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DocJuan24 1 Reviews 455 reads
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True. But I felt overall the experience went well. She didn't indicate anything to me contrary to that which I figured would have have happened following up. If anything it was me who might have made things slighhhhtly awkward but I realize it was mostly because it was my first time and I was over anxious about some things. Overall it was a great learning experience. :) To me a bad experience would constitute me being a complete dick. Or bartering, begging, crap like that?  

I'm more or less looking for her to reassure other women that I'm not a "douche." And I'm not a "cop." I'll be the first to admit when applying I'm not overly experienced and quite timid! :) But that eventually melts away the more I get comfortable around someone. Embrace your flaws because they are what make you unique as well as your strengths IMO!

Overall some good discussion and advice which I must thank you all for!

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swimtrekr687 reads

you should offer to write a nice review in return.  Some gals might not give you the referral w/o the review.  I think, in most cases, you will have to ask her to do that anyway.

Swim

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Tabu479 reads

that I wish more fellows would follow. I can't tell you how many gents I've seen, and given repeated references for, who have NEVER offered to write me a review.

I would love to have even half of my current friends to do me the courtesy of a write-up-- but as you can see from my review history, it rarely happens.

Keep on suggesting it to the newbies-- maybe they will turn the tide for some of us "well-reviewed but not recently" ladies!

Thanks, darling

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DJ1985516 reads

A whitelist or an OK should not be a quid pro quo for a nice review. To me that advice suggests offering an inflated review to buy a WL or Ok, they should only be given when a guy deserves them not just because she could get a favorable review out of it.

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SolaLove477 reads

If a gent is asking for a referral, I would assume the session went well... no need or suggestion of inflating a review is in there if the gent offers to write a review at the same time.  Why would anyone ask a sub-par session experience provider to be a reference?

Yes reviews benefit the ladies, showing consistent history over time.  And writing a reviews also benefits the gent in several ways - it makes it easier for the lady being the reference to recall meeting the fellow down the road, thus she can more easily provide a reference; it establishes a history for the gent which is useful when trying to book other ladies; and it can tell those other ladies a little about his personality and preferences so they can make better decisions on if it is a good fit.  

Quid pro quo?
Maybe.  
Or perhaps the respect of - if you share a good word about me, I'm happy to do the same for you.
However there is nothing to imply or suggest a review should ever be inflated.

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DocJuan24456 reads

True. But I felt overall the experience went well. She didn't indicate anything to me contrary to that which I figured would have have happened following up. If anything it was me who might have made things slighhhhtly awkward but I realize it was mostly because it was my first time and I was over anxious about some things. Overall it was a great learning experience. :) To me a bad experience would constitute me being a complete dick. Or bartering, begging, crap like that?  

I'm more or less looking for her to reassure other women that I'm not a "douche." And I'm not a "cop." I'll be the first to admit when applying I'm not overly experienced and quite timid! :) But that eventually melts away the more I get comfortable around someone. Embrace your flaws because they are what make you unique as well as your strengths IMO!

Overall some good discussion and advice which I must thank you all for!

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swimtrekr412 reads

It was not the intent of my post to mean that.  And I certainly did not suggest writing an inflated review, just an honest one.  I know many guys do not write reviews, but I have yet to meet a provider that didn't appreciate a nice review.  The provider is under no obligation to give a WL ref regardless of whether or not the guy writes a review.  I just think it's a nice gesture on the part of the client to do the review, esp if she is giving him the ref, and he had a good time with  her.

Swim

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DJ1985441 reads

I know what you meant and agree that a nice review is often appreciated. When you wrote "you should offer to write a nice review in return" it sounds like, if you give me a WL I'll give you a nice review but if you don't then no review. I think they should both be given of free will not one because of the other. She is free to ask and so is he but the WL shouldn't come because of the review and the review shouldn't come because of the WL. Like I said I know what you meant, but that's what I read, when I read your post.

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BeautywithBrains1045 reads

...friends, either through my thank you e-mail, or when we are regrouping after our date, that "while I truly have enjoyed our time together, and would love to see you in the future, should you wish to visit with another lady, please know that you may list me as a reference".

Hugs and Kisses,
Kelly

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SolaLove383 reads

He may want something other than a direct referral lady to lady, and these usually require submission/requests.

I also let gents know that I would be happy to be a reference, and do ask the gents to ask me in advance if they are using me as a reference.  This way if I need more info to recall who they are, or it has been three years,  there is not as much back and forth or I can tell him to use a more recent reference.  Most importantly, it makes it easy for me to know that it is an authorized request for information to be shared about my gentleman friend - I've been on the wrong end of a fishing expedition more than once.
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