Alright, so I'm fairly new here (TER) and I'm still learning the culture and getting acquainted with the site, so excuse me if I'm asking something that's been posted before.  

Because I am an up and coming provider I haven't yet received any reviews. I know they come with time, so I'm not worried, though admittedly, and I know it sounds silly, I feel a little left out. Haha Anyway my question is mostly for the guys, but everyone's input is welcome. What makes you want to write a review? Are you most motivated by a polarizing encounter (really good or really bad), or more so by a unique or memorable one? When you decide to review a particularly stellar provider is it for the benefit of the provider or your fellow hobbyists, or is it just bragging rights

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... about the encounter... good or bad or in some cases... so-so.

You will get a lot of opinions on the validity of reviews.  
I'll give you a little "unscientific" list of the types of reviews that are given on TER.

1. Review of the encounter that is done with honesty
2. Review of the encounter that is NOT done with honesty (revenge? make a provider look bad?)
3. Review to score the free 15 days of VIP access that TER gives the hobbyists
4. Review by a hobbyist to score some "brownie points" with the provider ("brownie points" can be in the form of discounts, and/or longer sessions, or both)
5. Review by a pimp, boyfriend or a white knight to "enhance" the profile of the provider  

I'm sure others will give you more, but that's the gist of it.

Personally, I will write up an honest review based on the encounter.  
Yes, I have written up encounters where the whole thing was bad, even if the provider had gotten good reviews before.  
I will not bullshit a review for the sake of giving a review.  
I don't need that 15 day free VIP access because I pay for mine on a recurring monthly fee.

I believe that writing up honest reviews will help other hobbyists to make the right decision about setting up a session with that provider.  

TER content is essentially created and driven by providers and hobbyists. When I do research to pick a provider, I'm relying on the reviews of previous guys and gals who have seen them, and I'm counting on these reviews being accurate and honest. By the same token, once I see a provider, especially if it's one that doesn't have any or only a few reviews, I feel obligated to leave an honest review, so that others in the future know what to expect.

By the same token, because I'm very diligent with my research, I have yet to have a sub-par experience with a provider, and I feel leaving a honest nice review for them (when they want one!) is the nice thing to do!

Other than the reasons you have suggested, another reason for writing reviews is being asked. One of the quickest ways for you to get your first few reviews is to ask the guys you see to write an honest review of your time together.

to write reviews. A few reasons:  

Reviews are often refused by TER, and many of us have had the experience of having to rewrite them several ties to get them approved.  

Some guys don't like the idea of "kiss and tell". Similarly, some are concerned with discretion and not having a lot of documentation of their "exploits" out there on the 'net.

I tend to write reviews when it seems that there is a reason to do so:

1. For a new provider who needs them
2. For a provider who has not had a recent review (3-6 months).
3. If something about a provider has significantly changed from her past reviews.
4. For an especially great or poor experience.
5. If she asks for one.

Pretty simple, really. As a new provider, I'd suggest you simply ask clients to review you here on TER. I think most will be inclined to help you out if they had a good experience

Thanks for the feedback. I've never thought of it this way. From conversations I've had with other providers and through my own research, I just inferred that asking for reviews was in bad taste, like putting the client in an awkward position of implied obligation. Still not sure if I'd feel entirely comfortable going about it that way, but then again, 'closed mouths don't get fed' and all that. Haha

...Please feel free to write a review if you like. It was clear there was no pressure or expectations.

When you ask be sure to make it clear there is no pressure to write one. Don't ask for a good review. Don't mention ratings.

As with just about anything it's all in the approach.

+1

In my case I throw a different perspective on the whole play date experience, and although it's arguable how much viable info can be gleened from my reviews for a male hobbyist, I feel it can be of value to the general community. And I have had a couple of fellow lady hobbiest's PM me to inquire about my experiences, so I feel good about that.

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I have only needed to slightly change one of the seven reviews I have submitted (I have reviewed one provider twice) and otherwise have had all accepted painlessly.

as for the the providers I have met and not reviewed - one asked me not to as she did not like to be reviewed and the others were unremarkable encounters that I did not feel motivated to write about.

So, I'm generally not the type to write reviews. Understanding the need for them in the community, however, has made me consider how I go about it. Not writing a review doesn't really help anyone, but at the same time some providers like to stay under the radar and others want the promotion. Now, I have been trying to ask a provider before meeting them how they feel about reviews, so that I understand their feelings on the subject, and it wouldn't change my review since I'm asking in advance. Yes, all this will vary a lot between each person, but the is the way I go about it so that I contribute to the community, but at the same time, I don't write about experiences that are as personal for the provider as it is for me, so I consider it a respectful thing to do.

Hopefully, this adds to the already great responses you have gotten so far. I will say that this community gets great feedback from the providers I have talked to as well. I guess the attitude in this forum really does make it to providers often from folks on TER, so that was good to hear.