send them a PM if you can.  That way, no one else can read what you ask or what she replies.

Swim

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then yes, you may ask her for that.

If you mean:  "How was I in bed?", I wouldn't go there.

You may not get an honest answer, or an answer you like.

There is a TER white list where providers can list you as a good guy, and you can ask her for that, and any VIP member can view it.  There are no comments, just their TER handle.

It is not my intent to say that providers (all, some or none) are liars. However, they are selling a fantasy. This means that they may lie outright... They may tell the truth about the good, and omit or soft-sell the bad... It will be a rare provider that outright says something like, "Your breath stank, you need to wash your ass and your dick is tiny."

Some of this depends, too, on the kind of feedback you're seeking.

IMO, the ONLY reliable feedback you ever get is:
 A) She provides a reference for you (that doesn't sink your new date request)
 B) She is willing to see yo again

First, consider the usual compliments you would expect to get, such as, "You're so __________!" Fill in the blank with your favorite (big, hard, hot, etc.).

All that said, there are some things that I do take more at face value, and these rules also apply in civvie life. One of my criteria for finding a compliment more credible is if it is not the typical one you would expect in that situation. The second criteria would be that you hear this comment/compliment from multiple sources (excluding the standard, "You're so __________!"

The reality is that P4P, IMO, mirrors the "real world" of relationships. People tend to believe that which fits their world view and discount that which does not. Whether it is about them personally or something else.

I know I tend to be more on the doubting Thomas side of the line. A provider may be doing her thing and I may not believe a word she says (I had that recently with someone that was a bit too eager with what I consider to be provider platitudes) for many reasons (good or bad), regardless of the intent of her comments.

Bottom line, only you can decide what to ask for and what to believe.

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