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The overnight'er questions
onyx_percula 5 Reviews 1330 reads
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So I recently seen a new provider, new to me and fairly new to the business. We really clicked, I booked a two hour session, that ended up being a 4+ hour session with the overage being OTC time that we spent mostly talking, cuddling and making out.

I will be seeing her again this coming week.

So I have a couple of questions...

1) Her normal rate is $X/hour. I would like to arrange an overnight as an outcall with diner, movies (in my home theater) and sleep over with some time for morning fun. I value her time, but I also don't want to go overboard. So how should I calculate what is a reasonable rate for the overnight? (She doesn't have any published information on such, but I am pretty sure she is open to it). The area rate for overnight vary so wildly, anywhere from lessthan $1K to greaterthan $3K.

2) Since this would be a dinner date to my house overnight date, what would be acceptable to most providers concerning transportation? I guess we could both drive our own, I could pick her up at a location she is comfortable with, I would prefer to pass on the limo, as that would too much attention for my quite/tame neighborhood. I don't want her to feel trapped without transport of her own, I guess there are always taxis. Thoughts, ideas?

3) What should I avoid during this date? I am very respectfully and caring of the providers I see..

clarence37570 reads

You DON'T "calculate" her rate, SHE does. You propose to her what you want to do, she tells you how much it costs, you decide if you can afford it. If she is open to negotiation, go ahead.

There is no standard protocol for transportation. Just ask her what she wants to do.

I don't know what you mean by "what should I avoid".

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Bostonguy57497 reads

Just because she doesn't have an overnight rate listed doesn't mean she doesn't have a rate for it.  It's also possible that she doesn't do overnights on a regular basis-she may for you if she feels like she can trust you.

In any event, tell her what you have in mind and ask her what her rate will be.

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mrfisher538 reads

but from my experience, the one thing I try to avoid now is any excessive imbibing of alcohol.

No good seems to ever come of it; and an awful lot of grief does, however.

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Jamie.Solo452 reads

When I first started, I didn't do overnights at all, no matter how much was on the table, so I would ask her before you assume.

Like others said, she sets her rates not you.

The transportation thing, I would do whatever she is comfortable with

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onyx_percula497 reads

I guess I didn't state that too well... I was not planning to try to set a rate, but to get an idea what was a fair and reasonable from those more knowledgeable than myself is all.

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mrfisher366 reads



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perfectstorm452 reads

Since when is anything "typical" in this "business?" Especially rates!

I know one lady who has a 1 hour rate of 400 and a 14 hour overnight rate of 1000, and another who has a per hour rate of 500, period! You want to see her for 10 hours, it's 5000, etc.

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London Rayne430 reads

I've gone as low as 1200 for a 10 hour overnight, but the guy only wanted one pop before bed and another in the morning. I have also charged as much as 5k for those who expected me to be "on the clock" the entire time with zero sleep. If I have to take off a month of work because of an overnight, I am getting paid for the freaking month lol.  

The more sex you expect, the more it costs...I don't much care about sleeping, eating, etc. I rarely charge more than an extra 100 per hour for those things.

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joebunda90464 reads

As already stated by others, SHE sets the rate, SHE decides what she is comfortable with as far as transportation, and SHE sets the limits.

All that said, you mention she is new to the business, so it is possible she has not thought this scenario through and made decisions regarding all this.  It is possible she is not prepared or willing to do an overnight at this point.  It is also possible she is comfortable enough with you to openly discuss it.

IMHO the best approach would be when you see her this week.  After "play time" when you are both chilling, ask something like "I really enjoy when we don't have to rush through our to time.  What do you think about spending the night together sometime?".  If she is receptive then the door is open to discuss all the issues.

Be prepared to gracefully accept her saying no thank you.

1) This varies widely.  Some providers outline rates for specific time blocks and state certain limits.  For example, "12hr overnight $1800 - includes 4 hours actually sleeping".

2) If she is savvy, she will have transportation available.  Looking at it from a providers POV, I would not like to be "trapped" somewhere if the date went south.

3) In the morning, I would seriously avoid cooking bacon and eggs naked.

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onyx_percula394 reads

Make them scrambled, put both in the microwave... no worries :)

Posted By: joebunda90
 
 3) In the morning, I would seriously avoid cooking bacon and eggs naked.

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onyx_percula361 reads

Thanks to one and all, you have been helpful and informative.

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