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azphatboi 15 Reviews 1440 reads
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Gia, if you were my provider, I'd definitely be trying to stiff you. (if you know what I mean)

Sorry, when I saw your post, I had to make the joke.

HDDOC963161 reads

So i called and set up a 2 hr appt. but when it was passed on provider thought it was only 1 hr.  She is provider i have seen before but when 1 hr wound down it was obvious the appt. was over.  The provider knowing it was a 1 hr date had left me happy and fulfilled.  Only problem she had taken the envelope with the payment for 2 hrs.  So yes I explained I had paid for two hrs and would need to adjust the envelope.  I know there is to be no discussion of the envelope but i cant afford to pay for a extra hr not provided.  It was obvious that the provider was a bit "freaked out" by this but i really did not see another option as it was the service that had made the mistake not her or myself.  I have since seen her again and all is well but there has got to be a better way to handle this type of situation.

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SinsOfTheFlesh1264 reads

Yes, there is a better way. She should have adjusted the envelope to reflect the amount of time spent. If you told her that you had paid for 2 hours, and she provided only one hour, that is no different from theft. The rule about not talking about the envelope applies before you meet her and when you first meet her. At the end of the date though, if the envelope doesn't match the time provided, there is nothing at all wrong with mentioning it. If she doesn't make it right, don't see her again. That was on HER, not you.

Sorry for your experience. That is not how it should have been.

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keystonekid1043 reads

Obviously, either she didn't count the envelope (a lot of ladies count the money while you are in the restroom or go to the restroom themselves to discrete count the money) or she thought you were giving her a big tip.

Maybe, as she was wrapping up the date at the 1-hr. mark, you could have said something.  "Honey, I thought our date was for 2-hrs.?"

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ipeesittingdown1290 reads

also, when i correspond via email, i always mention, "looking forward to our 2hr. meeting @ 4pm on 6/26/09" ....always confirming time, day, of date, esp on the morning confirmation....maybe a little anal retentive, but reinforces & reminds..

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azphatboi1865 reads

Great reply Gator.  You hate to say it, but even though it mught be a GFE, it's still a business.  If you hired a band for a bar and they said we'd play for 2 hours in an email a month ago and they played for an hour, you'd say something.  Luckily with TER reviews, if you pay for 2 hours and get 1 hour, we can say something about it.  Likewise if you pay for an hour, the girl doesn't look at the clock and find out you got 1hr 15 min, we can give her a good TER review.  Of course, in both cases YMMV.

Thanks TER for being here for both the provider and hobbyist.

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Bostonguy571237 reads

I don't think she was "freaked out" I think she was probably trying to scam you.  Once you have seen a lady more than once and she knows you are not LE there is no reason why the donation can not be talked about.  This is not a super secret society where you are never allowed to discuss things.  The initial discretion regarding discussion of money is always important on a first meeting until both parties feel safe.

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Giamarie Lynn1694 reads

Really you do not want to talk about the envelope when you and the provider do not know if you are dealing with LE. Once you figure out that is not the case, communicate.

Tonight, a regular counted incorrectly and left the wrong donation. I communicated. He apologized and corrected his mistake (we have been seeing each other for 6 months, so I know he was not trying to stiff me).

If a gent leaves double the hourly donation and stays for only an hour without communicating, I will assume he is tipping me with the hourly rate. It has happened to me before, so it is not farfetched that some gents leave that huge of a tip.

Communicate with her the mistake and get your money back or get it on for an additional hour!

Xoxo,
Gia:)

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azphatboi1441 reads

Gia, if you were my provider, I'd definitely be trying to stiff you. (if you know what I mean)

Sorry, when I saw your post, I had to make the joke.

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