Not a provider, but I've had similar experiences and the most important takeaway lesson I've learned is that I can't *generate* chemistry. It's either present or it's not; if it's not present, then the best we can hope for is a competent professional session.

Rather like shopping -- sometimes you get a salesperson who is truly into doing a superior job and you both "click," the result being a memorable experience where you both get what you wanted -- but something took it to the next level and made it an experience.

Other times, you get someone who is competent and gets the job done -- but no chemistry, no connection, it's just another day on the job.

Lord forbid, some days it's someone who is just there for the hourly check and has a crappy attitude. I usually walk out of the store at that point, regardless of how attractive the price might be -- I's rather pay a little extra and have an *experience*.

I'm not a provider but I can tell you that they notice and care about dress, especially shoes.

Don't wear sneakers and make sure your footwear is in good shape.

Women spend loads of energy and time in selecting their own shoes.  Do you think that they would not be concerned with ours?

Just wondering if you are scheduling a little extra time to sit a visit a bit and develop some rapport before jumping right into things.  Sometimes, a session can seem more "mechanical," if we realize a guy only has a little time, and we don't want to take up his time being overly chatty.  However, I find just sitting and talking for a few minutes, cuddling in close while he tells me about his day, his background, his job, his travels (if he is from out of town), or sitting and catching up with a regular if I haven't seen him for a while can really turn us both on.  A little conversation, maybe a little bit of wine or even a non-alcoholic beverage, can lead into some soft kisses and things can happen more naturally from there.  

I have had some guys walk in my room, walk over to the bed, start undressing, folding his clothing up and putting it over the chair and just hop right into bed, like "here I am!"  Most likely an experienced hobbyist who wants to forego the chit chat.

But I have found that those who truly do want to build some chemistry, even five to ten minutes of sitting and kicking back with our feet up, talking and laughing a bit can lead to good things.

Other things that help can be asking for a shower when you get there. Sometimes I join my guys in the shower. Washing one anothers' backs is a real ice breaker and not "mechanical."

I am not fussy about what my guy is wearing as long as his clothing is clean and his hygiene is excellent.  I don't always answer the door in heels.  Most often, in fact, I am walking around in bare feet unless otherwise requested to wear some fancy shoes (of course this applies to incall only).  

I am not sure if any of the above has been tried or even makes sense to you, but I thought I would throw out some ideas that work for me.

Good luck, and have fun!

Angie
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some of the most effective things you can do happen before you meet.

Assuming it's a provider on here, read what she posts.  Does she talk about non-work things that match your interests?  And comments she made that you thought "I like the way that one things!"  Email her with a bit more than "Hi, can I see you at 7 PM?".  Tell her about your interests (non-sexual things), see how she responds:  a 2 word "that's nice", or something more.  Not talking a volume, but a couple sentences.  Personalities generally don't change dramatically from posts to in person.

Won't guarantee chemistry but it increases the odds.