...because I'm 22 years old and a virgin.  I've never been on a date, had a girlfriend, or even had a friend that is a girl.

And now, I'm seriously thinking about paying to try it out.  Would it be difficult for me to get with someone - without references?  How would I go about with someone when it would be my first time?

Thanks!

Read this board back a couple weeks, and read the newbie manual link at the top of the newbie board page. You will get a LOT of useful information if you do those 2 things.

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You will have better luck with an agency since they do not require a previous provider reference. I would caution you to look for agency girls with good reviews. Depending on where you live the agency scene could be anywhere from amazing to abysmal. Reviews are the only way to separate the good from the bad.
FWIW, I would recommend an older, more experienced provider for your first experience as they are more giving and more patient than many younger girls.

22 years old? I believe you should think hard about making this move. Most of us here hobby for reasons involving past relationships (Divorce, unhappy marriages, etc.). These experiences have given us (or me at least) a certain amount of emotional detachment that frankly I think would be very difficult for anyone younger than 30 or so.

I only caution you that once you start down this path, you might not find the motivation to seek a "normal" relationship with a woman. You owe it to yourself to discover what that is like, because it can be a truly wonderful experience.

For as much pain as I received in being divorced, I would do it all over again if I had to make the choice. Those experiences, both good and bad, helped to make me who I am now.

We also have a strong tendency to fall hard for the woman who takes our cherry. It happened to me! Just keep this in mind.

Whatever your decision - good luck!

Go to the Erotic Highway Board and get a discussion going with the Love Goddess and others about whether or not you want your cherry popped though the hobby.  There may be some issues about setting expectations for future Civie relationships on both the sexual and the emotional level, as well as other issues that the Love Goddess may have some insight on.

I encourage you to do this before you take the leap.  I'm not one to tell anyone how to live their lives, or whether or not you should hobby.  I started at the age of 17 (not a virgin), and there are others who started younger, but I'm addressing the virgin issue rather than the age thing.  If you go see one of these well reviewed ladies, and they do to you what they are capable of, you may very well have expectations of your future girlfriend or wife that she can't meet. It can go the other way too, but if you go by the reviews, you are most likely going to get your brain reset by the lady you see. Most of them are that good.  You should at least get some free relevant advice if available.  Just a thought.

Good Luck Brother.






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IMO you’d be taking an easy path that could/would forever stunt your social skills and development. The mere fact that you’re 22 and never had ANY form of a relationship with a girl is an indication that a certain amount of “growth” on your part has been overlooked or ignored.

  Learn to communicate and interact with the opposite sex before taking the abbreviated, micro-wave approach to obtaining nature’s proverbial brass ring.

Think very hard before making that first step.

I feel 22 is too young, but there are hobbyists that have started out at 22 (and younger in some cases).







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While the hobby is blessed with many wonderful women, I think you would be better off getting socialized with "civilian" women of your age.  Hiring an escort is not really "trying it out."  As long as she is a quality provider (and you are clean and polite), she will be enchanted by you and the sex will be great.  But I don't see it moving you forward with your adult life.

Because you don't have much experience with women, you may want to get some experience on the social front.  One way to get dating experience easily is through internet or newspaper personal ads such as match.com  It gets you away from having to meet women in a bar or being set up by friends and then having date performance anxiety.  In this situation, as long as you live in a large city, you can have a couple of dates every week with no consequences if things don't work out.

I hope this has given you something to think about.  Regardless of how you proceed, I wish you the best.  Having been a late bloomer myself, I understand your situation.

then be sure to select a mature provider who will help you enjoy your first experience.  You need a GFE experience for time #1.  Some of the younger girls just try to get you to pop in a hurry then get dressed and be on their way.

Thank you for your replies.  You are all very friendly (something I would not necessarily from a "John," LOL.  And to one reply in which a favor was asked to question "Love Goddess" in "The Erotic Highway," I have done so.

Thank you all!

I don't think you're age is a problem - I've seen clients about your age with no compunction.  However, I would feel hesitant to take a client's virginity, because, trust me, it IS an experience you will remember forever.  Many people regret losing their virginity the way they did.

I think you're first step should be to get a girlfriend.  Even a girl friend - find someone you feel comfortable talking with and tell her about your situation.  She will be able to help you much more than any of us.

As someone who did this but at a very slightly older age, this is the advice I'd offer.

- The pros are being with a woman that you find attractive and also someone who knows what they're doing.  No fumbling around like many inexperienced teenagers have their first time.  You don't have to worry about your ego or trying to please anyone except yourself.  Whether your a newbie or a veteran, in this game you can try to please the woman.  But ultimately, it's about you.  

- The cons are that this can be a very addictive and very expensive hobby.  If you focus on it and not your personal life, you can stunt your social maturity.  For some people, they want to remember their first time.  Depending on who you are, you may not want this to be it.  

As for references and the like, might just have to supply some work info.  Or, as a future investment especially if you think you might do this more than once, consider a site like Date-Check that can verify you.  

good luck

i agree with most of the replies on this board.. if at all possible, your first time should be special, someone you are in love with, or at least have a deep emotional connection with.

have you tried the internet dating thing?  there are lots of other ways to meet girls that you have something in common with..

on the flip side, we all get pretty horny at times. so a nice blow job followed by a great dinner wouldn't be too bad either..

For him to just wanna get laid is going to 'forever stunt his social skills and development'? That is kinda out there, I don't know whether it matters if he pays for it or finds someone to give it to him for free. I don't think either will have an adverse affect on his social skills. Hell, might even help!

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I am 25 & am basically in the same situation as the guy who started this thread.  However I have had sex with a few girls, but it was always horrible, and I could not keep it up and never finished.  Also, they were all horribly ugly girls I picked up at the local dive.  I am also asian so I share that issue as well.

Some of the ppl who replied are concerned about your age, and that this might diminish civ girls in your future, or make you lazy and you wont try for civ girls at all.  I have a different view on that.

I am 25, and have never had a meaningful relationship with a girl, & basically have never gotten laid.  You have never been with a girl and you are 22.  For whatever reason we are behind the game.  I think you follow these kind ppl's advice and find a well reviewed mature woman.  After you share time with her you will see that sex is not a big deal.  It's just like masterbating, except there is a girl there.  Like the black man in '40 year old virgin' said, "you're putting [kitty] on a pedastel".  --- I think once you get with a provider you will see its not a big deal, will gain confidence, and also realize that masterbating alone is really boring.  This will motivate you to eat right, maybe jog or tan, and for goodness sakes, Get Out there and throw some darts!  You are not going to find single girls in a sports bar.  You need to go downtown to clubs.  Even if you hate house music and can't dance, just get out there.

Now if only I followed my own advice  

I will be posting my own very depressing thread with the Erotic Highway, which I am not sure but seems to be a wise woman who answers questions?

Peace bro