Some providers like to talk to clients so that they get a feel for them, others like to strictly stay with email.

It is a good idea, IMHO, to banter back and forth a bit on emails, or phone calls; but if you think someone is taking advantage and will never be a paying client, you should cut them loose and ignore them.

First, I joined a verification site (P411) to make my introduction and screening for ladies easier.  I am not a big proponent of numerous, long emails, so, if I can't arrange a visit in 3 emails, I usually move on to another option.  Of course, I am more than willing to speak, over the phone, to a provider to make her feel more comfortable.   The bottom line is: too many back and forth emails is too much like civie dating.

Thank you both for your advice. It seems like I get people that are really new to the whole experience and just keep talking. I'm fine with that and I want my clients to feel as comfortable as possible, I just don't want to become "someone to talk to". Also, these people are very nervous about my screening process and typically don't go through it even after we've been talking for several days. I guess that's just what happens until I get more regulars...?

My email pattern is that I contact the provider with proposed times and ask availability. She gets back asking for verification and saying the proposed dates are ok once I am verified, she contacts me a second time saying that I verified and give me a phone number, I email her to set the date. I call at the agreed time and day to get her location.

Use of email is a good idea, it allows you to screen out unwanted visitors. I happen to think that a provider that relies on the phone and is willing to meet a stranger on short notice is setting herself up for many types of serious legal and safety issues.

I strongly suggest that you get set up with a verification site and use email only as the first point of contact until you have verified the potential client.

Amy,

Try not to get into sending a lot of emails to "potential" clients until they have taken the step to actually see you in person for one appointment. There are many "potential" clients out there that like to email and talk a ladies ear off over the phone but when it comes down to business they never go through with it. They are just looking for some attention (minus your end of the deal $$$).

For example one lady I saw quite a while ago had sent me quick to the point emails at first (before our first meeting). After our first appointment, I emailed her asking for a second. Then she starts in with the "I remember you" and a few emails are exchanged (more than just quick and to the point). Why? Because I had seen her in person and she was comfortable with me, knew me somewhat and knew I was willing to do business and not just all talk.

So don't waste your time with meaningless back and forth emails at the beginning, outside of verifying their information and to set up appointment times and a place.

I have no problem with a few nice (generally fairly short) notes back and forth with potential clients.  I restrict phone calls to already-screened clients with scheduled appointments, but if someone wants to talk on the phone for a few minutes before we meet - no problem.

BUT you will find LOTS of guys, some newbies, some scammers and some who simply should know better given their years of hobbying experience, that want to waste your time with way too many emails, calls, etc.  Some will say they want to get to know you before you meet, but they never actually schedule.  Some want to have phone sex, but they don't want to pay for it, so they call under the guise of 'asking a question' and slowly lead it down a path you ought not go.  Some want to set the stage for the meeting, choreographing the entire scene ahead of time and they don't understand that you have simply don't have time to write an entire erotic novel just for them.

You need to figure out where your boundaries are, and stick to them.  By all means, be friendly and approachable.  But don't be gullible - and some guys are very, very good manipulators.  I hate to say it, but probably only experience will teach you where your boundaries are.  Just keep your eyes open, and be very aware of your time management.

Thanks!

Thank you all for taking the time to help answer my question - there was a lot of good information! I'm sure in time, I will get better at telling what these guys are "up to".

Thanks again.

you will find your comfort level with each person. Don't be used and sucked into an e-mail abyss but make sure you are comfortable with the information they have provided you and you have made them feel comfortable. Time management is important or you are losing $$$.  I like to build the rapport through e-mail - typically I get the time and date set first and then go through the rest of the verification requirements, etc.

I don't chat on the phone or call anyone prior to the appointment and everything is done by e-mail. Once they are confirmed and I'm within 24 hours of the appointment I give them the number I will be calling them from. The people that drag out the emails without really committing to a time/date for a visit I just politely end communication with.

Have fun & Play safe!

Summer