Hi! I'm new here. I noticed that many of these providers require that I be vetted. I have no references. I have had a professional career as a university professor but beyond that I can't very well account for my recent years, my present, or my future. I seek not understanding but rather the services of a provider. I'm very open and direct and I don't lie, but I live so far outside of the bell curve I just don't want to get into it. Please don't assume anything. I have yet to find a balance between privacy and accessibility. How do I gain access to these most forbidden of fruits?

previous threads will surface.

I'm sorry if I wasn't too clear. I absolutely positively don't have employment at the university anymore. I sacrificed my California state employment for working 2 years on a project that doesn't exist. The company doesn't exist and my cash comes from nowhere, which makes it very difficult to spend (even on this - go figure). I have no qualms about giving up my personal info, but without a verifiable employee I need a reference according to date-check.com, rs2k, p411. I gave up 9-5 just like the ladies on here did- we both have unverified income sources. I'm going to start the process with p411 anyway, but I expect they will reject me eventually.

I noticed that the self-help links do not appear when you're reading a specific post.  

Your best bet would be to visit some of the Asian Massage Parlors, and slowly collect references to see FBSM girls who are independent and have reviews. From there, you can start breaking into the GFE market. As long as something sexual happened (does not have to be all out sex) most providers will accept references from massage parlors and fbsm girls, provided they can be checked out, or have reviews.  

Aha!  Thanks.