Hello,

I have found a provider and will be going through my first session on the 26th. I have booked the weekend at a nice hotel on the beach.

As a first timer, is there any tips you want to give? Also, concerning etiquette issues, what are the DONT's I should be aware of?

Also, one thing that has been troubling my mind, and I hope to not offend anybody, but how can you make sure you are limiting any sexual transmitted diseases? I understand that screening on our parts is crucial, but if there anything outside the norm, I would most welcome it.

Many thanks...

Are you going to see the lady for the entire w/e, or will she be just visiting you while you are there?  Personally, I would be careful about a long visit for your first time...chemistry is crucial, and you'll probably be nervous as hell when you first meet.  I didn't book my first overnight until I was two years in, and even then, had fifty visits under my belt with that lady, so the comfort level was long established.

Etiquette...just be a gentleman, and remember that good hygiene is essential.  And don't be cheap...this hobby is expensive, and be ready to pay for everything.

As for STD's, if you have educated yourself on the risks, there is little more to add.  I have been hobbying for almost five years, and am 0 for about 300 in catching anything.  If you have an SO at home, you need to be mindful of that.  Make sure to use condoms as you and she see fit, and bring along a supply of your own just in case.  

Best of luck to you, dude!  Have fun!

Are you sure you want to schedule an entire weekend with a provider without getting your feet wet first?

Most hobbyists would not even schedule a dinner date without meeting a provider for a couple shorter dates first. This is mainly done to make sure the chemistry is right and an adequate comfort level exists between the two of you.

Scheduling a whole weekend with your very first "hobby date" is a bit much in my opinion.

Make sure you do your "pre date" homework and get an idea of what to expect by reading her reviews in their entirety. Get a VIP membership if you have not done so already.

Also read the "do's and dont's" manual. Link is at the top of the page.

If you have done your homework, STD risk should be low. If you see something (cold sores etc) around her mouth or lips pass on kissing and use a cover for BJ. If you see something not normal around her genitals (open sores, warts etc) pass on DATY. I am assuming a cover will be used for FS, if not then insist on it.

Sorry for not making myself clear...I am spending the weekend to golf and have booked her for one session only! I agree it would be a little too much for a first timer if I had her the whole weekend.  

Thanks for all the information.

Anything else to enhance the experience? What were your initial feelings before and during? I got to be honest, I am a little anxious, excited  and nervous about it.

Merc,
Excellent advice from CD & HT. You say "found a provider" I hope that means you've done your research and she is well reviewed. Being nervous and anxious on your first date is NORMAL. Any client who denies not being like that is not being totally truthful.  Be respectful and polite and you should do well. If she has a web site make sure you've read the entire site and comply with everything mentioned on it. If she has a blog feature on her web site, read all her blogs.  As many ladies say be "fresh" (recently showered & brush your teeth) no cologne (some ladies have allergies). Once the finances are out of the way you might want to ask her "do you have any rules" That's when she can reply what's off limits. If you are inclined to write a review (which I recommend) ask her when you're done if it's ok with her.
Good luck

For golf keep your head down!!!...lol

And for the provider, keep your head up!!!.ha.ha

Seriously, your first encounter will be just like probably all of us. It will seem more like a dream . You will be so nervous but enjoy that rush. You will go with the motions but it will almost feel like an outer body experience.

If you've really done your homework (read newbie manual back/forth), have VIP and picked a well reviewed lady for your first, then all should be fine. Do like me and let her know she is your first and if you are lucky like I was, she will be a Gem. She will give you all you can handle but in a very gentle manner. Make sure you use protection and also let her know what you like, when you would like it. The wonderful thing I've learned in this hobby is most of the pro's in the hobby business love to please and will gladly do what it takes to please you.

Good luck and post how it went. We all like knowing....Now FORE!!!!!!!!!!!

Show up clean and showered, no gal wants to see someone, who just came off the golf course.

I hope you have a great time,

jazz32

Being anxious, excited, and nervous is part of the experience.  I always am when meeting a lady for the first time!  After you get in the door, and laid the donation down, just take a deep breath, and let things flow at her pace.  If you picked a good provider, you will enjoy your time immensely, and likely have an extra spring in your step for at least a week! And, you may find you like hobbying more than golf.  I know I do!

but even though it will be a little surreal, just remember to bang it like a screen door in a hurricane!

#1 rule, remember to breath. Nothing brings things to a crashing halt better than you passing out. While said somewhat tongue-in-cheek, if you aren't a hounddog that has been chasing civvie tail for years, the experience is likely to be somewhat surreal (it was for me). Everything will seem in slow motion and in a haze. Just remember to breath and have fun. You may not get to do everything you may have imagined, but the provider is there to please you and you will have a good time if you just let things happen.

On a more practical note, make sure you eat something before she arrives. Obviously nothing that will give you bad breath or gas, but at one point during my first time my stomach started rumbling loud enough to be heard have the moaning and grunting. Didn't bring things to a crashing halt, but was commented on.

As for STDs, like most things in life, it is a calculated risk that you have to decide to take when engaging in sex with anyone. Obviously wear a cover for FS, BBFS is mucho risky. Kissing, DATY and BBBJ involve some risk, but a lot less with a well-reviewed provider who is probably tested regularly than with a civvie you picked up in a bar. If you search here on the newbie board for STDs, you'll find links to various studies, but it comes down to are you comfortable with the risk. If not, tell her so and move on to some other activity, there's no shortage of them!

Above all, enjoy yourself.