No mention of $ or services - got it. Does this mean that the word 'menu' is verboten in all situations?

Until such time as you have met the lady and she is comfortable with you any mention of specific services, or a list of them, is not a good idea unless you enjoy getting hung-up on.

I never discuss finances period.  I know the rate & it's on her dresser when I leave.  
Sex is discussed in a whisper when we're both naked.  I never discuss on phone or e-mail.  
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never discuss it PERIOD.. folks cellphones are not secure.  With the proper equipment a cell phone can be tapped.

You want to schedule some time with the lady.  Do not mention $ or what you hope takes place during the time.  

Read her reviews to learn about her menu options.

What about a well reviewed provider that after verifying you openly discussed rates and many potential services...