I'm new to this hobby so I have a few questions that I hope a provider or an experienced hobbyist can help me with.

1) I've seen a lot of providers put preferences in their ads, like mature gentleman preferred, I am wondering if it's a deal breaker if I don't fit in these preferences. I mean they are just preferences right?

2) as far as grooming goes will a simple trim just do or is shaved necessary/preferred?

3) what is the proper way to ask if something is on a providers menu?

Thanks!

Many girls have minimum age restrictions with 35 proly being the most common. Every girl is different in how they enforce their rules. If you are 32, 33, I don't think she is going to check your ID lol. But if you are 24, that's too much of a stretch for many of them but not always.

When I was younger and I ran up against that, I would send all my verification info and explain that I liked women older than myself and most ladies say I am more mature than your average "X" year old. Some ladies will be convinced by that and others wont. Don't push it though.

As for hair, the general consensus is the least the better, for obvious reasons but p4p gals are use to seeing many different styles of grooming down there and will go along but just make sure your hygiene, in any case, is 100% on target.

No real right way to ask about menu as that will get you hung up on or not responded to. We get those things from the reviews so get VIP here if you don't already have it. After you have your first session/round with her, during pillow talk time, most will not have any problem discussing sex acts for round 2 or for a later date. Some will allow this type of talk after verification and before you meet up, but that can be hit or miss.  

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In my case, I do have a "preference" of older guys. It is a nice way of saying if you are young, I am not interested. feel free to keep emailing the lady and trying to see if she will make an exception for you. However, do not be surprised if you don't get an answer.

As for your personal grooming, do what is most comfortable for you. Trimming excess hair is always appreciated and coughing up a stray pube is not sexy.

Read her reviews. Not a good idea to put "do you let a finger in your butt" in an email? most ladies will simply delete it. This is an illegal industry and asking leading illegal questions in an intro email is frowned upon. Not saying some won't answer them but they could be cops setting you up.

If a lady states in her add that she prefers "mature" gentleman or men over 40, etc., it's not necessarily a deal breaker if you are in your 30's. There are few reasons why ladies may prefer "older men". One could be her perceived notion that mature men understand the hobby process and are less likely to cause the lady problems (before, during or after the session). Two, they may believe they are more intellectually compatible with older gentlemen and have more in common. Or the lady may prefer a slower pace that most (not all) mature men enjoy. Sometimes younger men (again not all) might just be there to get laid and try to cum four times in the hour.  

Obviously, these statements are mere assumptions that don't fit every hobbyist. Of course, there are immature 55 year old men who are complete jerks and 25 year old men wise beyond their youth. So as always, age is just a number. If you see an add and you do not fit the ladies age requirement, then just ask her if she is willing to see you. She can only say no. But chances are if you present yourself in a mature and professional manner, you'll be able to get an appointment.

2. Shaving or a trim is nice, though not necessary. I am sure providers love a smooth surface! However, there are many attached hobbyists....most prob. couldn't get away with a shaved cock w/o their spouse or significant other noticing.  

3. There is no proper way to ask for services ahead of time. Providers are adverse to discuss any specific sex acts prior to a session. That is what the reviews are for. Read them carefully and see what services are offered. If the lady is well reviewed and you don't see any hobbyist mention that they partook in a particular endeavor (i.e. Greek) then most likely it is not offered. Also understand that not all services are offered to all hobbyists. (i.e. she may not partake in Greek if you have a large cock) Not fair, but that's life. So if you have read the reviews and a service is mentioned, then you know its possible for the lady to perform it with you. Ask during the session. If she says no, forget about it. Start the process again with a new lady.

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Thanks everyone for the information.
I, unfortunately, am on the wrong side of 30 so finding a provider may be a bit difficult.
Especially since I'm into older women for probably the same reason providers seem to favor more mature hobbyist.
Hopefully someone will give me a chance as I consider myself more mature than my age would suggest.

to your questions.  I'll give you the short version.

1)  Maybe, but if you do not act like a mature classy gent, you will not get a date.

2)  Depends on the lady.

3)  Get TER VIP and read the details in her reviews.  If you are not sure, PM some of the reviewers.

When I want to know if a provider will see me I usually have no choice but to email her to ask before I go ahead and possibly waste both her time & mine filling out a screening form. So far I have gotten a very favorable response rate. Yes I can see if you hound a provider with multiple emails/texts about her criteria you will wind up being ignored. But I would hope that most providers would be courteous enough to reply to a sincere email that is just asking a question, especially if the answer isn't obvious to the hobbyist. So far I have only had a few cunts....err I mean "ladies" who have ignored my simple inquiry.

The absolute best thing you can do for your self right now is  to learn how to research who you want to see and start seeing some ladies with positive reviews. Right now your reviews are working against you. Before I get jumped on for trying to train a newbie, let me say I'm not talking about seeing high dollar ladies or to stop writing honest reviews. But looking at the review history of the ladies you've reviewed so far, it's easy to see why you've had a less than stellar experiences.

Are you a VIP yet? If not become one and check a lady's previous reviews before booking. It should save you some additional disappointment!

Don't be in a hurry right now, be careful with your hard earned money. If you are going to use BP, make sure these ladies have at least decent reviews here on TER if not don't see them. Toffting for Newbies is not a wise choice.

If you end up with more reviews where you weren't happy-even if rightly so, it's just going to make it even harder to get a date with a lady you will really have a good time with. Think with your big head.

As far as the age thing goes, maybe a lady in her mid 30s will see you. I know you say you prefer more mature ladies and I can certainly appreciate that, lol. But right now what you need is to work hard at seeing some ladies who will make solid references for you. The way I see it for you right now based on your reviews is there is nowhere but up for you it this point.

Best of luck and I hope your next experience is a much better one for you...

Steph xoxo

Thanks for the advice Steph!
As I said earlier I'm still quite new at this which is probably what has led me to unsatisfactory results.
Because of said encounters I've decided to be more thoughtful in my next choice and thus have been researching providers with positive reviews.
I will take your advice under consideration.
Thanks again!

And keep us posted on your first good experience with a lady.

Steph xoxo