First of all, I am a newbie here and I have a question about one of the lady's ad I saw online. I think her name is Barbie or something like that. I have been eyeing her for some time now and I notice that she changes her contact info almost every week. She looks hot and is one of the ladies I have been considering. Should I be worried about this? Is this an indication of someone who is constantly in trouble?

Does she have reviews on this site?
If not, I would avoid her.

Probably a bot using the same pics and different numbers that were harvested.
Or a bait and switch or something of that sort.

Whoever you plan to see, make sure she has good reviews here (or other review sites).

or tineye to verify the pictures. Top rated providers rarely change their phone #, because regular clients may have the # programmed in their cell phone. Think about it, would any legit business (and that's what escorting is) continue to change their phone #  and make it difficult for cleints to contact them.  

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I sure wish newbies were not always told to avoid anyone without reviews because there are a lot of wonderful ladies, such as myself  that CHOOSE to NOT have reviews and they should not be thought of as illegitimate, fishy or someone to avoid.  

Not wanting reviews is a personal preference and certainly is not indicative of someone with something to hide!  As you said, this is a business and everyone is entitled to run THEIR business in their own way.  I'm not an escort, I'm a FBSM provider and I've been quite successful without reviews but the close mindedness of a statement like "if she has no reviews on this site, avoid her" is bothersome.  I was using that (scary place) called BP for advertising but no longer wish to be a part of a site that is infested with questionable ads,  so I come here to post ads on the Massage Ad board...and of course there's the added benefit of reading some very entertaining posts

Nothing personal, but the world does not play by the rules of TER.  Sometimes people choose to function
as an individual and have their own set of standards.  Thanks for at least trying to be a bit more open minded!

IMHO, that is not normal provider behavior.  A quality provider wants repeat business, and changing contact info often is not making it easy for that to happen.  It doesn't necessarily mean she is in trouble a lot, but it does seem strange to me.

Use all the resources you have to verify her.  Check out her pictures with google or tineye, google her phone number if she has one.  Look for reviews somewhere, there are other review sites out there, but per TER rules, I cannot name them here.  

There are plenty of quality providers available to waste time of someone who seems a bit flakey.

Swim

sound because newbies don't have the experience to think with their big head. The provlder in question has red flags from the weekly changing of information and if you factor in 0 reviews, then it is most likely a B & S, ROB, C & D, or something similar.

Guys can get to know providers without reviews if the provider establishes a board pressence and shows a pleasant personality / attitude towards men. The young gal in her early 20's or maybe 18 or 19 that just wants to get a guy to finish fast so she can get rid of him will not last long in this biz.

PM me with your location. I would see you without reviews cause you sound sincere.

I respect your desire not to have reviews, that's your choice.   It doesn't mean you are any less reputable than a provider with dozens of reviews.   I do think it does limit your clientele, but maybe that's your desire.  Personally, I want to know something about what a provider's sessions are like from someone else's perspective.  Just reading your ads might not give me all the info I want about your offerings.  

However, new hobbyists are more likely to have bad experiences with providers that are not well-reviewed, it has happened many many times, just read their reviews.  They just didn't do their research properly, and reviews are the place to start.

This site is not the only review site, but I can't name the others.  I always recommend that they look anywhere to find providers they want to see.  Once they have made their selection, do the research and that means checking everything, reviews, pictures, phone number, etc.  No, the world does not play by the rules of TER, whatever you mean by that, but this is, I think, the largest review site, and there is nothing wrong with looking at the others also.

I'm not saying that guys should not see someone without reviews, but we have to be as vigilant in our research on providers as they do in screening us before seeing us.  The only way I would see a provider who has no reviews is by the recommendation of trusted hobby buddy or provider I know well.  It's all in the name of safety for both sides.

Swim

I absolutely understand everything you've said and all I'm trying to convey is that things cannot be so black & white when it comes to reviews. As for other peoples perspective, 100 men could have the same, or different opinion and it could still be quite different from yours.  A review never paints a completely accurate understanding because perceptions vary so much....not to mention the reviews that embellish things, for entertainment value, I'm guessing.

 Overall, I agree that you need to be cautions and not end up in a negative situation. I get that because I screen for the same reasons.  I think maybe I'd feel better about the reviews if they didn't present each woman as a non human being.  Pertinent info such as: 1) were her photos accurate, 2) did she make any effort to accommodate you 3) was her place clean or did it look like a crack shack? 4) was she worth the time and expense? These are things that really matter and all the other details just have a way of cheapifying (is that even a word?!) the woman and the experience.

Maybe it's my Catholic upbringing (yes, poor me!) but I feel as though there should always be an element of privacy when discussing relations between two people in the bedroom.  I'm not here to offend anyone but I'm offering my option from my perspective and I do believe that both parties have the right to be respected.

Don't get me wrong about not being an open-minded person.

I respect your decision to not have reviews written about yourself.
There are lots of under the radar (UTR) girls who are the same way, whether they are FS or massage providers, or even both.

The only problem with girls who are UTR without reviews is that they heavily rely on word of mouth and recommendations from other hobbyists or providers. Usually a well-known provider will bring in a friend who is new to the hobby, show her the ropes, and only allow certain clients she has seen before to see her friend.

Not having reviews does not automatically mean the lady is untrustworthy and not worth seeing. As mentioned by Swim, a seasoned hobbyist may be wary of "taking one for the team" and will wait for hobbyists he can trust to do so.

from guys who PAY to read reviews on the women they want to see. You have said more than once you don't want reviews and that's fine, but men are not going to start encouraging other guys especially newbies to see women who have no way of proving they are legit. You made a choice not to have reviews, so you have to deal with what comes with that. Men are here to read and write reviews and use them for research. Like it or not, that is just the way it is. If two women who provide the very same service with the same rate are his options and one has a 2 year review history, guess who is the safer option?

You also bring up that reviews are not reliable...honey, maybe not 5 or 10, but a few years worth of consistent reviews shows a lot about a provider and how she looks and performs. The ONLY things in reviews that are subjective are looks really. You can't really dispute if she did or did not offer a bbbj, cim, or greek so yes, it is that black and white if a guy is looking for specific services at a certain rate.

remove ALL past info from the web, and send a warning to only guys on her mailing list if she even has one. I can't see any legit provider changing her info more than once or twice over a year. Since 2008, the only thing I changed was removing a phone number completely from the net, and my website went from .com to .net.

Some girls are paranoid like that.  Doesn't really mean much on the surface, but something more may be going on.

Why don't you just ask her?