I hope these haven't been discussed, and I apologize if they have. My search was unsuccessful.

 
Some background:
I'm 30 and have recently given this hobby a try. I've been with one provider twice in the past month, which is, to date, the extent of my experience. I had a great time, both outcalls to my apt, and the very well-reviewed girl blew my mind.

 
Questions:
1) Is it most common for hobbyists to simply find a favorite provider and become a regular? Or is continual experimentation with new girls more typical? Somewhere in between?

2) Is it awkward to review a provider knowing that she'll read it? Can it be uncomfortable to ask her to leave you a referral?

3) How common is it for a provider to genuinely enjoy spending time with a regular client, and does that change their relationship?

4) What makes a good client? (I know there's a list of dos and don'ts, but more broadly) Is it being conscientious and respectful? Reliable and punctual? Maintaining good hygene and grooming? Physically attractive? Skilled in bed?

Thanks!

You will get a variety of answers - most of your questions deal with topics discussed in various boards.
#1: yes and yes. In other words each hobbyist is different. Some have ATFs others don’t. There is no rule.
#2: no and no. She will not find it awkward - this is her business
#3: it does happen but don’t think too much about it. This is primarily a business for her
#4: the first three that you mention are very good rules to go by. As far as the last two, see my answers to #2 & #3.

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1) There is no 'normal' in this game, just preferences. Evidenced by the variety of providers in all sizes, shapes, colors, and kinks. Personally, I like variety but if I find a provider that clicks with me, I will stick with her for an extended amount of time, or time she is available. Usually two to three months if she is 'local'.

2) If you find it awkward, create an alias and write the review under the alias. If you are giving her glowing 10/10 scores, not awkward. If you are giving her 6/6 reviews for awesome service, yeah, awkward for everybody involved, including people reading your review. Don't be 'that' guy.

3) Remember she is in it for the money. While she may hate you less than other guys, its a business. She isn't going to hang out with you afterwards, extend your time, etc.  If this does happen, count your blessings, she doesn't have an appointment booked right after you, and you're probably not giving off creeper/stalker/serial killer vibes.

3a) Don't fall in love with a hooker. If you do, empty out your bank account and put all the bills in a pile and set fire to it. Does it happen? Yes, but very rarely.

4) Be clean, squeaky clean. Most importantly, teeth and mouth (brushing is not enough, and flossing just as you head out the door, probably not good enough - halitosis is a session killer). Followed by clean and filed fingernails and toenails. Women get infections easily, and your dirty little hands on or in her pussy is a good gateway to getting an infection or scratching an inner wall. Keeping your junk clean, in the crevices, and ass. If you take a dump, take a shower, even a tiny little bit of residue is noticeable.  She is a pro and won't mention it, but it will make for a less than optimal session. If your bush is well, bush, trim it. Tug on pubic hairs and remove loose hairs, or she'll spend time picking pubes out of her mouth - not sexy for anybody.

I would only add that re #1:  I have a group of regulars that I see about once every 10 weeks or so, plus another group of visiting gals I see once or twice a year when they come to my area.   In addition, I try to see one or two new gals a year, depending on my finances, of course.   I like the combination of variety and consistency that comes from this.

Re #2:  It was indeed awkward for me to write reviews at first, but in time I warmed up to it.   Reviews are good for all in the hobby.

Re #3:   You'll never know for sure, but I ended up marrying one gal that I liked very much.   So, it happens, but I suspect it is rare.   Sometimes a strong affection between a client and a provider can deep six a relationship as one or the other or both may feel that they don't want to cross that line, and the only answer is to remove the temptation.   Providers are particularly sensitive about causing the breakup of a marriage.

Re #4:  All that and I would add dress appropriately.  Wear a shirt with a collar that doesn't advertise anything, and shoes that are made from something that had parents.   Gals do notice this and the more special you can make them feel, the more special they will make you feel, if you catch my drift.

the advantage of seeing a variety of women. If you stick to one wonderful provider, someday she will decide to retire or maybe just plain vanish. Then you have no one to use as a reference.

If you see multiple ladies, then there is always someone to  ask for a reference. I tend to see about 3 ladies on a regular basis, anywhere from 3-5 times a year. I also mix in a few new ladies just for variety sake. It is good to get several new white list referrals as well as P411 OK's each year or so.

Enjoy this candy land.  

I feel that having a small number of favorites I click with is very rewarding.  Typically they offer slightly different services.  So if I feel like a FBSM, I go to a gal where that's  speciality.  If one gal is unavailable, I have others who I'm prescreened with.    
I only see gals that I feel have that potential... but often it doesn't work out.  
Right now my fav list is too small, 3 or 4 is a good number for me..  

I have not been known to stay with one particular provider very long. I have repeated (sometimes many times) with women I really liked, but I like variety too much not to wander. I do enjoy a connection if I’m lucky enough to find one with someone and am more likely to repeat if I genuinely get along with her.  

Last year I wanted blondes. Lately I’ve been more attracted to brunettes? Last year I was on some trip to be with women my own age. But recently I’ve been interested in being with younger women? Last year all I gotwanted was GFE, this year I just want girls with outfits who talk dirty to me LOL. I just do what seems fun to me and what pleases me at the time. It changes and there are all kinds of girls. That’s what’s so nice about this from my perspective. I have the freedom to play with who ever I want and have no commitments to anyone.

1.  I think the best bet is to have a line up of about five and rotate.  Do not see the same lady too often.  It takes away the novelty.  If you see too many ladies you start increasing your risks of the negatives in this hobby.
2. I personally do not like the review thing.   I have never asked for a referral but if the lady mentions it I am okay with it.  
3.  I think that some providers will definitely grow to like you in a "friends with benefits" type of way.   However, always keep frame.  I am very friendly but I know that the relationship is a fantasy for both of us and we do not want to get too serious.  Do not cross that line.  
4.   The reality is that good hygiene and good sex makes you a favorite quickly.     The ladies do have their behind the scenes communication and will tell each other who is great to be with and who is not.    

Okay I have only been doing this for a little over a year, I am also 30... I'm far from an expert and maybe still technically a newbie but I just have a different take on #1.

If you find a provider that you click with and want to focus all of your resources on them.. why not? Enjoy the time with them while you can. When the time comes and you can't see them any longer, you've been a newbie before and got started. You'll be able to do it again. At least I would think. Maybe it won't be as easy as having some references lined up but if you're having a good time maybe it is worth risking it being a bit harder to get back into it when the time comes.

Is we tend to get too attached... or she does... there are numerous threads which we somewhat jokingly refer to as "I've fallen for my provider & I can't get up."   Great sex will do that... it's largely hormonal.   I do tend to fall for her... but find that by deliberately rotating, I fall for each gal in her turn but then I have a great time with someone else... until I see #1 again.      

There may be times when your Fav gal is not available...  if you don't have a back up plan, you're left without.  I screwed up when I lost all my favs over a year plus & didn't find replacements...    

I may be the exception... not carving as many notches in my bed post as possible.  I try to see gals who I feel have the potential to become favorites.  Her look, her web site, her board posts possibly...  but it's only a guess until you meet face to face.  

Since I've been in p4p since 1992 (off & on), I've found that a mix of regulars with a touch of new providers provides the right balance for me.  

When I'm exploring whether a potential playmate and I might be a good match, I ask her to take a look at my reviews, my profile, my posts and then get back to me with any questions. I tend to do a lot of research on my own beforehand, so my confidence level is pretty high that we will probably be a good match; but this also lets her know (1) what I like and don't like, and how that might match up with her likes/dislikes (2) it also lets her know that I write reviews and that our time together will likely be the topic(s) of another review. She can then say, yes, no or get back to me with questions.

I've also found that having regulars pays additional benefits -- I've recently discussed my next 3-way with one of my recent fave regulars and asked her opinion, as she's gotten to know me well in the last few months. She was quite excited about the possibilities, we did some research together and she approached another provider about seeing us.

So not only do I have our new adventure lined up for next week (fingers crossed that all the planets align), I know that she's as excited as I am about seeing the new provider. Win/win/win for all of us!