It's very embarrassing for me to bring up this question. I stand 5'11" and weighs 170lb. I am clean and healthy. Surely I wanna be active in this hobby but one "small" thing prevented me... To be honest with you, it's my size, only 5" long and I don't think it's not thick either. I fear a lady scoff at mine and I feel bad, by the way which actually happened with my ex-girl friend. What would you do if you happen to see mime in the session? Would it be better to spend $$$ for enlargement surgery? Of course, I want to support ladies not doctors...

EM

I'm only 4" on a good day, but the gals seem to like me just fine (The envelope doesn't hurt either.)

There are also advantages to being on the small size; for example, I sometimes get invited to the Islands even though it's not on the menu.  Also, going deep throating is not a problem with most gals.

This is one of the very last things any hobbyist has to worry about.

As a guy...  I'm no longer physically impressive & size wise you probably have me too.  It's not the size of the tool, it's how you use it.  Now, don't get a phobia about not being experienced enough.  Plenty of ladies will be will to teach you.  
Totally forget enhansement surgery...  even if it would work...  
What you need is a confidence transplant and know there is nothing more sexy than a nice guy who has the simple non-arrogent self-confidence.  
While you are at it, read up on how to pleasure a woman...  As a younger man, I was self absorbed.  NO more.  I go into any date with the attitude that I want to give as good as I get.

How old are you?  
skb

I'm around the same in size and have always been enjoyed by the ladies. Agreed allowed access in areas where size matters and always received DT. Enjoy yourself with the ladies and put off the surgery.

I love when they tell me my four incher is so big

thanks guys for all the encouraging words but... this is why i asked my question to the ladies.

i'm 32. i got out of a romantic relationship 3 mos  ago. we were not married but i thought we were happy with two kids (i mean, a dog and a cat) for 6 yrs but things went bad about a year ago. we talked less and less and at some point i found she overstepped the boundary. since i've never eyed any girl from the day one i met her i was very upset and said a whore word to her. so she got mad and then replied with very piecing remarks on my physical characteristics.

eventually i want to settle down with a nice girl and yes i know she won't complain when things are good or i have a thick wallet. but i really don't want to repeat the same experience. better fix it before too late? i am not sure... what's your take ladies?

EM

It's not the size of the boat,,,,,but the motion in the ocean!!!!!!!

And it's not how deep you fish,,,,,,but how you wiggle your worm!!!

Thank goodness, I'm told I am "Tight and Right"

I would treat you like anyone else...I have clients smaller than that and they always come back.

Size is not everything.  Personality means MUCH, MUCH more to me than anything.  I have met "large" guys that were horrible lovers and "small" guys that were wonderful lovers.  Enlargement surgery - no way - be happy w/what God gave you and be thankful you're happy and healthy.

If anyone "scoffed" at you, she's not worth the time, effort or money for that matter.  I for one, do not discriminate.

That goes for height, weight, size of your biceps, distance from your pinky to your wrist, the space between your eyes, the circumference of your big toe, or just about anything else.

Well, morbidly obese or otherwise *ahem* large have their own issues, and I'm not much for ZZ Top beards, but other than that? Don't worry about it.

Below I commented with provider preferences -- my civilian preferences are a lot more particular (which we won't go into here). However, the answer is still similar; when it comes to evaluating whether or not someone is going to be a candidate for a long-term relationship/SO, penis size ranks extremely low on my list of important qualities. Having a size/shape outside of what I consider ideal isn't as much of a deal breaker as not knowing what to do with what you've got, or having some other extreme fault like never brushing your teeth or enjoying pop-country.

Every woman's preferences are different, and I wouldn't take words said by your former SO in anger to heart. You ain't broke, so don't fix it.

Hon theres nothing wrong with you..if I saw you I would dive on you and devour you and we would both be happy as clams!

In the hobby or civie life, It really isn't that important to most of us ladies. Be nice, respectful and clean. I have way better orgasms from foreplay and daty than from the actual intercourse. Ask your partner to show you what works for her. No lady, provider or not, should scoff at the size of her man. If she does you don't need her, the bedroom won't be the only place she disrespects you.

Any professional lady isn't going to scoff at the size of your friend.  And please take into consideration that not all of us are size queens.  Ladies such as myself don't even care for large members that poke up in our throats during doggie.  Anything that beats my cervix isn't comfortable.  Not to mention, my G spot isn't 5 inches back so really anything over 3 is a waste.

What matters is how you treat us ladies.  Just be a good guy and any gal will be glad to treat you with respect (and be a little too).

Dont matter to me baby... Bring confidence with you and lets rock...

Cameron

I've noticed that most of my clients are not well-endowed.  Sometimes I wonder if that is the reason that they see providers.  So I am very surprised when I meet a client who is an "average" size.  But does it matter to me either way?  HECK NO.  People come in all shapes and sizes, and variety is the spice of life!  How boring would it be if everyone was the same?

What DOES matter: 1. Respect. and 2. Hygiene.  And a good personality is always helpful.  

It is soooooo true that it's not the size that matters, but what you do with what you've got - and be proud of it because size is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed of.

what is average? what is big? what is "get that thing away from me"?

Great advice from providers.  I'm in the 5 inch range and have never been made to feel uncomfortable about size from the providers that I've seen.  In fact, it's never even been a topic of conversation.  I believe the important thing is enjoying and pleasing each other.

I think 5- 6 is average, and around 8 is big -- my personal views.  Get that thing away from me is anything too big, 9 and over -- but only in my personal life.  I'm not built to handle a very large man, as I myself am quite small.  It simply won't fit and becomes uncomfortable.