I've done p411, emailed with newbie friendly providers, completed more screening, and now I'm scheduled with a beautiful, well-reviewed provider in a couple of weeks. I can't wait.

What advice do you have to make the first time stress free and fun for both people?

(and if you haven't, then that's where I would start.)

I would be sure to read her site very carefully to know what she needs you to do, and also to show that you did so.  Providers put a lot of effort into their sites and love when clients show that they are familiar with the person.

For example, if the gal puts down that she studied English in college and loves to write, how infuriating is it for a guy to ask her if she went to college and what did she study?

After that, I would be sure to read up on her recent reviews to see what is allowed, what she likes, and perhaps what she doesn't like.

Knowledge is power, so more power to you.

Have a blast.

write, which seems to be like a complete gentleman, you will have the time of your life. Remember, just be yourself, it's ok to be nervous (that's what makes it fun) and just go with the flow. She's the 'professional' here and whomever you chose should make you feel at ease and relaxed from the minute you meet eyes for the first time.  

Good luck and have fun. And remember, be a gentleman, in any scenario, that always gets a lady going.

T.

If you expect the world, there is nowhere to go but down.

DO expect an attractive woman who will focus on pleasing you.
DON'T expect a goddess who will make you cum just by looking at you.

DO expect an accommodating woman.
DON'T expect her to change your life.

DO have a good time.
DON'T fall in love.

Even though you are screened and referred, she may still be a little bit nervous at first. If you are also nervous, it will rub off and multiply. If you have any relaxation tricks that you use in other walks of life, go ahead and practice them before your date. The more confident you are, the more relaxed she will generally be (not to mention the fact that confidence is sexy).

I assume you have been drilled on being clean, but I'll mention it again because it will make a difference in the quality of service you receive. Brush thoroughly (but not immediately before the date - use mouthwash) and remember that no matter how completely you have bathed or showered just an hour ago, your junk gets funky quickly all trapped in down there, so excuse yourself to the bathroom when you arrive and give your little friends a once over.

Uh... that's all I've got.

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Ms. Steele,

Thank you for the compliment and advice.

Your intuition is accurate. I am a nervous, published author!

 

Thank you, Mr. Fisher. Sage advice on creating intimacy between strangers.

Could be the start of something very special for you. So enjoy and smile!!!

T.

...titled Provider Relations 101. I recommend reading it. All of it. It will tell you many of the things you're wondering about. Find the Self-Help Center on the upper right under the red & white life preserver.

he first two do not apply to you because you have made the appointment, but I think these are great guidelines to follow heading into your first session!

1. You make initial contact with a provider as SHE wishes and requests (i.e. by E-mail, text, phone, etc.)

 2. You are able to communicate to her exactly when and where you wish to see. Have a specific agenda in mind, prior to contacting her. Your sole purpose of the initial contact is to set up the appointment. Period, nothing more, nothing less. NEVER ask any inappropriate or idle questions (obviously nothing of a sexual overtone but also do not ask her what her rates are or her physical stats if all this information is clearly defined on her web site). Remember, this is your first impression; do not do anything that would jeopardize even getting an appointment. Also, do not negotiate her price. While, yes its a "business", its not the kind of business that tolerates negotiating a rate (doesn't make sense to many men, but just accept it as gospel)  

3. Understand that even though your appointment is set in stone, you are NOT on the clock. This means that do not expect from her (and certainly you DO NOT initiate) E-mails, texts, phone calls to just shoot the proverbial breeze. Her needs are focused on those clients who have appointments before yours. Now while you can send a confirming E-mail as you get closer to your appointment, anything more beyond that is not appropriate at this time. Of course there are exceptions---some providers are more flirtatious than others and may be amenable to engaging in some banter beforehand. No rules, you'll have to follow her lead.

4. You show up ON TIME for your session. Do not show up a 1/2 hour early and linger outside her door or building. You want to do nothing that will draw attention to your presence.  

5. You walk into her apartment or room with an air of confidence and professionalism (i.e. greet her with a nice hug) and make the lady feel comfortable and safe with your presence. This is extremely important as the safety of the provider is paramount. Remember, the provider is 1000 times more nervous about meeting a new client, than the hobbyist is about seeing a provider. You want the lady to relax as much as possible.  

6. You place the appropriate donation (which you have already counted out and put in an unsealed envelope) immediately in plain view on a desk or table (or if she prefers on the bathroom counter). Do NOT start counting money in front of the lady. Second, never talk about the donation, ever. And please NEVER make the provider have to ask you for the donation. It places both parties in an unnecessary and awkward position.  

7. You are appropriately dressed for the session at hand (you can never go wrong with business casual) and have thoroughly washed before hand. If you feel you need to freshen up, then by all means please do so. She will appreciate it!

8. You begin your session with some small talk, again, to make the provider at ease to spend time with you. You want her to be glad you are there.  

9. You move things along at a pace you are BOTH comfortable with. If you are nervous and do not know when to proceed to the main event, follow the lead of the provider. She will make sure things move along per your appointment.  

10. During the session, and this is paramount, you NEVER NEVER make the provider feel nervous, unsafe or cause her any physical harm. If she tells you to stop doing something (i.e. you are slapping her ass too hard, or biting her nipples too hard) then STOP. PERIOD. Don't complain about it. Move on to something else. Just enjoy the sex.  

11. After the session is done, RESPECT THE PROVIDER'S TIME. Do not linger about and expect that the lady is there to entertain to you for the rest of the day. Her time is valuable and have the sense to recognize it. If you have paid for an hour, you should be out of there as close to the hour as possible. Think of your session as a sporting event. After the game is over, you do not linger in the stadium or expect access into the locker room. You exit as quickly as possible.  

12. With a nice hug and if she is okay with it a kiss, thank the lady for her time and leave with the same confidence and professionalism that you came in with.

13. This is very important: ONCE YOU WALK OUT THE DOOR, YOU MUST NOW HAVE THE ABILITY TO FLIP A SWITCH AND LEAVE FANTASY LAND FOR REALITY. If you want to send the lady a thank you E-mail, then feel free to go ahead. But do this ONLY ONE TIME.  DO NOT continuously call her, text her, E-mail her, write to her etc.. The fact you had a session with her at this point means nothing to either one of you. You are just a PAST client with absolutely no connection. She is not there at this point to make any small talk with you. The ladies time is valuable and you should not waste it.  

14. I can't stress it enough. One of the hardest things for new hobbyists to understand is that while your session may have been incredible and beyond anything you could have hoped for, once its over its OVER. At this point you need to treat the lady like you would a meaningless one night stand. (Because, remember, she is already over you as she focusses on her next client) The next time you should contact her is when you are ready to set up another appointment.  

Of course there are exceptions to every rule (Yes, some providers/hobbyists may engage in off the clock dates at their own discretion...but these are not norms)

Hopefully, these are useful guidelines for new hobbyists to follow...Have fun and enjoy your first session!!

Some guys get so nervous about the first time, they can't even get it up or get off. Don't be that guy. Let her take the lead, and just relax. I assume you know the game since you've done the P411 and screening, so all you really need to remember is be clean, respectful, and drop the envelope before the action starts, or you may find yourself getting a blank stare until you do.

Very well put sir! I would also remind guys that if they smoke and while they may of just shower prior to driving to the incall that they wash there hands again.In the winter I like to carry hypo-allergenic wipes ,as it lets the ladies know I'm conscious of there health /well being too.

have abstained from rosie palm for a few days prior to meeting his choice of female companionship.  

Diet is also important so don't eat onions, certain veggies, etc. prior to your encounter. Some ladies say if a guy has eaten pineapple or drank pinapple juice several days prior to the date, his cum will taste sweeter.  

As others have said, relax and enjoy.

Lastly, be sure to let us know how your first time went; then write the review.

Onions and garlic make sense and are obvious, and beans can always cause problems, but I am wondering if I am missing something about the soporific effects of brussel sprouts, or asparagus having smelly effects on semen.

Be involved in what you do.  The provider is not a mind reader.  A good example is that I once saw a newbie and got a great review that ended in, "a second cup was not available"  That wasn't the case.  We finished the "fun" at about 40 minutes into an hour session.  We talked a few minutes and then he took a shower and left.  I thought a good time was had by all.  So, while I don't initiate the second cup, it's certainly there if the client lets me know that's what he wants.  So if you like something that's happening or want to move to something else - be polite and forward and let her know in the flow.  It's not being demanding or ridiculous to simply allow her to know how to please you and we appreciate the guidance.  Enjoy yourself!

You have all done a wonderful job or giving advice, and ps I love authors and strive to be a published one myself one day.  
Just one other thing to add:

Cut your nails. Always remember to have trimmed nails as short and clean as possible. Remember that you may be putting those daggers in a woman's very sensitive area. It may not seem like much to you, but you could accidentally injure someone and take them out of commission for the whole week after you without even knowing it. It always sucks when a guy is very careful and sweet but he forgets to do that. You want to always groom as much as possible. Remember, she's putting a lot of effort into looking her best, and feeling her best, for you so you should do the same. That of course means the fingers and the toes. No sharp edges
Also, married guys - don't forget that if you can't groom downtown, hair traps smells. That's why many bare women taste and smell so good and are able to be so clean. Even if you're washing your junk before an appt, just remember that all those little hairs around your cute bums also carry smell. Just an fyi, with the best intentions of course.  

Otherwise, have fun and enjoy yourself.