I have found a provider on the site that I want to try my first talk therapy session with. She seems great and I reade some reviews that indicate she knows how to make first timers comfortable. My only question is what is the best way of conducting business? I plan to bring an envelope with me marked 'Donation' but I am not sure how to make the actual exchange. Can someone please advise on the best way to do this for first timers?

You are definitely in the right place!

DO. NOT. MARK. THE. ENVELOPE!!!!  Unless the provider tells you to do this, just put it in a plain, unmarked, unsealed envelope.  

As soon as you enter, set it down in plain sight.  Don't mention it.  

I've included a link with helpful Newbie advice regarding this very issue.  Hope that helps!

 
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If so, and there are instructions there, follow those instructions exactly.  

Otherwise follow Debbie's sage advice.

For a newbie, check her website and follow her instructions. If she says "Plain, unmarked, unsealed envelope" go with that. Some say that a birthday card (don't write anything, just use the card and unsealed envelope as a money holder) is OK.  

Does her website specifically say to leave it in the bathroom? (You go to wash your hands, leave it on the sink or toilet.  You exit. She goes in to wash her hands and checks that all is in order.) Then leave it in the bathroom.  

Does she host from a hotel? There are usually some easy, obvious places on the hotel furniture. As you take off your jacket, remove the envelope, walk over to the TV and slide it under the corner of the TV, just enough so that it doesn't fall and remains visible. Then, back to the place where you were hanging up your stuff.  

The nightstand often has good spots for a safe landing: lean it up against the lamp base; slide it under the clock/radio just enough to keep it from falling but not enough to obscure it. If there's a small desk, I look for something on the desk to serve as a paperweight to keep it in place without hiding it.

If you are seeing her at a private place, you can probably find similar things but even more options. Many studio apartments have a kitchen counter of some sort that is part of the main room.  

If she is neat and orderly and has removed her shoes and placed them by the door (instead of flinging one up to the chandelier and kicking the other shoe under the bed), you can tuck the envelope into her shoe. Well, I did, and there was no problem.

You can be obvious without being TOO obvious and you don't need to say anything or at least not anything specific. "I'm just going to leave this here." while tucking the envelope under the TV is usually OK. But you don't have to say anything at all.

Good luck

Wondering if there is a general preference for Mr. Jackson or Mr. Franklin as an historic figure?

donation envelope, car keys, cell phone (in the "off" position), etc. When I leave, I pick up the cell phone and car keys and am on my way.

The only exception to this is when the provider has explicit instructions on her website to do otherwise.

I also like to have my pockets empty when I dress SO my habit is to empty my pockets on the corner of her dresser next to where I'll put my clothes.  The envolpe (if you use one) is to keep your pre-counted donation together...  if she does not give directions, I use a paper clip for the same purpose.  If she does give directions, follow them.  It's a trust issue...  if you can't follow basic instructons, how can she trust you to follow important ones?    
Once you have placed the donation, do not "watch it" or pay any more attention to it.  She might check it or remove it...  or it might sit there until you are gone.

There are no instructions on site. Site only has contact info and advertisement of companionship
services. I actually have never seen a provider's site that has these instructions durin my research,
only ammounts.

Thanks for the help! I am very surprised that you guys keep mentioning that providers' sites have this info. I have been researching providers on here for over two months and have never seen instructions for exchanging the donation, only
the donation ammount. Am I perhaps missing something?

Some have it, some do not. Some have it in their "FAQ." Some have it under "Etiquette." Some under "About." Or not at all.  

What was described here (blank, unsealed envelope; discreetly placed) is GRAS - generally regarded as safe. She should have no complaints.

Good luck.

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