Newbie - FAQ
Re: If was the same girl I wouldn't have any issues if
Absolutely!
Had a rendezvous today where the provider would only be an approximation of the pic on CV if you squinted hard for 10 minutes.
Ok, so maybe that's exaggerating a little bit, but what's the best way to handle situations like this where you're disappointed immediately based on expectation and reality on looks?
she didn't match my expectations, that's on me to judge and read the reviews the pics properly.
Most, if not all reviews will mention if the girl doesn't match the photos.
Always read the reviews!
Everyone is going to show themselves in the best light and from the best angle possible. I need to be able to read between the lines, so to speak.
However if I didn't want have the session after meeting her I would definitely give her something for her trouble and missing the opportunity to see someone else.
In my bracket that means at least a hundred.
OK I am going to side with the guys here on this one...especially if she is NOT with an agency as sometimes the ladies do not have control over what images are posted on their behalf, however if she's and indy...why would you give her anything if she is so far from her images? Reason being it does nothing to prevent her from continuing this scam. I mean she's making money for showing up and doing nothing but wasting your time and effort.
Different story if it was you who didn't feel the connection on arrival even though she did represent herself truthfully in her images, then by all means compensate.
If the pictures are a misrepresentation, then feel free to walk out. You might want to leave her $50 or something if you are concerned about her doing something psycho, like posting your real name or email address. I've also paid a $75 travel fee to a girl who didn't match her pictures. I look at that as cheap compared to one of the aforementioned actions taken against you.
We're buying a service and an experience - a pretty damn expensive one - and we should be entitled to a reasonably accurate representation. Yes, I know the lady has feelings, and unfortunetly, they are going to be hurt. But, she can avoid that simply by representing herself in an accurate manner.
Yes, it is.
I usually pay anywhere from $200 - $400 for an hour. That's a LOT of money.
If I believed she wasn't a fair representation, I'd leave $100. If she HAD represented herself fairly and I just couldn't connect with her for some reason outside my control (e.g. she was a paramilitary nut and trying to shoot me), then I'm not sure. But if I couldn't connect because of my own prejudices, I'd leave her the whole fee.
Up until you hand the money over, YOU are in control, and can change your mind for whatever reason you want. If you don't like what you see, even if she exactly matches the pictures, no one is going to FORCE you to have sex with her.
If you change your mind at the last possible moment, meaning you are in the room with the girl, you should provide some gratuity. I would give no more than 25% of the original agreed-upon fee.
Pictures are just that - PICTURES! No matter how professional the photo, there is going to be a difference between the pic and reality. It's very possible that you say "Yeah, she looks like the pic, but I'm not as attracted in reality as I was to the pic." No one can fault you for that.
I think I would probably consider walking out. I would leave a partial compensation for her time, but make it clear why I wasn't staying. There is also a bit of a gray area. If she opened the door, and was still an attractive lady, but just didn't look like the pictures, I would have to consider staying. On the other hand, If I was looking at pictures of some hot babe, and the lady who opened the door looked like my aunt Agnes, then I would have to walk.
First, I would say try to refrain from creating too many expectations prior to meeting.
If she was truly misrepresented in her pics/discussion, leave. Give her a small compensation or not depending on how safe you feel leaving her nothing, which is what she would deserve in my opinion.
If she represented herself accurately, this is your issue and you owe her.
If you know you are sensitive to a provider's looks or in-person chemistry, maybe you can ask for a short, compensated 'coffee date' to meet, chat a little and decide whether to go through with an actual appointment - that way, everybody is up front and on the same page... and no feelings are hurt if she is honest and accurate but you need a certain chemistry to make it work for you.
I offer something like this to select individuals and it seems to help the client tremendously if they are needing certain chemistry or are new and very unsure of themselves. Most times it leads to a happy appointment and sometimes to an amicable parting of ways. Either way, everybody is comfortable and doesn't feel slighted or pressured at all.
and then don't like what you see, it's really not right or professional to walk out on her. Most people don't look EXACTLY like their pictures and if you're expectations are more than reality, the girl shouldn't have to eat the loss. When she makes an appointment with you, she's turning down other appointments to see you. If it's a total bait and switch or if the pictures are so old that they look nothing like who she is now, that's another story. Sometimes you just have to do the right thing. If you walk out on enough girls you can expect the word to get around and then good luck to you in getting an appointment with someone. I for one wouldn't make an appointment with a "gent" who I knew does that to an escort.
I agree with how to handle either end of the spectrum.
Bait and switch or provider is 15 years older and 35 pounds heavier?
Turn around and walk away. Nothing but an, "I'm sorry you are not really what I was expecting," as an explanation.
Provider has a small pimple on her chin and her hair is up in a bun rather than draped down her back?
You are lucky and should enjoy your session unless you are insanely picky.
But what about the - VERY common - situation in between? Where is the line between the client being justified in walking away and the client being expected to pay as promised?
What happens when there is a disagreement between what the provider feels was her photos being a reasonable representation of herself and the client thinking he was duped?
Obviously, there are no cut and dried answers to these questions. Thereon lies the ground on which an argument is founded. Just kind of tough for the guy to feel comfortable making this decision the moment the door opens.
Personally, looking back, two of my first (unreviewed) encounters with providers lay in this nebulous hinterland. In retrospect, after having some experience in the pay-for-play world, I should have definitely walked out on one and possibly the other as well.
I fear that each of those ladies might have felt differently, though.
It was my first time with an escort when this happened so I was pretty nervous to begin with. The girl in the picture was extremely attractive and looked to be about 19 or 20. The women that actually showed up was a completely different lady who was atleast 24-25 ... she was still hot and I was nervous about it being my first time so I went through with it. (she also had her driver outside my door who I was not willing to mess with)
In the future though, I'm not going through with it if I am bait and switched.
Wow this is a touchy subject. Read the reviews that is why they are there. Also I agree with GiaMarie. Remember we are gentlemen out here. You are paying for her TIME and what happens between consenting adults is well you know.....
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