Is it unusual for a hobbyist to want to be aroused by a provider wearing certain kinds of clothing and finally released somehow? My impression from reading ads for fetish providers is that they practice domination only, and that the man's eventual orgasm is irrelevant. How would I find a provider who offers a blend of fetish and release?

The key is finding a provider that will cater to your fetish ! Clothing/lingerie fetishes are common, and pale in comparison to fetishes for:

humiliation, feet, balloons, strap ons, diapers, enemas, golden/brown showers, smothering, mother/son, father/daughter,  and on, and on.....

Oh yes..using what you wear can be very exciting and useful..

I love to play head games myself

Kisses Haley

You and your mild-ass fetishes... Time to step up your game! LMAO!

What you want to look for are providers who tout their offerings as "sensual" domination or similar, or read reviews.  Its true a lot of the "fetish" don't offer a sexual release for the guy, but many others do if that is what is desired. You just have to do your homework to find one who's "offered experiences" are what you enjoy.

Head games?  Interesting ...