This question is to both hobbyists and providers.

Many providers use GFE in their ads to describe their service. At the same time the service/performance of individual providers can vary greatly.
Is there a certain level of service that can be expected from a provider who says they provide a  Girl Friend Experience?

GFE= DFK, DATY, and BBBJ!
GFE+ = all the above plus BBBJTC!
GFE++ = all the above plus CIM!
GFE+++ = all the above plus NQNS!
GFE++++ = all the above plus Greek!

GFE+++ also holds the connotation that the service is BBFS.

labels are somewhat meaningless.

There are providers that simply label themselves GFE to denote that you are NOT going to get the PSE (pornstar experience) services such as anal or coming on their face or a non-stop hump-a-thon.

It should at least indicate that you will get an empathetic gal who will do some cuddling and kissing among the regular activities like BJ (BB or not) and hopefully CFS.

As always, get VIP membership and use the reviews as a guide to know what to expect.

There are only 3 things that I would consider a part of any GFE.

1. Kissing. It is so important to having a girlfriend (even if only for an hour) to kiss each other and enjoy it.

2. DATY. I truly love making a woman squirm and moan, and I think I am getting better at it.

3. Chatting/cuddling. During the "downtime" I like to talk about various subjects while holding a beautiful woman beside me. Small caresses and touches are a great way to get back to "uptime".

I think many will notice I didn't add in BBBJ or some such. A lot will think that this is a requirement and I wouldn't disagree, it is just personally it really isn't something that is very high on my list.

The kissing, daty, chat/cuddle are the three main criteria I look for in GFE.

I have read many reviews that say that bbbj must be there also-  I don't disagree-  I currently only schedule if bbbj is on the menu, so since it is already there, your three criteria are mine!

I don't include cim or cimnsnq as part of the GFE criteria- as long as the bbbj is there, the cim or nsnq are just nice extras!

The GFE scale has been around for a while. See the links below:

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=5518&boardID=9

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=16941&boardID=33

One review about her I saw was: "She would do things my girlfriend would never do".

I knew she was really GFE when she couldn't take a date because she had to watch the niece. "Not now, Dear. The kids!"

I was always under the impressiom that what you're describing is termed "ultra" GFE...

Neither is right or wrong; but simply another example of confusing ambiguities lending to more conjecture.

I've seen BBFS described as Ultra GFE and GFE+ as well. I've even read comments from a fair amount of guys who assume that a PSE is a BBFS experience. It's too bad but it just drives home the point that you really need to read the reviews on a lady to know what you are getting.

Yes.  There IS a certain level that IS to be expected.  You betchya!! GFE comes with experience.  A 20'something year old provider advertising this has no idea what it means to be GFE...their simply not experienced enough. (IMO)

Alot of girls advertise GFE, but then when you get there, they don't even kiss.  Which to me is crazy.  First of all..how the hell can ANYONE get in the mood if you don't kiss!!  

GFE means relaxing with a glass of wine (or beverage of your choice, or not) conversation to help get to know one another, candles and soft jazzy type music to help set the mood, softy touching each other, and gentle foreplay.  Once BCD, kissing, cuddling, more  foreplay, soft erotic groping, and of course, passion.  

Girls who advertise GFE and wont allow you to DATY, kiss, only allow covered BJ and refuse to let you kiss the nipple, have every light on in the house, TV blaring with Jerry Springer in the background and have you "get comfortable" 3 minutes after you come through the door is NOT GFE!!

GFE is to make YOU feel as comfortable as if if YOU are with YOUR Girlfreind, NOT on an assembly line.  

If you see a provider who advertises GFE, and you dont get anything close to it...PLEASE do a review and let it be known to help others who want to see her for a GFE experience.  To me...that's false advertisement.

And yes...I proudly still carry the title "GFE of the Year" after being voted that in 2003!!

KIssing as much as you want and DATY is a must.  BBBJ is not necessary if she's good at CBJ.  Attitude is what makes a GFE.  Just got back from visiting my ATF for a couple of days.  This woman makes me laugh, makes me love and enjoys life to the fullest.  She has ambitions, dreams and is the best friend that you could ever want to spend time with.  It's only been 6 days and my every thought goes back to the time when we were last together. That's a GFE.

Thanks for the post Sophie

You make some great points.

To me kissing with a good kisser can really make the experience.  

Also attitude. The providers that are able to talk to you like an old friend even at the first meeting really helps. Especialy at the first meeting or phone call.

I had to laugh at your mention of the TV with Jerry Springer.  It has happened to me, and it felt a bit odd to say the least.

Ireally think that a provider who is genuine with her attitude goes a long way to making the session.

I'd rather be with a provider with a great attitude and good kisser who might not give BBBJ or some of the other offerings than a provider who may do things you could only dream of but treats the whole things like an assembly line.

"A 20'something year old provider advertising this has no idea what it means to be GFE...their simply not experienced enough. (IMO)"

I am 25 and very much everything you and others have described and more. Statements like that can never be 100% accurate because there are no absolutes in life, period. Anyone who made it through high school should know that the only thing you can guarantee is that we will all die one day. There are always exceptions in every other aspect of life.

Bella

that PSE is BBFS.  Because kenya and I offer PSE doubles and that in no way no how means BBFS.  We just like to play around.....Heidi xxoo

Sorry. I looked in TER Manual and could not find definition for BBFS. Can you enlighten me?

Is Bare Back Full Service...intercourse without a condom. Not a very wise thing to do nor advertise.

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