Had a few dates with my ATF, but they've all been 1 & 2 hour dates, mostly small talk and then the fun stuff.  Finally decided to spring for an overnite date with her, but now I'm wondering how do these go? I mean, after the first hour, then what? Scrabble?

Guys--can you share some ideas about how to be a hero...and how to avoid being a jerk!!

Ladies...can you share how I can walk away from this making sure she enjoys the night as much as I know I will?

You probably should have talked to her about this before you booked the overnight.

Overnight dates are not about non-stop boinking.  There has to be some compatibility for them to be fun. Definitely plan on dinner and maybe breakfast depending on what the time frame of your date is. The two of you have to get on the same page right off the bat as far as how much sex will be involved vs. how much down or chat time and even possibly some alone time for her.  Keep the lines of communication open. Ask her before the date what sort of snacks and beverages she likes and be sure that they are all sealed when she arrives.

Remember, it's supposed to be fun!

> after the first hour, then what? Scrabble?

Twister might be more conducive to a fun time.

You sound a bit unsure about overnight.

Whenever I feel like that  I usually commit to dinner date with possible extention to an overnight.


This way if something is not working for either party, they can gracefully end things after 4 rather than 12 hours together.

How would a perfect overnight go?  Here is what I consider usual scenario:

Most likely I have met my date during previous engagement.  So upon arrival we don't have the ice to break and can have some pre-dinner fun.  Dinner or social even usually follows, then back to the hotel.  Post dinner delight usually even more passionate since there is probably a lot of flirtation and teasing at dinner.

Finally, breakfast in bed and all fabulous fun that comes from having whipped cream and strawberries handy!

Hope this gives you some ideas

XoXo

Lina

If time permits you can add a walk to a late night coffee shop.  A massage, then change roles.  A shower for two.  Cuddling on the couch listening to music.  With candles or in the dark.  Standing out on the balcony watching the world go past (naked if the balcony allows).

Other will surely add to the list.

It all depends on you. Most girls will probably be happy that you enjoy her enought to have an overnight date. Definitely have some type of activity planned besides doing the nastey. Us girls do get sore LOL. Even buying a movie on pay per view isnt a bad idea. Just watever you enjoy. Definitely feed the girl! I mean you want her to have energy in bed right?!?! But if you plan on just romping in the sheets all night be sure to let her know this is what you wanting and if she is able to accomadate you. Enjoy tho! you will have fun regardless.

As you get to know your Companion better ...

When I travel with my patrons I ALWAYS take advantage of exra spacious bath tubs


Lina

What it should entail:  1st and maybe 2nd hour:  Consider this to be the appetizer.  It should be like a usual date with her.  Maybe spice it up a little with a glass or two of wine or champagne.  Do not go for MSOG!

Then, take her to dinner, and out for any activity you both agree with.  This can be a show, a movie, dancing, a concert, sporting event, a strip club, or just sharing another drink at some quiet spot.  When you get back to your/her room at the end of the night, it's dessert.  If you didn't go for MSOG earlier, you should have the energy to go again, and it should be like as your private time with her typically is.  After that it's time wind down, maybe have a last drink and just talk, and then fall asleep with you both wrapped around each other.  During this time, treat her like she's your girlfriend.  Don't push her for middle of the night play, unless she wants to.

In the morning, there should be morning play.  Again, let it flow naturally.  This is part of the deal.  Afterward, you should ask her to breakfast...whether she accepts or declines...go with it.

Good luck, dude, and enjoy yourself      

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It is wise to have an understanding in advance about the evenings plans so both will be on the same page.
There needs to be a necessary block of sleep time.  6-7-8 hours??  It is polite to ask her what she needs.
She may want or need some alone time...  be it in the toilet, shower, makeup, perhaps a private call to check in at home or whatever.  You should have the same expectations...    You don't have to be joined at the hip for X hours.

Need to have an understanding about start time & end, & how that meshes with the planned activities.
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Thanks!  I was worried about the snoring!  At least now I'll know she won't think I'm too wierd when I whip out the Breathe Right's!

First of all, she's in no danger of an all night marathon--unless I want to book a room at the local ER!

How's this...if I treat the evening like an elegant dinner. We start the evening off with an appetizer, which is pretty much like one of our regular dates.  Then the main course is actually dinner...there's a nationally known restuarant here, seven courses, takes a couple of hours or longer for dinner.  Then go back to room for desert!  Being able to wake up together...what better way to start a day, right? Then have some breakfast and that's it!  

I think the key focus is not being in a hurry, right?   Maybe have some other little ideas, and get her input as to what she'd like to do.

Than your first sleepover with a girlfriend.  I would suggest you start with a little bit of play.  Then go out for dinner or order in.  Relax, chat, recharge and more play.  When you get tired, you go to sleep, and set an alarm for the morning so you can have a little morning fun or a shower together.  If there is time you can order in breakfast or go down to breakfast.  Its nice to have a bottle of wine in the room to enjoy during the evening.

The key is to just relax and enjoy and let things happen naturally.

Highly recommended if your ATF is bi.

We had a lap dance from the lady who my ATF liked the best.

Definitely got both our motors running for our return to the hotel....

Good luck....

RM

My first appointment/date with a well reviewed provider is set for next month. We agreed on a 90 minute no rush session and it will be at a hotel since she only does outcalls.

Good advice.