I don't mind being used as a reference at all. I prefer on time as opposed to early, however if someone is early, I do appreciate a phone call as you did and if I'm ready...I will see you at that time. If I'm not ready, I will ask if he waits till the booked time.
I often arrive early to avoid the traffic pit-falls & risk being late. Once I have found the location, I leave & go to the corner coffee shop, paying attention to how long it takes to retrace my steps. I return & make the call from the car about 2 minutes to go.
Sitting in a car, in the parking lot draws the attention of hotel security & patroling LE. After being eyeballed by LE on my way into a hotel, I remarked to the lady who said that Security & LE had stepped up patrols due to thefts from customer's autos. (I guess a guy loitering in the lot could be waiting to steal or otherwise rob someone... or waiting for a provider... )
I try to park closer to the door on a wing exit (exit only or key card access). I enter through the main lobby but try to keep my bearings (so far, I've always been right). If I need to switch wings, I do so on an upper floor, then exit through the stair. Even with my cane, going down is easy.
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at all if a gentleman contactedd me for a reference.I have gave references and contact ladies for referencess.There are some ladies that are not reference friendly but too many of us are so just ask her.You should not feel weird at all so you decided not to repeat with the provider you saw hey maybe you have a different taste that day.Nothing offensive about that.
There is only one way to find out - ask.
As a newbie, it's even easier, just be up front and ask because you need them. But I guess the caveat I would put on it would be to only ask if you would repeat with that provider. If you feel like you would recommend her to others, odds are good the session was good enough both ways that she would do so in kind. If it was a train wreck you probably don't want her as a reference.
As one woman told me after our second session and I mentioned a reference for an upcoming business trip, she would be more than happy to be a reference - her feeling on references it's good for all providers to look out for one another and it's pretty foolish to deny someone she feels comfortable with because it's contrary to good business. Why introduce the angst, it's part of the business. What keeps me coming back is a good time, not the lack of options because she is limiting my opportunities with other providers.
You should definitely ask. Im still sorta new at this but I will deny having any knowledge of a client at all unless he has given me express consent to let anyone know he's seen me--I wouldn't want to unwittingly provide a reference to his snooping wife or someone trying to ruin his career. Call me paranoid if you want, but I have a couple of clients who appreciate the safeguard in case the steps they've taken to cover their tracks fail or they screw up.
I'm always happy to provide a reference. Not all ladies agree so asking is the best way so she doesn't get angry. This isn't your girlfriend, and as such, she's not going to get jealous you're seeing someone else. That's not always the case- but I personally think that is what makes this biz so great- leave your jealousy at the door 
As for arriving early....1 min early is probably as early as you want to be for many reasons. But the biggest is that ladies don't like to have men sitting outside their incall all the time. It's the opposite of discreet.
Good Luck!
Veronica
Once the provider has told you she will give you a reference, make sure that after you've got your next date, you give her a heads up, she'll be getting a call or email from the provider you'll be seeing. Also some providers will only give a reference if they've seen you more than once and some providers are reluctant to give refs if they haven"t seen you in a long time.
she gets an e-mail or phone request for a reference.
I would only ask for a reference from someone I repeated with, otherwise it just looks bad IMO. If you left her a good tip, then I suppose it negates that.
How we stay safe is from other providers giving ref so most would never be offended!!
early? prefer no more than 15 but it wouldnt bother a low volume provider maybe just calling first to annouce u r a few minutes early and im sure its no problem.
I agree , an email saying "Is it ok that i give your email to so n so " as i want to use u for a reference but would like your permission first. That way we have a heads up and know everything is cool. Its just a courtesy we appreciate.
First, on requesting references. Most ladies will not outwardly be offended that you are asking them to provide a reference. Sure, they may feel a tinge of disappointment (especially if she is providing a reference for another local lady) that you have decided to see someone else. But most ladies understand that hobbying is about variety and a lack of commitment by both parties. They understand the business aspect of it and that you are free to see the lady of your choice. Yes, you could run into a provider who becomes jealous or annoyed that you are seeing someone else, but that is the exception not the norm.
In terms of showing up for an appointment, I usually aim for about 5 minutes early. I have always felt in hobbying its better to be a few minutes early than late. (remember, this is not the type of party that one shows up fashionably late!) To date, no lady has ever been offended by calling a few minutes early. If they are not ready, they will simply tell you to call back or that they will call you when good to go.
I wouldn’t' call much more than 5 minutes early. Calling any earlier, in my mind, gives the impression that she should be ready at your whim and not at the appropriate session start time.
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