If a provider wants to meet in a public place prior to the appointment is there anything I should be concerned about? In my case the provider told me we might meet at a coffee shop or something like that. She has some reviews and is independent.
I'm wondering if there might be some kind of driver-type upsale or something.
I assume this would be just a safe way for the provider to disappear if she decides to say no at the last moment without giving up her location. Do you think I'm on the right track here?
Meeting in public first is atypical unless it's a dinner date or someting like that.. I personally would not feel comfortable with this if I was the girl OR the guy, but that's me... Is the incall at her private residence? That *might* explain her being extra cautious...
I've tried to set something up with a couple ofgals who did things this way. Both had good reviews and it was going to be a simple matter of meeting them at a coffee shop near my hotel. Neither one happened but it had nothing to do with their request.
On the surface I thought it was a bit weird but, as long as I felt the gal was legit, I would go for it.
I don't do this myself, though know a few ladies who like to get a face to face gut feel for you before getting more comfortable. Usually though it is intended to segue into the date itself.
I've done this with several ladies. It's usually no more than meeting in the hotel bar for a drink, and making some small talk. Some ladies use it as a "gut-check" element, to complete the screening process. I do know a lady that's ended things at that point (she caught the guy in a lie), but I think it's rare.
In Las Vegas, where many hotels have security stationed at elevators, it's also helpful to have the registered guest get you past the guard.
When a guy wants to meet up beforehand for the exact same purposes, the provider will usually balk at the idea. I can think of a few good reasons why they wouldn't want to do that. I wouldn't question the provider's motives when they do this regularly. For us, it's basically a gift (if it's off the clock of course).
I haven't heard of it being done that often, but if she's well reviewed, and this arrangement shows up in her other reviews, then I might be open to it.
I've done one meeting with a provider in a public setting, at the lobby bar of the hotel I was staying. I found it to be mildly erotic to get a very attractive woman come by and sit right next to me and start chatting up, have her hand on my knee and so forth.
We then went to a restaurant before retiring to my room in the hotel.
Most other times (some 3+ hr meetings), I've gone out with the provider for dinner. I found that to be quite pleasant. That's more of the GFE that I personally desire.
IOW, FS means getting through 3rd base for a home-run. GFE means some conversation and doing GFE things like dining or maybe a show or a movie (although I think that would be a rather expensive use of our time, especially if the movie sucked or, contrarily, if the movie is really good: can't get frisky in the theater if the movie's too engaging).
In sum, I think public meeting is perfectly fine. I would much prefer that to coming to my room or vice-versa. Some ladies have a problem showing their presence in public, thinking they have this "WHORE" sign on their back or something. I can't tell.
... as much as they want to make sure they have a comfortable rapport with a person in private, BEFORE agreeing to go out to dinner with him etc... What if, for example, the person showed up for the meeting really DRUNK... or was otherwise behaving like a jerk? In the privacy of the girl's hotel room she could politely just ask him to leave without having to have that conversation in front of a room full of people.
Every provider does what they feel comfortable with. There is no right or wrong answer on this one, I don't think...
I have met a lady at a nearby coffee shop. I did not know the area & it was easy to find. On both occasions, I followed her to her location.
I have had a lady give me directions that took me around the block to park on the other side... but she was able to view the call site from her side window.
I called one lady from the hotel lot entrance. She said "I can not see you." When I told her where I was, she said to pull around where she could see me (from her room)...
If she is well reviewed, I don't see any risk in it. Just be a gentleman & do not discuss money or activities (or she'll figure you for LE & walk). skb
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