spending time with you. The best of luck to you.

HappyChanges210 reads

are photoshopped. Please don't photo shop your arm. I've never thought about it but I wouldn't care if a girl had one arm as long as she is somewhat cute.  

As a side note, a buddy of mine has half an arm with a nub and one little finger. He cracks us up when he tells stories of girls he fingered with his little finger.

she had a good sense of humor about it and I told her to throw that prosthetic in the floor and get in the hot tub!  I just to joke that fucked her nub and it didn't bother her one bit.

Thank you to everyone!! I've decided to go ahead and take the plunge! I think I'll add it in my description but keep my arm out of photos simply because it is a very recognizable trait and I'd like some discretion

A lot of guys are not looking for Perfect Plastic girls, and in fact with all the silicone perfection visible in porn, girl next door, natural, unshaven etc can be sought after aspects of being "real", and certainly a discrete imperfection on an otherwise pretty girl would serve the same thing.  I bet you'd find LOTS of guys into  you, I would be actually.

Oh! Like I said in my post, I've never had any issues in real life finding men! In fact most people don't realize I'm missing my arm until well after they've met me. I also did well camming.. I know I'm attractive, I've been told a million times that I have a great body and I'm always praised for my bedroom skills My concern was that I wasn't sure if men, who are browsing lots of different women, would consider spending their well earned money on me. After reading the replies to this post I do feel much better about my situation and I've decided to jump in the game! I still have a few loose ends to tie  up but I'm looking at going live in March :)  

thank you again for your input, I really wasn't sure to to expect when I posted this and everyone has been very realistic and welcoming  

Kisses!!

Performance is more important to many guys than is appearance. As mentioned by many above, guys almost always have a minimum requirement for facial appearance and body type but there are also some guys that have outlying tastes. I believe many if not most guys would look right past your lack of a "normal" arm. Personally, while 10/10 is my ideal (as is the case for most), I'd very much rather spend time with a 6/10 (looks/performance) than a 10/6.  Also, there is a lot more involved in excellent performance than the stuff you are willing to do. Lastly, If you are in a large enough market I suspect you can even find multiple clientele that will eventually seek you out for your "specialty" appearance. Good fortunes to you.  

Tippecanoe247 reads

I would spend my money on you if you were beautiful/ pretty and had positive reviews. It would actually fulfill a fantasy of mine. There was a woman I knew who was stunning. Beautiful blue eyes, black hair, you know the look. I was hoping you might actually be her! Left arm from the elbow down, missing due to birth defect.

As others have said before, the arm isn't an issue as long as you're truthful about it. Men like different women, just look at the variety of women posting. Most importantly, I wouldn't 'discount' your rate based on your arm. In fact, you might even be able to get away with charging a premium, market it as a specialty. As a hobby, I do some sales, and if you price too low, people often wonder why is it so cheap? Then they walk past not realizing the killer deal they are getting. I've charged a lot more for average product (not suggesting you're average), and people pay. Weird.

Bottom line, if you're pretty you'll have clients. If you get a good reputation, you'll do well. Your situation wouldn't stop me from seeing you. Wish you were in the DMV.

souls_harbor166 reads

It reminds me of an old dirty joke.

A gal visits a doctor for a lady problem and when she returns home tells her boyfriend that the doctor said to lay off sex for a few weeks.  The boyfriend replied, "What does your dentist say?"

There's lots of ways to have sex.  

EJMaster5578149 reads

You can’t regret anything you don’t try. Honestly, the part of a girl that attracts me the most is her smile. If you have that and are in decent shape I don’t think you have anything to worry about. Missing part of your arm certainly wouldn’t matter to me. If anything, it would make me more likely to book an appointment. Best of luck!

but other times, they get in the way.  You might find a unique adaptation that can become a trade mark ofsorts.

I just wanted to say thank you again to everyone for giving me the confidence to persure being a provider. I took the advice I was given and slightly tweaked it. I decided to add a line in my ad about my arm and I do have pictures that were taken with it noth showing and not showing. Once the client has been screened I'll allow them access to those pictures, I hope that's fair!

(Maybe it's my connection using TOR, but) Your pics are loading very slowly while others' pictures are loading much faster. It could be that your pics are very high resolution (hence, larger data files taking longer to load) or maybe your image hosting site (imgur?) is throttling (slowing down) free accounts that are using more than their allotted bandwidth.
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Consider editing your pics (Save As ... lower resolution) or upgrading from a free account and pay for extra bandwidth.  You don't need to rush out to make such changes. Wait for more feedback and see how things go.  
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Good luck!

Interesting! I'm not using a free hosting service and my website has already been upgraded. I didn't have any issues loading it on my phone or laptop.... thanks for the feedback though !

Your website loads fine for me. It's not super fast, but about what I'd expect from a Wix page. Wix is usually a little slower than their competitors, a price you pay for how easy it is to build.  

You can use a service like jpegmini (http://www.jpegmini.com/app) to minifi your pictures without losing quality. That way there is less data transfer from Wix to your customers, which is always faster.

HappyChanges206 reads

photos, new handle and board presence. No arm aside, I would book you. Unfortunately, I'm not in your area. I'm sure you will have/do have many clients. If you tour to NYC I'd consider booking you. Best of luck.

Black-Panther210 reads

Do you do outcall to private residence? I'm near the Galleria.

Outcall! I'm in the Galleria! Contact info is on my site !

StanleyKowalski177 reads

As others have noted nobody is perfect.  As long as you are honest and can develop a connection (through a charming and/or witty personality) I would definitely see you.  You are unique and special.

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