Hi guys,

I'm a fairly new provider and I'm finding that I'm very timid when it comes to asking for reviews.  It seems like there's never really a good time to ask.  I'm always worried that bringing it up will shatter the girlfriend experience I like to provide.

But I also know how important reviews are to building a steady clientele.

So, I was hoping the gentlemen could tell me how they prefer getting asked for reviews.  When is the best time to bring it up?  And what is the best way to phrase the question?

Thanks!

Hi amplejoy,

I would not be offended however a provider asked.  I've been asked three different ways-  

Most recent asked early in the session before we got too heated:  "are you one of the ones who likes to write reviews?"  I answered, "yes but only if you want one, I respect your wishes" whereupon she said it is fine by me.  - thus she brought it up more as a topic of conversation.

One asked in an email after- which was perfectly fine by me.

Another asked very nicely at the end of a session that we both knew we both enjoyed thoroughly.  She just very sincerely asked: "would you write me a review?"  and I told her I'd be glad to.

Doubt there is a wrong way other than after a session where you two clearly didn't click!

I'm glad you posed this question, as I too have been wondering if it's okay to bring up the subject. I figured it wasn't really my place to ask, but would have really appreciated if some of my gentlemen friends would've reviewed me!

Actually, many guys may not even know about TER or reviews, and even if they do, they may be reluctant to post a review because they don't want to write anything that is offensive to their provider.   I think most guys would be happy to provide a review if things go well, and you may even offer to give the guy a reference if someone were to call you.   Hobbyists need references and providers need reviews, especially starting out in this biz.   I don't think you should hesitate to ask.   Moreover, a guy that hasn't heard of TER is sure to be glad to get information that vastly increases his chances of having a good experience, avoid LE, and avoid getting ripped off.

I guess Im pretty bold then...LOL
While licking my lips and he catches his breath...I ask how he feels, and he's like..WHEWW! GREAT! I then say as I scoot up for a cuddle, 'Would you mind reviewing me then?' a lot of guys don't write reviews and haven't the first clue on doing it. But ya never get anywhere while doing nothing. SO...jump in Sweets!
xoxo
~DI~

I think the first thing you might want to do is find out if your client knows about TER.  That could happen when you ask him how he found out about you.  In addition, some clients may say something about being nervous because they were worried you were LE or might be B & S.  You could then mention that TER might help.  

Once you've passed that hurdle, I think asking for a review at the end of the session would be fine.

1) Advertise regularly on TER's regional boards.  That is the best way to make yourself known to TER reviewers.

2) This is totally up to you, but it is not unheard of for a gal to offer a TER member special.  If you do him a favor, he might reciprocate.

3) What you want to avoid is any indication of collusion in the review.  Don't let him write the review on your PC!!!

jazz32

It feels a little awkward to be asked in person before, during, or after a session. You've got us in a vulnerable position there. Best to do it in an e-mail the next day. Something like this:

I enjoyed our time together yesterday. I hope you did also. If so, would you mind writing a review? It's OK if you would rather not.

This would be my preferred method of asking, but is it not in bad taste (considering how important discretion is) to contact someone after the meeting?

I don't think it would be. I am about to have my first appointment with a provider later today and if she sends me an email tomorrow I would feel that she not only does a fine job (I hope) but is business smart in the follow up aspect. I would think that if a hobbyist wanted privacy they would use an email account that no one else can get at and would be totally safe for you to email them afterwards with any comments or requests you might have.

Personally since I haven't had any experience yet, I can only go by how would I feel if asked at any time and I can say, I would feel honored if we clicked. I would probably feel flabergasted if we didn't click that she would want a review of that.

I don't think it's in bad taste to politely contact somebody after the meeting with a little follow-up and thanks.  Personally, I like it when a provider sends me a little e-mail saying that she enjoyed our time together, because it makes me feel a bit special, and not just another forgetable guy that she's seen.  Of course, don't stalk the person with multiple e-mails.

As far as when to ask -- I think it's appropriate to ask at the end of the session, during the "I had a wonderful time" and "I'd like to see you again" phase.  Recently I was with a provider and we were getting dressed and I complimented her on the good time I had, she asked me if I'd write something in her guestbook.  I said sure, and that I'd write a review for her.  She looked at me a bit puzzled -- she is new to the business, and I don't think she knew about reviews.  I think she thought that her guestbook was the best method for publicizing her experiences.

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I think it's fine to ask if it's done right. I would wait till the end of the session to see how things went and if your client was satisfied, that would be a time to ask. Or too, I think the email 1 or 2 days afterwards mentioning how you had a nice time and would the client mind writing a review. You could also use that opportunity to tell him that you'd really like to see him again. The email would take you all of a few minutes and I know for myself it would really make a huge positive impression. (Of course, you may have to BS a little too....lol)

Something else to keep in mind, in most cases guys would like to have a positive note on the white list, or an offer to give a good reference in the future. Being a newbie, for me that would be very important.

I gave a very good (and honest) review for my provider (My first time) and it would have been nice if she would have taken the time to post a nice reference for me too. But that's up to each individual.

Three is a way now for non-vip providers to white list.  Most of the non vip providers don't know they can white list.

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-- Modified on 10/30/2007 1:03:57 PM

I think the follow up email is a nice touch actually. Personalize it a little for each guy and I think you'll get a positive reception. The only caveat for you, I think, is to only do this with guys you would want to see again.

Wow - what a great response I got.  Thank you so much...this information will really help me!

Correct approach.  Likewise, I will follow up with the lady to ask her to white list me.