Here is what you do. You get a VIP membership and read the reviews of a particular lady you are interested in. You will then learn what kind of session you can expect from her as far as the acronyms go. Then if you think her pricing is within your range you contact her the way she prefers. You can usually find that information from her website. No matter what form you contact her, just be sure to only keep with wanting to set up a date, don't mention anything about money or sex.

When you arrive for your date, don't discuss money or sex at all. Set your envelope on a nearby table or countertop and excuse yourself to wash your hands. Let things just happen naturally and go with the flow. A well reviewed provider will guide the session very well.

Good luck and have fun

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Take a deep breath.  You seem to be asking several questions at once and confusing yourself.  What are you trying to do that you are afraid will get you into trouble?  I think that you are conflating proscriptions against discussing services over the phone or e-mail before a session and mentioning money during the session.

Once you have discreetly placed the donation in plain sight, never mention it again.  By that point, you are in like Flynn.  Ladies expect clients to communicate their desires once you are alone together.

TER profiles and reviews will tell you what specific services a lady provides so there should be no need to ask but, as always, YMMV.

Not to be crass, but once you are in bed with the lady and things have progressed for a little while, it is more than acceptable to suggest for her to do something you want. If she wants an extra donation (such as for greek), then she will bring up $.

You should do your research to know what is, and is not, available. If you ask for BBBJ, and all she does is CBJ, then that will be a problem. If you have even more elaborate requests (kinky?), save those for the 2nd visit. Establish a comfort level first (1st visit), then you can freely discuss sex with her (she knows you are not LE).

good advice from all.

i would add that you would want to be naked before discussing anything specific.

payment alone doesnt clear you and most likely if you pay her and you start asking questions while still fully dressed, you're gonna get da boot.

Well, if you re4ad her reviews.. you will see what she is comfortable with.

Also, in the middle of the session... most providers will not worry about what is discussed and most will also ask you what you like...

Its before the appointment and before the fun begins that frank talk such as what you have mentioned is a "no, no."