I'm new, and I  keep reading  about the importance of screening, but not exactly how to do it...
Thanks for any help you can give me, ladies!

Beyond that, your best bet is to invite a local lady for lunch to ask for some advice.  Select one that you admire who is known for good screening practices.  Heck, do this with several ladies.

Many of us are leery of puting our "exactly how to do it" online.  It defeats the purpose of what we do to tell people how we do it.  One-on-one you'll get much better info.

And heck, you may make a good friend and professional contact or two!
: )

xoxo,
S.

I hope that the great ladies of TER will help you out.
As a gentleman, I want to always protect my lady friends and posting on a public forum would only encourage creeps from trying to defeat the techniques.  
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Joining one or more of the verification sites. (Date-Check, Preferred411) I encourage the new guys to join, but it's a very good tool for the ladies as well. They work especially well for those of us who travel.

Ok...newbie doesn't begin to express my newness...but is it kosher to invite a lady to lunch even though we're not talking about "business?"

Hey Hungry: I have P411 and in theory it sounds like a great service!  But every provider I have tried to contact through p411...over half of the prividers will not even return a email to me, and the ones that return my "requests" ask me for all the info that I have ALREADY posted on my profile thru the p411 website!  Keep up the Good work

In anything, it does not work 100% but to your first problem, look at their last log in date, if their last longin was in January, they either stop using P411 or verify themselves.
Also you always want to make certain that the person e-mailing you is the person making a request...a easy way just ask.  But think about it, a popular "showcase" provider may get 50 requests a day, do you really expect her to read everyone? P411, Date-Check, RS2k is like our country, is not perfect but it better than what we had before...hope it not the cop om the other side of an incall

In the first place, don't talk to me like I run the fucking site. It's always worked for me.

In the second place, consider what you are putting into the text part of the request. A proper introduction is always appreciated by the ladies.

In the third place, try not using the form at all. Instead, try sending an email and include your membership number. It's a lot more personal.

Now, I guess I'll go and "keep up the good work".

Thanks Wizard: I understand what you are saying and I didn't think to look and their "Last log in date" Thats why I got it so it would make it easier for the provider to look up my info-instead of them looking up all the info(but I'm a noob..what do I know!)Also I look for a provider that hasn't "Been around the block" a billion times and that could be my downfall also(they are inexperienced also??)

I never  talked to you like I run this site ..I even told you I'm a Noob yesterday...That why I'm here!! And I'll try to use a "Proper introduction"  and I have used email if they have it posted including my "Client Number"
I'm just tryin to get info here...not for people to assume that I "run this site"
I said "Keep up the good work because you gave me very Good Info yesterday...That is all...What else was I suppose to say??
You don't have to kick me out of this chat room because I will Stay out of here and I will look for the Real Newbie chat room!

I know its difficult to see what is what here as well as in making a proper request...yet think b4 you type.
The term "been around the block a million times" is I believe you said, that implies a rude additude.
Many are low volume even though we have been in this biz a while. I'd prefer to see it as more experienced, not worn out as you have implied.

Don't be so quick to judge. Along with experience comes wisdom and knowledge on many different levels. This is a business that the more experience you have the more you have experienced encounters with many different men, and have more understandings and deeper compassions for your clients.  So really its not always as it seems.

TER is the best place for you to find the tools and info you need to get what it is you seek.
You will not get this level of help or information any place else. Just think b4 you type is all.

A lady like myself who offers lunch dates will expect to be paid for the time.  There are ladies who offer social-time meet and greets, often at a lower rate.  There are even ladies who require unpaid meet and greets as part of their screening.

Do not ask for something a lady does not offer, and expect to follow her rules (and rates) if you ask for something that she does offer.

I can understand the more "personal" approach, however for any ladies reading the suggestion of accepting client ID's via email -- I do not suggest this.  You want to be sure the ID belongs to the person contacting you.  I only book appointments with P411 clients who contact me directly through P411.  If he sends an initial email with his ID that is fine, but he must follow it with contact through P411 as well.  I use this same approach with Date-Check ID's.

You noted that on your website and again on P411 comments, instrutions is the key.  The problem is that many providers do not and it a guessing game on what is acceptable.  

But some people have to ask, it human nature ot stupidity.

I owned a store once near a boardwalk, and the sign said "YOU MUST WEAR A SHIRT,"  in the dining area.  Everyday, someone would ask "Do I have to wear a Shirt"