Best bet is to join verification site like Preferred411 or Date-Check.  They will verify you and you can search their provider listings for newb friendly providers.  You will be golden  Once u get a provider reference or two from actual providers, life is good.

Yes, you ask then if it is OK for you to use them as a reference with other ladies.  When a subsequent gal asks you for references she will be looking for the website, email or phone number of the lady that you are using for a reference. Be sure to let the gal you are using know that you have given her name out.  Often-times, if a few weeks or months have gone by between visits, she may need to have her memory refreshed as to who you are.

Asked a lady and she agreed. Thanks for the help.