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Re: Is there always some tension /anxiety when seeing a Provider, even if its a repeat?
jimjohn1399 1038 reads
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I was very nervous on my first encounter (just last week)I have another date set up with the same provider in several weeks, and I do not expect to be nervous at all this time. My anxiety centered around LE, not her, who I had researched pretty well. I had a really good feeling about her after reading reviews, talking to her a little on the phone, emails etc. I plan to keep seeing her, one because I liked her and two, just seems safer to stick to one great provider. I know many who view this as a hobby would disagree, but that is best for me.

AsianPlaya2541 reads

Do you guys always feel some anxiety when seeing a provider, even if you've seen her before?
The reason I ask is that some providers are staying in a mid-class area you're not familiar with. Not all providers choose an upscale hotel.
I must admit the gun-totting hobbyist is an extreme situation, but just wondering about anxiety that is felt by some when seeing a provider. If so, share please.

If I'm seeing an escort for the second time, there is little anxiety, especially if it's at the same incall. If I'm seeing an escort for the first time, my guard is up, more than my anxiety. If I'm going to a private residence, which is NOT my favorite place for an incall, I try to park and get in the house asap. I really prefer incalls at busy upscal hotels or large condo complexs, so you just blend in.

I'm usually pretty nervous on the first meeting since even with reviews you never quite know what to expect but it's more about whether the lady is going be as good as I'm hoping rather than safety. I'm very cognizant about safety but I'm lucky in that in my area I've been able to see several great providers in upscale resorts or residences.

On repeats, I'm still nervous but that's just normal for me when seeing a beautiful lady. Nervous with anticipation is probably with the best way to put it.

Hotels are a big risk.  Some friends and I have gathered up a number of best practices ideas that can make everyone less anxious.  To name a few:
1.  Providers, if you already know the guy, don't make him knock.  Have the door ajar.
2.  Avoid card key controlled elevator hotels.  Find a way to meet at the restaurant if you have to deal with those menaces.
3.  Housekeeping is a major liability.   Guys, use one towel only.  The provider may have to ask for more if you don't.
4.  Guys, if you bring a gift put it in your briefcase or a gym bag.  A big boquet is a nice touch but a possible bust.
5.  Providers, if at all possible keep the traffic down.  Guys, if finances allow book longer sessions.  
Asian, to answer your specific question I prefer mid-class or business hotels.  They are less attuned to the provider/client profile

Don't forget to add:

* call for the room number outside of the hotel and not in the lobby

* wait until in the room to say hello and say your goodvyes inside the room.  Saying "hello Sinful" in the hall is not appropriate.  Saying thank you I had a good time in the hall is also not good.

Yes. I have an extremely nervous disposition though, especially with women. If I didn't, I probably wouldn't feel the need to do this. I know it's ridiculous but I still can't help it.

I can only speak for myself...But after I got the first one under my belt...I feel very comfortable with any lady I meet...I'm easy to talk to, and I can engage in any conversation...I go into it like I'm seeing a friend...Try that appraoch and everything will be chill.

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shudaknownbetter1148 reads

I was very nervious on my very first meeting...  I thik I am on still some on First Meetings.  It gets less with experience.
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johnhuntback1155 reads

for the first time. Each time I see her after that, the sphincter loosens up a little more.

jimjohn13991039 reads

I was very nervous on my first encounter (just last week)I have another date set up with the same provider in several weeks, and I do not expect to be nervous at all this time. My anxiety centered around LE, not her, who I had researched pretty well. I had a really good feeling about her after reading reviews, talking to her a little on the phone, emails etc. I plan to keep seeing her, one because I liked her and two, just seems safer to stick to one great provider. I know many who view this as a hobby would disagree, but that is best for me.

I was extremely nervous when I saw my first lady, and I stayed that way throughout the date.

When I visited my second lady, I was nervous until I got into the room with her; then everything was great.

Repeat visits now generate slight nervousness, which disappears once I get into the room.

I normally visit ladies in condominiums, although I have been to hotels a few times.  The first time going to a condo is a bit nerve wracking due to worries about finding the location, getting there through traffic on time and dealing with security doors or gates.  My cell phone lost its signal once inside the building and I got lost.  The next time my cell phone battery went dead just as I was attempting to call to enter the building and I had to use a backup phone.

Getting there and getting inside cause most or all of my anxiety.  Once I get inside the room, it is pure heaven.

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