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post a review without her permission?
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I met my first provider last month and we had a wonderful time. In my euphoria, I posted a glowing review. She deserved it and I was thinking it would help her business.
Now that I think about it, though, I wonder if I should have asked her permission before I posted. Is it common for guys to write reviews without asking their provider if that is something she would welcome?
There is just so much about this hobby that I haven't figured out yet. Any advice would be appreciated

There's nothing in your review that appears offensive in any way, and IMHO it's never wrong to review someone in a service industry, unless they specifically ask you not to.  I see that she has 2 reviews, so it apparently isn't a problem.  The provider has the option of asking TER to remove them if she doesn't want reviews.  This is primarily a review site, so you're in the right place.

You may have not done as much to help her as you think.  With her 2 reviews, and you having just the one, most people won't put a lot of stock in what you say just yet.  On the flip side, you need your first before you can get to your 2nd, etc.  It sounds like you had a great time, and that's what REALLY matters.  Welcome aboard.

This is a topic that has come up a few times, and opinions vary. Here are some thoughts on to ask or not to ask, and other related questions.

First off, if you feel you should ask first, then by all means do. There is no such thing as being too polite. I strongly suggest however, that if you ask a lady her preference, wait until AFTER the session. Otherwise, whatever occurs after you mention your willingness to write a review is less likely to be a "typical" session for her. It both makes her feel pressured to be at her best, and may also result in giving a false impression to other gentlemen who later read your glowing account of your tryst.

Second, if a lady already has reviews, it is safe to assume she is probably aware of them and has no objections. If she objects to having reviews she is free to contact TER to have them removed, and since that hasn't happened, she probably has no objections.

If a lady has no reviews, and the experience you had with her was a positive one, then I do believe it would be considerate to ask her first. Without any reviews, it may be that she has never heard of TER, or that she discourages reviews from being written about her.

If the experience was a bad one, then don't worry about it at all. Don't ask her, just write an objective review of your experience for the benefit of the community. One word of advice though, if it was a bad experience, you might want to wait a few weeks before actually submitting the review. There have been a few cases where providers have attempted to harass members because they were not happy with the review they recieved. By putting some time between the encounter and the review, it is more difficult for her to know who exactly wrote the review.

Finally, one last piece of advice. If you see a lady and recieved a service that her website or profile indicates is not offered, out of respect for her, keep those details to yourself. Sometimes you may encounter a lady with whom you really hit it off, and that translates into an experience above and beyond what other gentlemen may recieve. Some ladies prefer to have those details kept private so that it remains their choice when and with whom they offer those extras.

Some men may disagree with me, but those are my thoughts on the subject. Happy hobbying :o)

and your session was a 10, she was a 10 or something like that... honor her request.  I have had the honor of meeting providers via referral only - and they WANT to maintain a low profile, and ask that no reviews are done on them.  Chances are, that if you do see a provider who is a referral or UTR, she is going to exceed expectations in the session anyway.

just curious, i started thinking when i was posting a response on this thread- what happens if you have a bad session and the lady asks you not to write about it?

has that ever happened to anyone?

or is it pretty safe to assume that if its a bad session she doesn't really care about reviews to begin with?

Personally if it was a ripoff/b&s or anything along those lines I would post.... otherwise, I guess I would not..... does that seem right?


I do not think you have to get permission from a provider to post a review. However, I have had providers who have asked me not to post any reviews. (they wanted to maintain a low profile) I feel these requests you should ALWAYS honor. Respect works both ways.

Thanks for all the great advice, everyone! I really appreciate the warm, community atmosphere that exists on the discussion boards. It's like having a whole troupe of older brothers and sisters! A star in the crown of everyone who shepherds us new people!

Your review wasnt graphic at all so you shouldn't worry.....

Next time, the best thing to do is ask if you're worried- some ladies are cool with reviews while others choose to avoid them for different reasons- (i.e.  they want to keep a low profile or services are reviewed that she doesn't offer which leads to bad feelings)

Bottom line- you lose nothing by asking....

If the lady already has a ton of reviews, then I usually don't like to post a review but if its been a while since she's had a recent review then I would definitely post (haven't had to so far)

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