I am new to this "adventure", just had two encounters with two providers.  Both time, I had difficult time staying erected. I think I did not like it the first time because the lady smokes so it smells. The 2nd time, the hotel room was too cold....

Anyway, is this normal that you experts experienced before? what's your advise to get pass it?

I've had no problem at all at home.

thanks in advance.

I also have the same problem. How long were you able to stay up for and what positions have you tried that given you issues?

Do you normally have problems with this?

An erection is (for us older guys) as much a mental thing as it is anything else. These issues are just distractions to be put out of mind as you focus on the task at hand.

I was in the missionary position. I stayed up for 5-10 minutes.  The all the sudden it softened. I don't have erection issue at home.  

The providers was able to get it up again using tongue. But it interrupted the pleasure and experience.

I was wondering what you do to focus and keep it up...

Thanks.

That's the most classical Freudian slip I've seen in a while, and leads me to my next question:

Have you been playing with yourself in the days before a date?  If so, knock it off.  That's one way to ruin the erection you might get with a provider.

Other than that, eat well and exercise.  If things still aren't working, then it's time to discuss the little blue pill with your doctor, or schedule an appointment with a disciple of Dr. Freud and get your big noodle fixed.

You might also want to pay a visit to The Love Goddess on the Erotic Highway Board below.  No guarantee, but the rates are great.

I think it is a classic case of performance anxiety. If you have had no problems at home, it is a matter of getting used to the new circumtances. If you are using outcall, I would suggest self stimulation partially, few minutes before the provider arrives. This way your tool will be more responsive when you are with the provider. Make sure you do not Pop with your self stimulation though. After a few sucessful encounters, you should be fine.

Thanks vmalik, mrfisher, hound_dog and nervousone. It's comforting and re-affirming to know all that.

I am a provider in Raleigh and maybe I can help.... Sometimes you fellas need to book longer sessions. Us ladies are not always the ones who need to warm up. So if you are normally a 30 minute lover then book an hour or 90 minutes. This allows you to get comfortable with your provider and the new enviroment and naturally ease into the session.  An easy ice breaker with no pressure is to lotion your provider and chat. You can feel her respond to you and get comfy at the same time. Also if you know smoking is a definate turn off then ask if your provider is a smoker before booking.  Make sure your provider can carry a conversation on your level. If she has the IQ of an invertabrate and you are a PHD... convo will be difficult. She may look HOT but that goes out the window when she opens her mouth. Much better to have her come in the door a 5 and leave a 10 then visa versa.  I hope this helps and maybe see you around!

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did you try cowgirl ? If so were you able to get it up with that position?