I am a tender hearted guy. I have been in email contact with a local provider that I would love to see. She has told me she is not going to be able to provide incall  much longer because she uses her place for incall and she has 7 days before being evicted. My instinct it to give her an advance to help her out. Do you think I am just being scammed?

How well do you know her, or do you know her at all? Personally, I wouldn't do it. It could be that she's taking advantage of your tender-hearted nature.

don't do it!!!!  If you had already seen her a few times and established a friendship, maybe.  But since you have not even seen her once, I would be very reluctant to front her any money.  She might be telling you the truth, but then again, she is probably just trying to hit you up for some extra money.

Swim

If you want to help her out, make your date for two hours.  But whatever you give her, you need to receive value in return.

Don't give any advances out of the kindness of your heart.  This is a cold business disguised as an intimate affair.  Believe me, if the situation were reveresed, and you were really depressed, horny and broke, she wouldn't give you an advance on her services based on your promise to pay her back.

... if she was just informing you about no more incalls that's ok.  Have you seen her before? If not, I wouldn't see her at all.  That's kind of personal info you don't tell someone you don't know.  To me, it's a red flag, if you haven't met, and she's potientially trying to hit you up for money.  How would she be once she knows she can hit you up... not a good thing.  If you've seen her before, and want to be kind hearted, why don't you do both of you a favor and book an appt.  That way you are both getting what you want.  and not getting scammed.

is whether she "asked" you for an advance, or if it's something you thought of on your own. In either case, don't do it. If she asked, steer clear, and find another lady. If it's your idea, book an appointment with her for multiple hours, and if you have a good time, make another date or two. She'll appreciate the extra cash, and you'll be happy as well. That way, nobody comes out with the short end of the stick.

thought that you can rescue the lady in distress.  This is a business for the ladies and a hobby for the guys.  If you can't book an appointment before she "gets evicted", then spring for a hotel room and book a 2-hr. appointment to help her out with the extra cash.  As another poster has said, you should get some value for your cash.

except that I wouldn't even book her, were I you.

Here's my reasoning.

1. People are generally extremely embarrassed in this country about anything having to do with a shortfall of money. If someone ran low on funds for the phone, they don't say "I couldn't afford the bill." Instead, they say "The phone company messed something up." This country is the world leader in equating wealth with virtue, and lack of wealth with lack of virtue. So folks don't just tell strangers "I'm being evicted."

2. Eviction, particularly in urban areas, is a drawn out and tricky thing. In some cities, it can draw out for months. (Around where I live, it's a snap, though.) Just by coincidence 7 days until eviction? Hmmmm.

3. Men (try to act shocked) are easily manipulated by women. This isn't a failing -- nature made it that way because men wield big clubs and women needed to be able to bring other forces to bear (e.g. "feminine wiles.") in order to counterbalance that ability.

IMO, and I am NOT a mind reader so I could be all wet and way out in left field, this woman is already trying to manipulate you in some fashion.

Pay for play or not; natural forces are at work here. Unless you are supremely confident in your ability to be a cold hearted bastard in the midst of afterglow while she's giving you her very compelling sob story, IMO sleeping with her would be unwise.

These other guys have a different take. MAYBE she is really telling you the truth, after all and manipulation is the furthest thing from her mind. You'd be a better judge of that than I.

And if that's the case -- their advice to book two hours with her -- so she earns her rent -- is a good idea.

If you give her an "advance" you set the stage for being "scammed" as you put it.  There have been many posts over the years of guys who "advanced money".  Some reported getting repaid, more did not.  Some good relationships were spoiled.  Why even go there?

A Fav of mine needed cash...  I thought it over & decided I would give her preferential treatment in my usual plan hobby schedule.  Each time when I leave, the donation is on her dresser.

You do not state if this lady is "well reviewed".  Have you even checked her reviews?  Her reviews will tell you if she is a reliable
provider...  or not...

A non-reviewed provider (or alledged provider) is very risky for scams, ripoffs, underperformance, bait & switch (fake pictures), upselling.  This is not to say that there are not a few unreviewed jems out there waiting to be discovered but you SHOULD pass until you have more experience & devolupe a spidy sense!  

If you choose to take this risk, do NOT "advance" her money.  Paying for a session is enough.  
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BTW, providing from a home apartment is NOT discrete...  This hobby is all about being discrete.  Complaining neighbors call landlord or LE.

Thanks guys for all the help. I had not even thought about complaining neighbors! She is well reviewed. Just the same I may just wait until I can actually visit with her to "help" her financial situation.

DG