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Question : Post Initial Call
DavidLeee 3277 reads
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OK, picture this scenario...

Highly reviewed provider.
Excellent feedback.
Reviewers with lots of reviews.

First call made and no background check.  Opinions?  Thoughts?

Thanks in advance.

I'm new to the hobby but the providers I have seen all checked first. Perhaps when the appointment arrives you will encounter it. If or when you see her gently remind her that sooner or later this behavior may catch up with her.. Good luck and be safe..

From the information you provided, she looks like the real deal.  But she is careless.  If you visit her keep your eyes open as you near her incall.  If she does not use better sense, she will get busted, you don't want to get caught up in that event.

Would avoid - the ONLY time a provider may not do any background check or verification for new client is if they have been personally recommended by another lady, or she met you at local function such as a meet and greet...
Steer clear - NOT a good sign at all.

Why take a chance.  Lots of excellent providers out there who do an excellent "2 minute" drill, and I like the questions and work -- all a part of the experience and getting to know the other half of the equation.....

PASS until you get more experience under your belt.

As I read it he made a call and she didn’t give you any questions about screening. OK… I have spoken to gentlemen and never started grilling them on their first call to me.

I usually explain a little about myself and invite them to check out my web site. I suggest what flexibility I might have in the next week or two and then encourage them to send me some information about themselves. (*I have a form that has basic questions on my website to help any gentleman who might be at a loss for what I might want to know about him*)

As I read the post the gentleman said he called her and she didn’t do any screening. I just want to inject that not all providers will start grilling someone as soon as they contact her. (*I don’t waste my time or his giving him the third degree and asking for specifics until I am sure I want to establish a level of comfort to consider setting up a meeting*)

Most of the gentlemen commenting here seem to be of the impression that the provider has agreed to a meeting without getting any background on the gentleman… and I agree, that is not a positive situation to be in. (*Just remember if she isn’t screening you then she could very likely not be screening anyone else*)

However, if you spoke with her and she said something along the lines of I appreciate your call I have flexibility Wednesday & Thursday of this week and on next Monday…. If you would like to send an email to my private account we can discuss a possible meeting…. Then she just will probably explain via email what she needs to establish a level of comfort.

Caution is a very good path to take but don’t jump too quickly to misunderstand manners in the interest of respecting you as a human being with ignorance and carelessness. She could very well be intending to calmly move through the steps needed to facilitate a meeting… Just my thoughts  Kisses ~Tori

dreamweaver72391 reads

posting on a Newbie board that a red light situation exists if in fact the entire date, etc. was agreed upon without any level of screening.  So the replies need not be taken as slams on the lady but warnings to someone who may be a novice.

Very good points Tori... Perhaps we made a little rush to judgement... Someone with great reviews and a long history may very well wait for a second contact to ask more questions... But I think you understand that we all were just looking out for the guy and no harm was intended.... I sit corrected.. Happy Holidays

I still consider myself a newbie. One of the first calls I made was to a popular and highly reviewed provider on this sight. I was honest and forthright in providing any details and info in my email. When she called it was very friendly and personable. In fact I felt like I was offering up a lot of info, when she confided that she wanted to get a vibe of me on the phone compared to the emails -- which offset her usual norm of further checks. Made it a comfortable experience. My opinion maybe she was ok with you on the phone enough? Just guessing.

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