I wanted to arrange a meeting with a Provider for a friend for his birthday. The meeting is for both of us; me to watch, and him to enjoy. My questions are: neither of us are verified. We're very new to this world. How do we get verified in a short amount of time? Is Date Check or places like it the way to go? Also, some Providers ask for references from other verified members. How does one go about procuring those? Lastly, I know our request is particular. Tho it falls under "more than one guy," more than one guy will not be actively participating. How do I find a Provider who will be understanding of that? Thank you so much for your time and attention... Sorry for the newbie question.

And let me tell you why, from a provider's perspective:

1) You say neither of you have references.  Why would a lady want to take a chance and visit a room where there are two men waiting?  She would, most likely, be worried about an LE Sting.

2) You say only one of you will participate.  Again, once she gets in the room, she is alone with two men, without references, and can easily be overpowered.

Take your friend to a strip club!  Who knows, you may get lucky.  Or go to Nevada, to a legal brothel.  These places are set up with security and the lady's safety would not be an issue.

Just my .02 cents.  Guys feel free to chime in.

Yes, start with a verification site.
Even without references most providers can verify you by other means. Be prepared to submit to some heavy screening.
Both of you will have to be screened, not just one.

Most providers who see more then one guy are going to charge more then their single rate regardless of participation. Be prepared for that.

I would recommend that you choose a provider who has multiple pages of reviews. This is not the time to wrangle with a newbie provider.
You can explain your two guy situation and then follow her instructions to a tee.

Good luck.

Great point, especially with reason #2.. unless the girl is into MMF/groups, Why should she trust an unverified hobbyist and risk being overpowered and raped? There is no gain for the girl here.

Does your friend know your planning this?  I'd be embarrassed and probably angry if my friend did something like this

feel comfortable seeing two guys together who don't have any references. You can go through one of the verification sites like DC or Preferred411, but even then, alot of providers won't see you without references. P411 screens clients through employment information, but I only accept clients on there who also have provider okays.  

And it's likely that the rate will increase since there are two of you, even though one isn't participating. So be prepared to pay more.

I have a regular who always sees me with another girlfriend. He doesn't participate, he sits back and watches me and her. He 'takes care' of himself.

I had another girlfriend who offered shows with her boyfriend. She had clients who would just watch her and her boyfriend get it on.

It's not often that happens, most guys want to participate. But there is a market out there for 'spectators'.

What about arranging 2M (you and your friend) and 2F (two providers who are comfortable and experienced with each other) in the same room? Whether or not you participate or watch from the sidelines shouldn't matter (Providers: should it?).

Find someone in your area who is well reviewed and advertises doubles with HER choices of F friends and see what she says.