Just don't tell me that dress makes my ass look to big, lol!

Seriously, it depends if you want to see her again or not. If you want to see her again be tactful, say you want to spend time with her again and say something bothered you. Try not to put her on the defensive. If she really about making you happy she'll listen to your concerns.

Just my 2 cents though.

Steph

I'm only half joking.  My ATF smokes and for years she would always ask me if I could smell smoke when I walked into her in call.  I never did but one time I smelled it in her hair.  I didn't tell her that night but I mentioned it in an email the next day and she was very happy that I had told her.  The smell didn't really bother me but I knew that it was something she tried very hard to avoid so I wanted her to know about it.  I still see her and she still smokes but I've never smelled it in her hair again.

I dont mind hearing something that might benifit me. I mean everyone has their own opinions and likes and dislikes. But Im always open to hearing honest opinions. That's just me!

Possibly not the best idea. As far as I am concerned if a guy does something that makes the session uncomfortable I just get through it if it's not too bad and then never see him again. There are so many women and guys in this game there is no need to put up with whatever it is that makes the session less than great.

some want it, but if you are writing an honest review of a not so nice session, probably not,  Circumstances dictate what you write, and if you, as a reviewer want to be truthful.  There are a lot of factors going into how a review is written.  I won't attempt to tell guys how to review their sessions.  

IMHO, it a provider does unsatisfactory service, I"m sure she does not want honesty, but a provider who provides what she offers will want an honest evaluation of her offerings.

Swim

as long as it is done nicely.  

Some girls are willing to be nice with a guy and if he didn't have a good time, yeah the good ones want to know so we can do better. If you are being a jackass, then no. She might not know what you didn't like and if you don't say something, she doesn't know.

Communication (nicely) matters in both of us having fun.

I'd rather off know the slight I did, then you never call again,

I am open to feedback but I have never had feedback about a session I mean negative feedback.  I've had feedback about stuff we talked about and I value informed advice from people who have experience.  But criticism about my provider skills?  I don't think so.  If it's in a review, sure I would learn from it.  But that's where it belongs.  

This is the thing...if I go to a restaurant and I don't like it, I don't go back, pure and simple.  My feedback is whether I spend money there or not. I think that would be a good policy for hobbyists because honestly, no one really likes to hear criticism and stuff like that is so subjective.  What one man likes another man does not.  How useful is that?  I mean, if a session goes south, it takes two, right?  If the guy didn't speak up during the session he is just as much to blame.  I'm sure he doesn't want to hear how HE could have improved it.  No one is perfect.

The most effective way to shape behavior I have found is positive feedback, and also modeling the behavior you want to see.  And reverse psychology also works well.   And communication (during, not after).

Luckily, my clients are super wonderful so it is not an issue.  If I felt like I was really at fault for a bad session, which has not yet happened, I would just refund the

I've gotten some great constructive criticism on certain policies that I have, especially when I was figuring out certain things at the very beginning. Plus, I do like hearing what my clients think about the way I run my business, so that I can know what works and what doesn't. It gives me insight to whether I'm attracting the kinds of clients I like, or whether I'm turning them off inadvertantly.

I'd be a bit defensive if it was something to do with my personality though, which it seems like you're suggesting your issue is. I am who I am - I definitely try to keep my bad days to myself and focus on my clients, but sometimes things just slip through. A girl is unlikely to be able to change her personality at this point in her life, so if that's what your concerned about, I'd say just don't book another date with her.

2-3 times.  

It really wasnt a big problem (she didnt admit she was a KKK member or anything)

On the recent issue,  I'd seen her twice before with no problems. I think if I can find a good time to bring it up the next time I see her I will. If not, I'll just suck it up and keep it to myself.

*get a boob job
*lose weight
*gain weight
*didnt like your outfit
*your wig is spooky

Etc etc etc

Truth is most of the time, I ask for constructive criticism because I feel like it helps me be better!