Just because you lose perspective when you get a bit "smitten" by a lady, doesn't mean that happens to all the rest of us.
I actually LOVE that feeling and I will continue to see that woman until those feelings of walking on air, just by reliving my last session with her until those feelings simply go away on their owe, and they always do. For me at least. Maybe in your case those feelings don't go away and you fall hopelessly and endlessly in love, but for me "eventually" i get tired of every woman I am fucking. Sometimes after seeing her only once, other times it doesn't happen until after fucking her hundreds of times, but it ALWAYS happens eventually to me. So I have no need to keep things in "perspective"
the first time with a lady or after many times.
It is time to see someone else when the smile disappears and the afterglow is extinguished.
If I think of a lady I have seen and I don't smile, then it's time to see someone else!
getting too involved for your own good, that is, you could end up doing something rash like marrying her, no?
I can't think of why one would otherwise want to cut oneself off from such a pleasurable experience
Or continue to see her regularly but keep others in the rotation as a reality check?
I agree everyone needs to be self aware and guard against falling in love here, but I do not agree that the smile and glow you describe is proof, in and of itself, that one is crossing that line and needs to hit the panic button and get out.
Why did you put this on the newbie board? You didn't ask a question, but are you looking for advice? Surely there is a reason you chose to put this here.
Posted By: Fearghas
Or continue to see her regularly but keep others in the rotation as a reality check?
I agree everyone needs to be self aware and guard against falling in love here, but I do not agree that the smile and glow you describe is proof, in and of itself, that one is crossing that line and needs to hit the panic button and get out.
Why did you put this on the newbie board? You didn't ask a question, but are you looking for advice? Surely there is a reason you chose to put this here.
Ah, the written word is so challenging at times...
NO, I did mean to suggest walking away from a gal who leaves you with a glow. I, too, treasure that glow... but indeed I "fall for" each gal in turn.
When I first played this game, I had success with one & stayed with her which was a mistake: I let her get away with things I shouldn't have, she took me for granted & service suffered. I went away for a year & saw others... when I circled back it WAS part of a 3-4 gal rotation.
I did not explain my post very well... Sorry... my intention IS move to the next in rotation.
I placed this on the Newbie Board in the spirit of sharing.
I had a similar experience many years ago, only it went even farther, crossing over into a very dysfunctional OTC dating relationship with the provider. I have a new ATF now, but I think that I am mature enough now to keep it at that level without developing inappropriate feelings.
Posted By: harborview
Posted By: Fearghas
Or continue to see her regularly but keep others in the rotation as a reality check?
I agree everyone needs to be self aware and guard against falling in love here, but I do not agree that the smile and glow you describe is proof, in and of itself, that one is crossing that line and needs to hit the panic button and get out.
Why did you put this on the newbie board? You didn't ask a question, but are you looking for advice? Surely there is a reason you chose to put this here.
Ah, the written word is so challenging at times...
NO, I did mean to suggest walking away from a gal who leaves you with a glow. I, too, treasure that glow... but indeed I "fall for" each gal in turn.
When I first played this game, I had success with one & stayed with her which was a mistake: I let her get away with things I shouldn't have, she took me for granted & service suffered. I went away for a year & saw others... when I circled back it WAS part of a 3-4 gal rotation.
I did not explain my post very well... Sorry... my intention IS move to the next in rotation.
I placed this on the Newbie Board in the spirit of sharing.
... I'll share something I learned early on in this so-called hobby. It's helped me keep my head (and other body parts) on straight. Maybe it will be helpful to Newbies.
When you find a provider who makes you smile (inside if not with your face) every time you think of her, and even makes you glow a bit... you're a very lucky guy--or gal, in case lopaw reads this. 
Then the trick is to treat your relationship with this provider for what it is: a mutually-beneficial business arrangement in which you not only get good value for your money, but you get the bonus of liking, even loving, the person who provides the paid services. (Note: by "love" I don't mean romantic love, but the kind of love you might have for a friend.) You don't just enjoy the quality of the services she provides, but you really enjoy her company. It's very possible the provider will see you in the same way, and look forward to your sessions with her.
Where some people mess this up is to start thinking of the provider as a girlfriend or lover and not a provider. And if she's ok with that, fine. But be very sure she's ok with going beyond a professional relationship before you push that boundary.
This is why I prefer seeing providers who are in a strong, loving committed relationship. I think it grounds them and greatly reduces the chance for "complications". In fact, I had to recently break off contact with a provider who is wonderful at her job, but has a jealous/possessive streak that gave me a red alert at the back of my neck.
After reading this, I need to take down my last post....
Thank you
The current provider I'm seeing is like the high school cheerleader that everyone wanted to ask out on a date. Just texting her gets me so excited to see her. Am I smitten with her? Absolutely!
Lighten up - some of us are so stuck on condemning and flogging ourselves for having a good time.
There are enough depressing things in this world to make up for a few moments of joy after a date. Some of the best parts of sex and companionship are the images that pop up into your mind afterwards.
If we can feel pleasure in a natural state, then we are built for pleasure - and should partake in it.
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