This is not abnormal.
I know a very well reviewed provider who has appearance ratings which probably average out to a 5. Many of her clients see her for her exceptional skills, and not her looks. There is nothing wrong with that in my book. Some guys find her a 4 and others an 8.
In your case I would concentrate more on your performance scores then your appearance scores.
You don't want to let lower appearance scores bother you too much. You will probably get your share of higher appearance ratings at the same time.
I'm fairly new with 3 reviews now, all my pictures at the oldest 6 weeks old and I keep myself up as far as look and size wise my weight never fluctuates and I'm always taking pictures so when a client sees me i'm confident I don't look any different from my pics because of how often I take them so how do I take or what do I do if I as usual go all out during my appts but then all of a sudden get a review on looks and performance that's in huge contrast to my other reviews. I again no matter the time of day or night I really go all out w/ my performances so could it hurt me and again what do I do?
Appearance is not the same as the questions about the photos being real or accurate.
Guys have (as do women) a large variety of what we find attractive (skinny, slim, heavy, fat, etc) in bodies and faces.
You have a pretty explicit photo of your face, so if you weren't his cup of tea he should have stayed away. The review said pretty good things about your performance, and his issue was your appearance.
It's hard not to, but I suggest caution with the ratings numbers due to this. The variations can even appear in performance as some guys want wambam, and others want to be told how big they are. We can't be pleased as a species by one approach - dammit!
Keep on it, and move on. The better clients can interpret some of whats going on with the reviews by reading the details.
Exactly and good advice but is it me or is him saying if you're not worried about looks pretty rude? Looks wise I might not be his cup of tea but excuse my language that made me go damn.... and he gave me a 3 at that, it's just the super contrast in pretty much his view of how I look to him and well literally any other client i've ever seen telling me I look way better than my pics. And I don't get him saying I look much larger at that than my pics when my weight stays the same and like I said my pics are fairly recent about 6-7 weeks old at most so there's no way I look drastically different. It's a very odd review to me and even the rating. If it was so great.... just a 6? I can move on but hope it doesn't hurt anything..... just weird.
Don't get me wrong. I thought it was rude, but that's all the more reason to not worry about it.
As a potential client, I read that crap and say that he's a fool. Not because he didn't care for your appearance, but because he made it sound like he was surprised.
And I again given how recent my pics are he shouldn't have been but eh lol.
most gents realize that they are nigh on to useless.
Some of the ladies that get 10s I have to ask myself - WTF?
Same with some of the ladies that get 7s
Guys ideas of attractiveness vary in the extreme.
I know it's gotta be hard for you but do realize that experienced reviewers are used to seeing varying opinions about a lady's appearance and will make up our own minds, usually based on website pics, as long as we are not being told that those pics are fake.
Speaking for myself, once a lady looks good to me personally and there is no question of her pics being fake, I place much much more emphasis on performance.
Hereagain I do not rely on performance "scores" as much as on the content of the lady's reviews.
You are going to be OK - and welcome, by the way
Good stuff...thanks for the reply....good to be here.
This is not abnormal.
I know a very well reviewed provider who has appearance ratings which probably average out to a 5. Many of her clients see her for her exceptional skills, and not her looks. There is nothing wrong with that in my book. Some guys find her a 4 and others an 8.
In your case I would concentrate more on your performance scores then your appearance scores.
You don't want to let lower appearance scores bother you too much. You will probably get your share of higher appearance ratings at the same time.
To a good amount of men I see though clients or regular guys more often than not i'm definitely not called homely I think i'm bothered most by the "if you're not concerned with looks" like i'm fugly or something.
One person is not a sample size when it comes to data. You have two other good reviews in the same time-frame so I think "most" potential clients would be able to see that one review for what it was, just an outlier.
I'd only worry if you start getting multiple reviews that question your pictures versus reality.
Lol I do hope so.... appreciate the reply....thanks. And i'll never have that problem with fake pics because I love taking pictures and always use my own and try to keep them as recent as possible. The only thing that changes with my looks is my hair lol.
All I have to go on is your pictures. You may be 'fit & healthy' but you are large. If one takes the time to look at the pictures, one can see that... and my 'puter has a extra large screen so I can see better than a smaller screen. The pictures are dark & small. Better lighting & pictures that open to a good size would avoid misunderstanding.
I think there is room in the business for all shapes & sizes. The client stated he was surprized by your size which I think was an honest remark. I think he graded you very harshly for that.
Guys like large breasts... natural breasts are mostly fatty tissue (as I learned as a swimming instructor). Real women with naturally large breasts are typically well padded. What did he expect?
Again, I appologise. I have been brutally frank... because tough love is what you need to be successful.
Best Wishes,
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Um.....I didn't really say anything about my fitness or health though AND it's not like I've never well advertised to be slender or fit. I know i'm not and I'm aware of my size soooo my thing is given my pictures being so recent and my size and weight never fluctuates I don't really get the whole she's much larger than her pics or w/e....I was like huh because i'm the same size 15/16 I have been for the last 6 yrs.... so there's no way literally that I am bigger than my pics make me look. I'm kind of agreeing with the first reply that period if I was not his cup of tea he shouldn't have seen me. So he should not have been shocked or surprised by my size when I am what I am from my pictures....it's the same body.
I'd like to throw in that he also has emailed me calling me sexy & beautiful and actually wants to see me again for an hr session which takes me back a little bit given how he reviewed my looks in his opinion and my performance (the number doesn't match how great he described it).
reviews on all the providers he sees. He seems to me to be looking for consistently lower rate ($-$$)services and expecting hi-dollar ($$$$-$$$$$) type ladies. The OP of this is very upfront with her website and pictures. The services were well provided but the reviewer IMHO is selecting his ladies with rose colored glasses while on-line but not wearing them when he arrives. I also think he is someone who gets pleasure out of writing poor reviews as a way of putting down some of these ladies also. Just my .02
Maybe my looks aren't higher end to some but maybe i've been lied to all my life because i've always been call everything far from ugly or "homely" which I said to another provider is a nice word IMO for ugly but it's odd he still wants to come back for an hr session which is $$$ and yeah I had another hobbyist say something on the lines of he likes giving bad reviews but he said it could be the guy wants to keep certain girls to himself but i'm too new to be given such an inconsistent review because he got what he saw in those pictures nothing bigger and definitely not homely. I wish I could see how he reviews others but i'm not VIP so I can't.
Hi Ms. Mocha,
I don't get it either. It was rude as hell to rate you so low! After all, you not only have pictures of your luscious body, you also have multiple shots of your lovely face right on your website. Probably 95% of the ladies on TER don't have the guts to do that!
I love women with curves. And you are definitely a beautiful, sexy woman! But if you weren't his "cup of tea", why did he come to see you?
Some guys are just a-holes. The fact that he wants to come back says it all. What a jerk! I would tell him to go to hell. He should go find someone he doesn't consider "homely".
Based on seeing your photos, you will get plenty more higher scores. And when you do, people will see that he is WRONG!
Meanwhile, keep your head up and know that lots of guys think you are hot and sexy. And from the sound of your reviews, people who have seen you leave VERY satisfied! In the end, that's all that matters.
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To an extent not only was it rude but again the last bit about if you're not concerned with looks was nothing short if insulting considering the huge vast majority of my visitors say either my pics do me no justice or I look better overall than my photos so to be called homely was confusing. I contacted him politely asking him a few things about the review in response to him wanting another appt with me but i've yet to hear from him. Hobbyists trust hobbyists words far more than the providers so I just hope his fishy review doesn't affect future clients. I appreciate the response.
I understand why you are concerned. When a provider is new to TER, their first reviews are critical. Getting one like that would upset me too.
But I still believe that when you get a few more solid reviews on this site, people will just write off what that joker said. Some of us already have. And as long as you keep getting good ones after this, you will be fine.
In a round about way, this post could turn out well because I live in the DC area and have noticed that you are local. It caused you to appear on my radar. So maybe I'll pay you a visit and then write a review.
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Lol I hope most do...i've done okay this week but not as well as the last I hope most didn't read into the ratings or him insulting my looks, trying to chalk it up to it being end of the month coming up lol. Lol well whenever you decide to you can hit me up via my cell or email or here lol.
..all of them 8's and 9's in appearance). Out of nowhere, the latest reviewer gave her a 3 in appearance. After a few more good reviews, most guys will disregard the review you're worrying about.
I hope so....I've seen a lot of people many repeats but it's rare one goes out of their way to make me a review but again I hope so because I'm lol far from homely. Thanks for replying.
When I am considering a prospect, I scan the last page or 2 of reviews. I read them all paying particular attention to highs or lows. I do not necessarily eliminate a lady with a single low mark. If there are a lot of large swings, I decide her performance is variable... maybe chemistry or body type?? so I would pass.
Very often reading a single low review, I quickly discover a reason or bias & not always her fault. If a client states "not my type" but went ahead & booked the appointment... that's his fault.
I EXPECT small variations as each unique pairing is... well... Unique. Maybe a 7-8 range or 8-9 range. I would not book with a provider whose pictures I did not feel were "attractive"... a "7"... in my opinion. That said, there are many styles of attractive. If she's the girl in the pictures, there will not be an appearance issue.
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If you get the clients TER handle you can read his other reviews. You can get an idea of he's like. Now, not all clients are members of TER and not all TER guys will want to give you their handle. But it is worth it. And since he wants to see you again, if you accept, maybe he'll re write the review. Bottom line, don't lose any sleep over it. Good luck.
I totally agree with HH on you need to get VIP membership.
But I disagree about seeing the guy again so he might change his score. He doesn't deserve your time. I mean, the jerk saw your pictures before meeting you. For him to turn around and say "if you don't mind her looks" and said you were homely. I would tell him to F-off.
Besides, you don't know if he actually would change it. So don't give him the satisfaction of seeing you again.
And I agree that you should not lose any sleep over it.
I don't plan to see him again for the sake of a higher score....I like repeat clientele lol but not desperate for it and I'm nice and all but not big on and chances. I won't go into saying f-off I'll remain classy about it but yeah i'll be find lol thanks for the reply.
I totally don't get it... I think he was very harsh, even rude... and then he wants a repeat? What the ????.
I have always said the most important thing in a review... or in this case, the final word... is would he repeat? If he said he'd want to repeat (even if it's not in the review) then I that's proof enough the even he recognizes he graded too harshly.
I don't blame you for not wanting to see him again... I'd not be able to ignore the hurtful remarks.
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On here and through PM I'm being told he rates everyone so harshly. I don't want to be rude so my way of getting questions answered other than when I politely contacted him was to post here. Inconsistent or rude reviews don't bother TER much. By no means am I homely but a provider wrote me who gets 8 and 9's on both sides told me she also read his reviews and for looks or performance he never gives higher than a 7 and grades 5-7 on avg anyways even if he really enjoyed his time with the gir. *shrugs* I been over it though lol.
Never call a hobbyist up because you don't like his review. It is very obvious that your feelings are hurt, and you need a thicker skin to survive and thrive in the hobby.
Inviting him to your thread may just get you more of what you don't want. You will also risk getting a reputation as a review Drama Queen.
Trust me on this. I know what I am talking about.
mostly complimentary.
He made an observation about her photos. That was his perception. He was there in the flesh.
There was nothing rude or harsh about it.
We do want honesty in our review system on TER, or at least I do. Right?
BTW, if TER thought the review was harsh and rude it would not have been posted in the first place. You are welcome to check the review guidelines for yourself.
I haven't but At latest by the end of next week I'll be going VIP but since a lot of people I see don't have an TER handle but thanks for the reply.
Interesting and thanks for the reply. Definitely the girl in my pics so I don't get why he was surprised about size. I still don't get if I wasn't his thing physique or looks wise why he came anyways and then rate me like he did...because me at least getting 7's on looks and then he hits me with a 3 I dunno kind of an ego blow lol.
MM, What happened to the links to your websites on your TER reviews page?