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Re: Help, I'm innocent
Cherry_Girl See my TER Reviews 1836 reads
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you're dealing with women darlin and depending on where you found these women, there is a question of dependability. There are lists, but highly doubt that one instance would put your name out there to the point that nobody would see you. Besides, I know a lot of women who claim to do checks, but really don't.
The women who do check are usually not even going to book you. Not all providers have ethics

coolchops3311 reads

Hi Folks;  About a month ago, knowing nothing of reviews, verification, or dating protocol I called a phone # in a classified ad, met a very nice lady and had nice time. My second attempt ( different provider) didn't go well. I made what I thought was an innocent comment upon entering the room, she responded negatively I thought she was in a bad mood and said so, she accused me of being LE and asked me to leave, which was what I was about to do anyway. Since then I've made arrangements with two other providers and been left sitting in a parking lot both times. Question;
Am I on some sort of list to be avoided or just paranoid? How do I prove I'm a nice guy who's learned some lessons in etiquette.
Thanks in advance.   Coolchops

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Cherry_Girl1837 reads

you're dealing with women darlin and depending on where you found these women, there is a question of dependability. There are lists, but highly doubt that one instance would put your name out there to the point that nobody would see you. Besides, I know a lot of women who claim to do checks, but really don't.
The women who do check are usually not even going to book you. Not all providers have ethics

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RRO26101910 reads

but you obviously hit a hot button which extinguished all impetus for sex on her part.

 Start reading the "newbie manual" etc atop the page; as well as this and other TER boards in hopes of never having a scenario like this happen again.

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Anus-Moses1614 reads

You obviously made a bad choices in the providers you had chosen.
If she would have screened you properly, she would have known up front that you were not LE.
Now, I don't what you said, so a real evaluation is difficult That incidence, and two NCNS's tells me that you need to do your homework and stay away from the flakes.
If you were put on a DNS list for being LE, the other two who NCNS'd would not have allowed you into the the parking lot in the first place.

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coolchops1468 reads

Thanks for the feedback. As I walked in the door I was a little taken aback because the room was close to pitch black and she was standing behind the door. I said exactly two words " hi cousin" to which she responded " don't start with that cousin stuff" and it went downhill from there. I have since seen her on a reference site and she appears to be inexperienced and seeking verification. Guess it was just a case of two rookies meeting in the night. I was more concerned with the laterno=shows and feel much relieved. Thanks again,   Coolchops

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Cherry_Girl1681 reads

Now I'm even more confused. Sounds like she's paranoid or self conscious.

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keystonekid1037 reads

a provider would go to that trouble to "show a guy a bad experience" but you never know.

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craneballs1691 reads

It happens to us all. The most no shows I've had were three in a row over the course of a week.

First girl didn't show. Called her booker and found out she thought it was for the following day. Rescheduled for the following day because I wanted to meet her and she no showed again after I confirmed with the booker later the previous night that the appointment was set.

Later that week set up an appoinent with a different girl. Confirmed over the phone and drove about 30 min to her incall. Called to confirm, no answer so I left a message. 15 min after the scheduled appointment time I called one last time. No answer.

I wouldn't put too much thought into the no shows. You just contacted the wrong providers.

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AlexandraMilw2497 reads

to realize I am barely the norm... I can check better than most.... I used to be a major hacker.  I would figure 99.8% of (barely anyone can do what I can)  She needs to do checks period.  She may be for real but if she cares about safety, she needs to look out for herself.  I have floated a few because they were sketchy.  The more info you give, the better.  I am not organized but anyone who books with me can be guranteed time :)

All you really have to do is prove you are not LE and a gentleman.  

Again I will say that barely any women have my resources.  So just give them what you can and go from there.   She will lead you.

At a min. she should have said you didn't pass everything.  GL in the future.   Just try to give the provider as much info as possible and be respectful.

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coolchops2152 reads

Thanks again for all the input. I now understand that some of my actions would have caused some concern, but my first experience had been so smooth I assumed that was the norm. I knew nothing of TER, Date-Check or accepted protocol. I have since joined Date-check and recieved a positive reference from my first date and an education .
 My main concern was that the no shows were directly related to the bad experience and I would be stuck with a bad rap due to one bad situation.
Thanks again,        coolchops

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