Help! I am a great provider who has been in the business for a little over 6 months. I have 25+ good reviews & many happy clients/regulars. Im honest reliable & genuine. About 2 months ago I came across a guy who was disrespectful, pushy, & wasnt following my set guidelines. I stopped contact with him & since then he is stalking me by posting negative ads (claiming I did a "cash& dash" to him & several others) on other websites each & everytime I post an ad, he has also contacted clients harassing them. I have done nothing wrong to this person, but can't seem to get him to stop & move on. Any advice is welcomed. I have considered changing my info, but feel that is an admission of guilt & Im not the one wrong in this situation. Besides even if I was to change my name , #, ect. He would still find me. I also do not want to lose all the great reviews I do have. This is greatly affecting meeting new people & growing as a provider.  

                                         Thank you for reading!   Dixie

That is step one.

Often that is enough to make a stalker go away.  You can also send TER any written harassment that he sent you to see if he can then get banned from TER.

If he continues to make life hell, then maybe the only thing to do is to disappear for a while by voluntarily delisting, pulling down your site and ads, and even changing your email and phone number until the guy goes away.

By the way, did this guy have references?  If so, be sure to contact the gals who gave him a reference so they no longer will do so.  Also send information to black listing sites to further isolate the guy.

So sorry this has happened

...everyone can afford to do that.

If you never saw the person then any review he's posted to TER is fake and you can ask it be removed.

I don't know how a client could post negative ads unless you're talking about some other site. If so then you might get some insights from others on how to deal with that but probably should be talking with the site admins for that site for best results.

Also, if he's contacting other TER members who have reviewed you and harassing them they can also report that to TER and have the person banned -- not really sure how you would know that but....

Dixie, TER ID: 305782 ?

The most recent cash-and-dash reviewer Dec-2016 does say, "I have seen her many times and gave a very good review earlier." Under TER's new policy, a new review does not bump the old review and his old review Oct-2016 is still there.  Is that the same guy? Is the Oct review legit, based on a real meeting?  

He's got 50+ reviews since Oct 2014 so he's keeping pretty busy. You can contact some of the Providers and ask them if his reviews are legit or fake, I suppose.  

This is a tough one. I hope that the truth will out and everything will turn out OK for everyone.

I was thinking she could still see guys she knows well and let them know why she is UTR for a while.

I've gone through this with a few gals over the years who faced exactly this kind of predicament

Not only does that guy have a lot of reviews, but his low reviews are corroborated by multiple other reviewers. In fact, after reading through a variety of his reviews, it seems like this guy often dismisses bad reviews because he is looking for a bargain, and then gets burned from time to time. I'm inclined to believe his review of Dixie.

You've come to the right place for solid advice, so you're off to a good start.

Having said that, I have to keep it 100 with you, so please don't take anything I say as anything other than constructive criticism.  

Cleveland is a tough market nowadays (I know quite a few of us who have toured there in the last year can attest to that), so I certainly understand the struggle. For some reason, Cleveland has seen a weird uptick in terms of cheap clients and time wasters. It's a huge bummer, but as a local you can make it work if you put forth the effort (a la Chase Cameron, Sicilia Capri, etc).  

Now I have to be a little harsh: after perusing some of your reviews, I think you may benefit from a complete rebranding. There's just really no easy way to escape two rip-off reviews and mentions of things like BBFS and not having your own condoms. I'm not saying that those reviews should be taken as gospel (for all we know, they could be complete lies), but perception is often very real to potential clients who may be scared off by such things. If they are in fact true, then those are clearly issues that you'll need to address before you can move on to greener pastures. If they're bullshit, then you'll need to figure out what it is that would inspire people to defame you in such ways. A lot of things are dependent upon the type of clientele you're attracting, which can often be attributed to things like price point, incall environment, screening methods, online presence, etc. Obviously if you intend to attract a higher-end clientele going forward, you'll need to make some investments in your business and persona.  

Don't let this stuff discourage you. You can reinvent yourself and start fresh with a new persona. Check out the highly rated ladies in your area for inspiration and make it a point to provide solid experiences. You're a cute girl and seem sweet, so use that to your full potential!

Tobi, well said and I agree with a re-brand. Take what you've learned the past 6 months and run with it. And this time, don't show your face. You never know, and those photos and ads live online forever, even if you think they've been deleted. Choose an elegant name and raise your rates. I think you'll be pleasantly surprised by the outcome.  

 

Thanks for the great advice! Being new to this "hobby" or should I say world..I have a lot to learn & improve on. You are correct about cheap men and time wasters. Those seem to be the only calls I get anymore! I visited your website and I have to say you are gorgeous and I am looking forward to the day where I am as successful as you. With more time, effort, and advice from wonderful people like yourself hopefully I am able to reinvent myself and grow in the business. If you have any other tips that I could benefit from please private message me! I could use a mentor, if you have the time and are interested that is. If not, I completely understand. Im very grateful for the insight you have provided.  

Tobi is a first class provider all the way and she is my ATF in the business.  You can learn something by heading her advice!

No problem whatsoever! You took my advice with absolute grace and that shows that you're off to a great start! PM coming!

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