Just curious as in what's the etiquette when trying to set something up. I've reached out to several providers at once in the past and just ignored the rest when I hear back from the one I really want to see, is this considered rude? If I ignored someone after initial inquiry (with my reference and things), will it affect my future bookings with her?

as you could be ignored back in the future if those ignored gals start to consider you a tire kicker.  

At least it is not as bad as actually setting two simultaneous dates in case one gal flakes. There are guys and gals who do that.  

48 hours is generally considered to be the fair amount of time to wait before contacting someone else.

you were in your original contact message.  If you requested a particular time and date, and then ignored their replies, that would probably not bode well for you if you tried contacting them in the future, especially if she accepted your offer of an appointment.  I know that were I in her place, I would not be happy to hear from you again.

For me personally, I only contact a single provider at a time.  If I get the date, I'm good to go.  If she turns me down, then I try another.  Since I am retired, my schedule is flexible and I am not time restricted as you might be.   I would strongly suggest you cut down the number of providers you contact at one time, as word may spread that you are a time waster.
And believe me, the girls do talk.

LLAP,
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I give them 24 hrs and then if I don’t hear back I’ll send a follow up. After the follow up Contact and another 24hrs I move on.  

I usually book a few days in advance, as I like to plan in advance. Many times I’ve gotten a response back from the first escort after my plans have been made the second provider I’ve contacted. My reply back is usually sorry Ithanks but no thanks, I’ve made plans.

want to meet a provider, the less time I have to wait for a reply. Example: If I want to see someone next week I will wait about 48 hours before contacting plan B. If I want to see someone in two weeks, I will wait longer, especially if I am sending my request email on a Friday before a weekend. There are some providers who do not check email frequently, especially on weekends.  

Please consider this: If you are sending your info ("references and things") in the initial contact, the providers might immediately set about screening you, then follow-up to agree to the date once you've passed muster.  
Since you have "several"  backups,  you have now wasted those providers' time, plus that of your references too.  
Then you not only don't schedule, but you also fail to reply? This behavior can get you Blacklisted as a TimeWaster.   Let me be clear: Ignoring someone is simply bad manners.  Please don't do that.  

Personally, I feel the polite thing to do is to reply with an excuse such as: "I'm sorry but my schedule changed and I can't make that day work anymore; I'll try again another time!".    
Yes, she might well assume that you booked someone else but I'd personally much rather get that than no response at all.  

 
The approach you've been taking can absolutely affect ever meeting your backup ladies as well as potentially impact your client reputation.  The latter could lead to difficulty in scheduling with anyone.    

 
As with anything, it's a good idea to try to put yourself in the other person's shoes, and imagine how you'd prefer the situation be handled.  

I find it’s a lot easier to reach out to the provider I want to meet a week prior to the appointment. I usually start with an E-mail asking if she is available on the requested day/time before sending a formal request. (Sometimes the person has not been active in a month or two, or is traveling or have day jobs). That has eliminated back and forth communication.

Most girls that are active repond to E-mails, or PMs on verification sites by the next day. If I don’t hear from someone I PM’d or E-mailed by the time I’m home for the night the following day, I’ll start over with someone else. Everything seems to go smoother for me when Im not in a rush, trying to force things to happen.

If you had one lady that you really wanted to see, then you should have just contacted her first instead of the barrage of inquiries that you sent out. And then to ignore their responses justs adds insult to injury. You should count yourself lucky if you're only on their DNS list instead of being blacklisted.  

Your best bet is to contact one lady at a time until you schedule a date and listen to Ms. Hollander.

You might want to research several who you think you might want to spend time with.  
     Only contact one, give a specific date & suggest times & a cut off to get back to you.  "If I don't hear back from you by end of day Thursday 12/24, I'll assume you're not available."   Give her at least 24 (48 is better) hours because many don't go through inquireys during their working day.  
    I'd wait until the next day before sending out an (1) additional inquiry.

You could also start by just getting prescreened by the lady/ladies that your interested in. That way , when you are ready to book , your window is must smaller.  I've been screened by ladies I haven't had an opportunity to book with yet. I don't consider this a waste of time. Hopefully the ladies will correct me if I'm wrong🤦‍♂️

a reply is always appreciated, its better than being left with no response..

couldn't have said it better myself

Yep, what she said. I actually had someone send me an inquiry in an 8 person group text message. Needless to say he didn't get one response.

If I am not meeting with you in the next week or so... it is a waste of my time.

Why? When you actually decide to book with me, I have to go rescreen you. So now I had to spend time twice to screen you.

I have literally come across guys who were fine with screening one minute and turned around and did some shady stuff in between his screening and seeing me. Maybe a minority are like that, but still.  

Honestly, I would not see a guy who felt the need to prescreen and turn around and not see me shortly. It's as much as time wasting as what the OP asked about.

In your ill defense, girls shouldn't take that long to screen and set up an appointment.

Yep - I agree with harborview; do your research, reach out and then give the lady time to respond.  48 hours sounds about right; I recently waited a mere 24 hours before making other arrangements and /then/ she got back to me.  It turns out she’d been having trouble with her phone and had to switch to an older one to get in touch with me.

And I /should/ have waited - just saw her today and OMG she was worth the wait and then some.  Sheeeit, she’s my ATF now.

But yeah, as others have posted; sending out multiple appointment requests and then seeing who responds isn’t cool dude.  The Ladies have lives too.

EDIT:  Oops - didn’t notice the initial dates of the OP and other posts.  Sorry for reanimating the dead (“IT’S ALIIIVE!!!”) 😃

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