" I have since texted her back and have offered her cash if she needs."
Why?
There is an inexpensive book that might help you get some insight for why you would do that, "Congantive Behavior Therapy for Dummies".
"I even offered to buy her something and have it shipped to her, i just don't always have time to drive and see her."
Why?
"She has declined this and says she just wants someone to talk too."
You may have lucked out if it would be harder for you to say no to requests for something from you after having already given something.
"Now I don't know what to do, I still want to continue seeing her and paying her for sex because its great, but i don't want the everyday nuisance of the texts."
Why not be honest? Consider tellering her you are flattered she enjoys talking with you, that your ego is boosted by her texting. BUT You really do not enjoy writing or texting--it's a chore for you since it is part of your every day work requirements. The same holds true for talking on the phone.
It's like an ice cream taster not wanting ice creame for desert.
One of the reasons you value your time with her so highly is that it obliterates any trigers about being at work.
You will never know if "great sex" can be any better if you are unwilling to find out.
"Also what is this girl really getting at?"
Even if you could answer that question with 100% certainty, what does that have to do with your life?
"I would say she is just an amateur at the profession,.."
OK. So What?
".. but like i said before she has over 50 reviews with 90% of them being good."
Ok. So What?
Get up in the morning, do the best you can. Look for ways to change your self, "You can't change other people."--Dr. Phil
"Don't eat the yellow snow."--Frank Zappa
"The only difference between The Bloods and The CRIPS and The Democrats and The Republicans is that Bloods and CRIPS cannot make their corruption and racketering legal." Tex Antwan
I recently have been seeing a provider who has over 50 Reviews on this site. I'm 27 years old and I'm at the stage where I just got out of a long relationship and rather pay for good sex rather than to try and get into another relationship and have to work for it. I have seen this provider 3 times so far and want to continue seeing her in the future. We do have good conversation when we meet, but then all good providers know how to treat a client, it's their job. Since then she has given me her number and I made the mistake of texting her once after my visit to thank her for a good time. Since then she has been texting me on a daily basis. I'm a realist and figured she just wants more money or to gain more business from me. I have since texted her back and have offered her cash if she needs. I even offered to buy her something and have it shipped to her, i just don't always have time to drive and see her. I told her I can send money via wire or Paypal. She has declined this and says she just wants someone to talk too. Now I don't know what to do, I still want to continue seeing her and paying her for sex because its great, but i don't want the everyday nuisance of the texts. Also what is this girl really getting at? I would say she is just an amateur at the profession, but like i said before she has over 50 reviews with 90% of them being good. Any advice would be much appreciated.
" I have since texted her back and have offered her cash if she needs."
Why?
There is an inexpensive book that might help you get some insight for why you would do that, "Congantive Behavior Therapy for Dummies".
"I even offered to buy her something and have it shipped to her, i just don't always have time to drive and see her."
Why?
"She has declined this and says she just wants someone to talk too."
You may have lucked out if it would be harder for you to say no to requests for something from you after having already given something.
"Now I don't know what to do, I still want to continue seeing her and paying her for sex because its great, but i don't want the everyday nuisance of the texts."
Why not be honest? Consider tellering her you are flattered she enjoys talking with you, that your ego is boosted by her texting. BUT You really do not enjoy writing or texting--it's a chore for you since it is part of your every day work requirements. The same holds true for talking on the phone.
It's like an ice cream taster not wanting ice creame for desert.
One of the reasons you value your time with her so highly is that it obliterates any trigers about being at work.
You will never know if "great sex" can be any better if you are unwilling to find out.
"Also what is this girl really getting at?"
Even if you could answer that question with 100% certainty, what does that have to do with your life?
"I would say she is just an amateur at the profession,.."
OK. So What?
".. but like i said before she has over 50 reviews with 90% of them being good."
Ok. So What?
Get up in the morning, do the best you can. Look for ways to change your self, "You can't change other people."--Dr. Phil
"Don't eat the yellow snow."--Frank Zappa
"The only difference between The Bloods and The CRIPS and The Democrats and The Republicans is that Bloods and CRIPS cannot make their corruption and racketering legal." Tex Antwan
Was volunteering to buy her something and send her money. She has problems money can't fix. You should have not responded to the first text that signaled something was wrong with her emotionally.
She doesn't have any friends she can talk to? Really?
Stop trying to save the provider/client relationship.....you really think it's going to be worth it in the long run? Not a chance.
to talk to." That's all well & good... if it suits you. It seems that it makes you uneasy.
Only answer texts you want to. Do not offer her money or gifts... It makes you look like a "mark" & someone will exploit you.
The number of reviews means nothing... you might look at what time span her reviews are over. She might be burned out or lonely. Providers as well as hobbiests lead a double life... with things they can not share with family & friends. Providers in particular might feel isolated from her peers because she spends her days behind closed doors with strangers who she will not interact with in civie life. I'm not qualified to look into her motivation.
Many of us are indeed 'friends' with our Favoirite providers... or 'friendly aquaintances'... But it is not required & carries more risks.
In the end MrFisher is right... only return her texts when you want to.
That she is just lonely and likes talking socially. Personally, I see nothing wrong with this, but you have to draw your own boundaries.
is fine but she's NOT your GF. You are not her BF. You don't have a relationship outside of P4P (Pay for Play). Texts are 'demanding'... people are used to instant replies, unlike email which is in batches when you do mail. It seems you don't want a deeper relationship... not knowing her, there may be good reasons not to... I would not answer all of them or only answer the ones you want to, when you want to.